Has this ever happened to you?

You start seeing a man. He’s attractive, sexy, and you get on well together most the time. The trouble is, sometimes he has a really bad attitude. He can be rude and he’s even managed to upset your friends a couple of times. You’d love the relationship to work out, but you’re not sure if it will. You feel like his attitude is going to become too much for you.

Then one night you’re sitting there, and you look at him. He’s a very sexy man. You start to become aroused, and before you know it he’s thrown you down on the bed and you’re having amazing sex. Now you think, “Wow, I love this man so much. I think I want to be with him forever. I could love him till the day I die.”

In the throes of passion, you forget all the fights you’ve had over the past couple of weeks. You forget about the times he’s upset your friends. And you don’t think about his attitude issues. You mind blocks the whole lot out. Why?

Because you’re succumbing to the power of Oxytocin. It feels almost like a drug doesn’t it? Do you know why?

Because Oxytocin IS a drug!

Are you really in love with this guy? Yes. Could you really spend your whole life with this guy? Yes. In the middle of the amazing sex you’re having with him, you could. But you need to beware. You’re under the influence of a very powerful drug, and you mustn’t fool yourself. 

You see, it’s no different to smoking a joint. It’s no different to snorting cocaine. And it’s no different to injecting heroin into your veins.

Under the influence of a hallucinogenic like LSD, you can believe walls can talk, and that you live with a Unicorn. It feels real at the time, but of course it isn’t. Oxytocin is a very powerful sexual drug which connects you to the man you’re having sex with.

It’s a drug which dramatically amplifies the feelings you have for a man. So there you are, having amazing sex. Two becoming one. Two souls connecting. You feel like you could fly. But what should happen when the sex is over?

With any luck, the high will begin to subside and the Oxytocin will leave your system. Then you should start to remember why you’re not convinced this relationship will last. You should begin to think to yourself, “This guy is amazing and sex is great, but I can’t be with him long term.”

The problem is some women confuse the feelings they have under the influence of Oxytocin for their genuine feelings. They remember how good Oxytocin made them feel, and believe its love making them feel that way. Sex releases a powerful drug into your system, and it clouds your thinking.

Yes, sex and love go hand in hand, but make sure the love you’re feeling is real, and not induced by sex.