How To Respond To Someone Online – Part I
By David Wygant

Today will start another two-part blog. In Part I today, I will not only give you advice on how to choose which people to contact when online dating, but I also discuss how to make the initial contact with them.

I get asked this question over and over again: “David, how do you respond to someone Online?” What most guys do when a woman writes to them Online, is respond with something very lame.

They may respond by simply cutting and pasting something from their profile. They may respond by just restating something which is already in their profile. They may say something like “Hey, let’s talk on the phone” or “Hey, you’re pretty!”

Guys will say everything BUT something intriguing. The truth is that Online is no different than offline. In order to be good Online, you’ve got to be clever, you’ve got to be quick and you’ve got to be playful.

The problem is that most guys Online are not like that . . . most guys Online are not clever or playful. Most guys Online are boring. They don’t know what to do or how to do it. They think too much and they don’t enjoy it.

You have to learn how to enjoy it. Learning how to be clever, quick and playful Online is critical because men who date Online realistically are competing with a couple hundred other guys for each woman he wants to respond to him. A woman is not going to respond to someone who’s boring. She’s going to respond to someone who is fascinating, different and playful.

With all of this in mind, what I want to do is take you through the whole process. One of my favorite things to do is to contact the women who have viewed me. There are a few different reasons for this. If a woman has viewed me, then I know that she has already read my profile. Many times these women are very shy and they will not make the first move.

So what I will do is go through the women who have viewed my profile and then cherry pick. My profile is written pretty amazingly. It is very female-friendly and it creates emotion. My ability to do this is why I am hired all the time to write guy’s Online profiles. A lot of guys just don’t know how to write a good profile, let alone act on a profile.

What it means to write a profile emotionally is that you tell stories . . . you create “scenes” for them. Every profile should be written like a romantic comedy – a little romance, a little comedy, a little funny, a little bit of sarcasm, an emotional story, a little bit of heart and a little life lesson in there as well.

There are a lot of elements like these that should be put in your profile if you want women to respond to it. Women actually read men’s profiles and respond based on what is contained in them. Women don’t just look at someone’s pictures like men do.

So what I do is I look at who’s viewed me every single day. I also always erase the list of women who viewed me at the end of every day so that the next day I have a fresh list of the women whom have viewed me.

That way, when I see a woman among that group to whom I am attracted, I know that she has looked at my pictures, read my profile . . . and done nothing else. So what you need to do is send them this email, and this email works for me 95% of the time.

In the subject line I’ll write “I see that you …” then in the body of the email write “… stopped by my profile and did not say hi. Where were your manners? 🙂 The door was open, I had a great bottle of wine, and I was ready for some interesting conversation.”

Then I’ll add in something about what they had in their profile. For instance if they mentioned liking the movie “The Princess Bride,” I’ll add in “I had a copy of the Princess Bride ready to watch after we talked.” Then I’ll say “Next time, don’t be such a stranger and come on in.” Then I’ll sign my name, but then I’ll do a “P.S.” and say “P.S.: My dog doesn’t bite.” Then I’ll send it out.

Here are a few examples of actual responses I’ve received to this email . . .

Tune in tomorrow for Part II of this blog, where I’ll reveal some of the actual responses and interactions I’ve had with the women to whom I sent this email online

Todays video is all about how to overcome approach anxiety and not feel like you will be rejected.