In New York City with my girlfriend and, as always, New York is full of surprises! I’ll fill all of you in next week…

Did she come? How do you know if she came?  

You know I’ve done a lot of different blogs about orgasms. I’ve done blogs on faking orgasms. I’ve done blogs talking about how to give women a great orgasm.

The questions really is, though, did she come? How do you know if the woman you’re with actually had an orgasm?

Some women only seem to have orgasms from the clit.  Other women can have orgasms both from intercourse and from clitoral stimulation.  

The problem is that a lot of women expect to have the same kind of earth-shattering orgasm from intercourse that they do from their clit. The thing is that during intercourse, orgasms can be more subtle, relaxing and mellow. They are also more distinct.

If you’re inside a woman and you feel her walls start to tighten around you, and starting to expand and contract, you’re guaranteed that woman is having an orgasm. It’s a nice orgasm. It’s a peaceful orgasm, but yet still an orgasm.

If you need confirmation, then keep going and hitting that same spot inside her. If she does it again fifteen or twenty seconds later, then she’s having a multiple orgasm.

Some women have learned how to have g-spot orgasms where they actually squirt. They scream, they yell and they have a release like an orgasm from the clitoris.

The clitoris is actually the leader of the pack when it comes to pleasure. The clit orgasm is a little pleasure button on top of a woman’s vagina that was designed for nothing else but pleasure.

The clit is the captain of pleasure, and the vagina will soon follow. I was originally going to try to tell you all of this in a funny way, but after speaking with a friend of mine today he reminded me how many women don’t even get that that there could be so many subtle ways of coming.  

The fact is that as a man, we only have one way to come. We go, we pump, we scream, we yell, we have an orgasm.  It’s very distinct.  

Women, you can have subtle orgasms and you can have earth-shattering orgasms. I mean, I have always had woman-orgasm envy.

I know if I had one wish, I would have a vagina for the day. If I did, I would just come all day long. I’d also learn every distinctive orgasm that a woman can have so that I could take take that knowledge and turn it into amazing sex with all my partners.

So back to our original question: How do you know if your girl is coming? You can always ask her. You can also be intuitive and you can feel, because when a woman is coming you can definitely feel it in every way.