Do you want to know the real reason why men give up sex? It’s not what you think.
So you’re in relationship with a guy, or you’ve been in a relationship with a man, and he stops giving you sex. All of a sudden it just dries up and dies. (The sex.) So what does a woman usually do in this situation? Women usually do a couple of different things, and what they do is usually ridiculous.
They create a story inside their head because they talk to their other women friends, and their other women friends will say that he must be cheating or must be having an affair. So now that seed is planted in a woman’s brain.
So what’s the next thing she does? She’ll start looking around the house for affair notes or anything she can. She becomes a CSI investigator. Oh, yeah. She’s looking for affair fingerprints anywhere she can possibly find them. If she can, she’ll grab his cell phone and go through all of his text messages and try to find something that’s incriminating—even if it’s to one of his buddies.
She’ll dig through the phone book and see if there’s any new people in there. Then she’ll go for the e-mail. Yeah, there’s got to be something in that e-mail account that they have. Yeah, I’m going to find it. That’s what Tiger Woods’ wife did—she found an email. They’ll look through and they’ll just click on any e-mail from a woman. There’s got to be a woman in there somewhere. Got to find it. And what do they find? They always find an email to a woman, and then they create a story based on the email that they found.
Oh, and the story she tells her friends afterwards is always really great. “I found an e-mail to a woman. Yeah, you should see it. They were being nice to each other in there!” Because men and women can’t be nice to each other unless there’s a penis and a vagina involved, right? What’s really crazy is that these women go into CSI investigation mode while the answer to all their problems is right in the mirror.
The real reason why most men stop having sex with their girlfriends or their wives is because they’re not emotionally connecting. That’s right. We’re emotional creatures too. We like to emotionally connect. We need it, especially the men that are wired with more foreplay—emotional, mental, and physical—in mind.
It’s never what you think. It really isn’t. The last thing a guy in that situation is really thinking about is a fling. A fling? Yea, that’s exactly what he wants: to bring another woman into his life and really complicate things even more. Right.
So the next time you suspect your man of cheating or having a fling, ask yourself, “What is my man really about? How does my man like to feel? Is my man an emotional guy?” Maybe he’s just reaching out to other people, communicating with people, friends, family, whatever it might be, to try to figure out how to salvage the relationship.
We don’t think with our penises ladies!…all the time. We tend to really also think with our hearts, and sometimes when our heart is broken, we don’t want to repair it through physical attention from another woman. We want to repair it through conversation, through healing, through getting better.
The next time you suspect your man of cheating, consider that maybe he’s a little deeper than you thought he was.
Just go cheat and don’t ever tell us about it! lol We’re not going to try to get you to talk! lol Won’t ever work! lol
I’ve now listened to a gazillion hours of what these PUAs tell guys! (hee hee) OMG! Whatever! I am not any of the types of girls that they say! lol I’m one of each type for every day of the week! lol According to their b.s., I’m the Hopeless Romantic! WHATEVER!! lol I gave up hope today! lol Only problem is…is I always bring it back tomorrow! lol The last thing my family would describe me as is “Hopeless Romantic”! lol
I’m not doing that ever again!! lol I’m #1 now! I shine! They be quiet! lol I’m going to have to be alone! lol
So I’ve been thinking about how I could grow up with only tons of brothers and we were best friends and yet I can’t understand guys AT ALL!! (all along I thought I did since they think the same as girls, right? lol) So the way that it worked with them is I had to always put myself 2nd, be quiet and let them shine and then I looked at what all of the dating info says and it’s the same thing!
They need a manual that tells the type of guys that there are like they have of women!! This is hilarious!! My mom is “The Connoisseur” but these guys really don’t know this type!! lol This is “The Superwoman”!! lol This totally explains her and her TERRIBLE lol advice that totally doesn’t fit me!! lol It’s like, when I ask her about her relationship, it’s like, “oh, we were both so busy working the E.R.!” I’m like, huh?!? lol Apparently this is a real turn-on for this type! lol
Hmmm…they say the Hopeful Romantic is attracted to tough guys and then they put that the way to connect with her is to tell her that you’ve had your heart broken by a girl! Ummm…then we see you as weak and are turned off!! lol Wimpy! lol This HOTTTT drug addict/drug dealer (he was a rich kid-Not the street ones lol)/tattoo covered/buzz cut/did a year in prison/24/7 excitement & suspense lol gave me that line and I was like, pffff…wuss lol He’s weak! lol But I still love him the most! So maybe it does work! lol
Good thing they didn’t put, “this type is THE most gullible and will believe anything”! lol Unless, “this type is the easiest to manipulate” gives it away! lol
omg! These PUA con artists that use women are such schmucks! lol I just wanna go up and slug them in the face! lol
This makes me think of something a guy said to me recently. I have a guy friend who recently told me that on a weekend his wife went out at 10:00 pm on a Saturday night and told him she was going out with friends and would be home around 4:00 am. That alone is disturbing, yet he says everything but the sex in the relationship is fine. I tend to doubt that. I really didn’t know what to say to him. It seems to me that lack of sex in the marriage is probably not the only problem, isn’t it usually a symptom of bigger problems? I did not know what to say to him and I did not want to pry into his personal life.
If the man I am in a relationship with is suppose to be a grown up, he should talk to the person he is in a relationship with and not going to outside of the relationship.
So, the woman is suppose to responsible for the well being of her man and get him to open up to her when he obviously is not seeing that as a option in this case.
SIGH…..People need to learn how to communicate.