I was talking to a friend of mine today and I asked her a question that’s been on my mind.
“Am I arrogant?”
She looked at me, smiled, and said, “Sometimes, depending on your mood.”
Depending on my mood.
I thought deeper about that.
I know that I can be pretty arrogant.
I’m confident, I know who I am, and I know what I’m willing to put up with, and I know what I’m not willing to put up with.
I’ve got a low threshold for stupidity.
I say what’s on my mind.
I know that comes across as arrogant, even rude at times. But really, I just speak the truth—sure, it’s my truth, but I’m not really trying to impress anybody.
Does that make me arrogant? Or does that just make me confident?
It doesn’t really make a difference as long as I know that I speak my truth every single day. Granted some people do things that annoy me and I make comments some times. I’ll do it with a smile. I’ll be playful.
But I always speak my truth.
Why in the world do people always have to put a label on things?
“He speaks truth.”
“He’s arrogant.”
“He’s confident.”
Who cares?
Life is all about just doing what you want. It really is. Eating what you want, drinking what you want, being what you want.
I remember going to a party a couple years back. Everybody there was drinking. Personally, I don’t like to sit around and listen to drunk talk all night long. I find drunk talk loud, obnoxious and annoying. So after about two hours, I looked at everybody and said, ”I’m done.”
They all asked me why and said that they were just getting started.
I said, “Maybe you’re just getting started. But I don’t really want to sit around here and listen to drunks all night long. I love you all. You can all drink and have a good time, but I’m not really into drunk talk.”
Later that night, a friend texted me and said that she admired what I did. She only stayed at the party because she felt like she had to. And after I left, everybody was talking about how they appreciated my honesty.
We texted back and forth a little bit and we had a lunch a couple weeks later.
She looked at me and said, “I want to be more like you. I don’t want to go with the flow anymore. I don’t want to just do what everybody is doing. How do I begin?”
I can tell she was anxious. She had stopped eating and leaned in for my magical answer. So I told her the secret.
“Just do it.”
That’s what life’s about. Just fucking doing it.
Nike had it right a long time ago.
Good post. One of my biggest struggles is just saying “who cares?” although I think im getting better. I could speed myself up though talking to even more people.
Being an ultra technical/analytical person.. its sometimes tough to appreciate advice. Theres a lot to be said for not thinking and just doing.
Ive been struggling with this for a while, who am I to interject my truth on somebody else. I have remained quiet A LOT over the last couple months, I allow others to be wrong… it isn’t working out real well because i have been miserable living in monkey chatter, fighting the urge to MAKE people see things my way… Its been a very tough transitional period, going from saying whatever the fuck i want without regard for others’ feelings, to being quiet most of the time to prevent hurting others… I think I am on the brink of finding a happy medium, but not there yet. I would rather be humble than arrogant but i would also rather be happy than miserable.
Very good post David ,I remember that to be thus did than two jealous people They talked about me badly with my wing, But at the end of the day I have the chicks , who cares?Go for what you want (=
Hey David, I like your post today! (This is my first post ever on this blog btw)
And I absolutely agree with you. Ever since I’ve been working on improving my social/dating life, I’ve become more aware of myself and people around me and I’ve come to realize that I HATE following the crowd.
When I do feel like I’m following the crowd, for some reason, there’s this feeling inside me like a volcano that’s building up, and I just want to explode and break the status quo.
Following the crowd won’t get you anywhere. If you want to be happy everyday of your life, go after what you want, and stop being sheep. Be the shepherd.
Watch the Devil’s Advocate. The main character isn’t even aware of his own sin. The whole time he thinks the devil is trying to get him through all these other sins and in the end the devil gets him on the biggest sin of all. Sometimes, we’re not aware of it and we feel it to our core that we’re so right. I suffer from cocky-itis, so I’ve been led down a many garden path by my own arrogance and every time I felt that I was right and everyone else was wrong.
Nice David, I speak my truth too
I’ve always been this way. This blog post doesn’t apply to me.
David you said “I’m nice to everybody, because I believe it will come back to me” So you’re only being nice to someone in hopes of getting something out of for yourself? Yet, you put up a blog post saying you’re arrogant.
@Kevin:
Think you missed his entire point. Also, I missed the part where HE said HE was arrogant.