Five! Four! Three! Two! One!
No, it’s not the end of a football game. But isn’t that great when your team’s winning, you’re in the stands and you count down. “Ten, nine, eight…” What’s the point? They don’t hear you. The players could care less, and in their heads they’ve already counted down when the game was over anyway.
Sp here we are, December 31st, 2011, only a few hours to go until the most incredible moment of the year!
The strike of 12, when you’re standing in a room full of people that you have not talked to or connected with all night, and you desperately search around the room for the drunkest woman to kiss. That is the stupidest night of the year.
Most of you will be chasing the night tonight. You go out, trying to find the best party you can possibly find. When you get to that party, if it’s not good, you’ll say to yourself, “Man there’s no chicks here. We really need to go to the Holiday Inn bar down by Route 25, I heard there’s some cougars there that are looking to get lucky on New Year’s Eve.”
You’ll be searching all night long, when in reality tonight, all this night is, it’s just another Saturday night. It’s no different than last Saturday night, or the other 364 days this year. Who cares? You don’t need to go out with a bang.
In fact, you may not have had a bang the whole year. You don’t need to make amends, make up for bad parties, bad choices, bad dates, whatever it might be, by going out and trying to make this the greatest night of your entire year.
This is the most overrated night of the entire year, so instead, why not be proactive? Do something you actually enjoy where you know you’ll have a good time. Go see a movie, stay at home, have dinner with friends or family. Do something that’s more enjoyable. Invite some friends over and play board games. You’ll certainly be more stimulated, and really if you think about it you’ll be more bored, and definitely a whole lot more anxious, at a ridiculous, overrated New Year’s Eve soiree.
It’s time that you did something different this New Year’s Eve and stopped chasing the New Year. Allow the New Year to come to you. Allow the New Year to happen on its own, and allow the New Year to manifest the way it’s supposed to. You’re not going to make up for a year’s worth of bad nights by going out and maybe find someone to kiss at the stroke of midnight.
It doesn’t matter if you kiss some sloppy drunk person and have a funny story to tell going into the New Year. It’s not going to change your life or the way you are with women, just because you were able to make out with a sloppy drunk girl at the stroke of midnight, so stop being an amateur and act like a professional.
Professionals don’t count down at the end of the game. Professionals embrace the win and move forward and think about what to do the next day to become even better.
umm the first one well tonight i came home from work and decided to go internet surfing…Happy New Year to all of U!
I’m out at a big new year’s eve bash in downtown Cincinnati,, I don’t understand,, how do you meet women when every single female is with someone. I have yet to see a SINGLE female yet. If my phone wasn’t dying,, I’d post video to prove it.
How do you meet someone when everyones taken?
I just don’t understand.
David,
Happy New Years and thanks. You are the conscious awareness that is lacking & missing in guys. I say that because I was that guy & sometimes accidentally forget who I truly am & it’s great to be reminded time to time. Definition of Quintessential Man:To make dreams become reality by following ones heart & mind encouraged & propelled by ones soul while laughing at fear. or David Wygant for short
Thanks for being a mentor. Part of me feels I’ve rambled on but another knows I simply had to start the new year right by being grateful for lessons learned & to try to connect with people who are at a higher skill than me. Thank you again sensei may your year days be rewarded twofold for the inspirations you’ve given
I agree, News Year Eve is overrated. I spent some quiet time at home. Although I found it odd that people were lighting off fireworks and yelling outside at 11:00pm my time. I found out later my clock on my computer was off by an hour…lol
Before New Years Eve, I went to goodwill, and most on here most likely does think of that place as a goldmine for meeting women.
But let me tell you, there were cute girls all over the place in that store. In fact one of them appeared to be chasing me. I first noticed her when I was looking at dish stuff on the bottom of one of the shelves.
Later on, I stood there looking at some traveling suitcases and all of a sudden she appeared again. She was stationary with her cart, standing at the beginning of the aisle, not really looking at the suitcases but I got the feeling she was looking at me who was looking at suitcases. I took my eyes off the suitcases to look at her and said, “hi”. She had this huge smile on her face, and said “hi” back to me and then preceeded to walk by me.
My mind went blank to say anything further to her as I wasn’t expecting it, and later on did think of things on what to say but I was glad that I got the chance to say, “hi” to her. I felt good in doing that. I didn’t beat myself up over the fact that I could have said more. It was a learning experience. I just found it to be a pleasant surprise, she was very cute (most guys would freeze up trying to approach her), and very friendly. And most likely will think of her again when I visit the goodwill store. And perhaps I will say something more to the next gal I meet in there!
Good blog and no product marketing in sight!
Everything’s overpriced on new years eve aswell and feels so forced. I hate that. Good times should be organic, not forced.
Good job Mike. Take that experience and run with it.
Amen to that!
$25 cover charge to get into clubs! (and most require advance tickets, and add a ticket fee). I had to pay 5.25 for a can ,, yes, a CAN of beer. And for what? To stand around and watch all the good looking people make out at midnight, while I have to stand and wonder why everyone ELSE gets everything they want.
I Really wish I could have taken a video to post last night to show you people who just won’t believe me that ALL the women are taken.
There are only two types of women.
1. Taken
2. Too young
It’s over for me. I give up.
This Is very true David! I stayed in and hung out with my son an watched him play WWE 12, and he had never seen the ball drop because he lives with his grandparents an they usually go to bed well before the ball drops, so it was a great night!
I went out on Friday night to a Karaoke bar and like John says, most of the women there were with someone. I did see this woman checking me out. Every time she saw me she smiled at me, but I waited to long to talk to her and some dude was hanging all over her, but I did manage to introduce myself I her later in the evening, but never had a chance to give her my #. Oh well, I still had fun and talk to quite a bit of people anyway, so I’m not beating myself up over it.
I agree though that this is the most overhyped night of the year. People go out and and drunk and act stupid. I’ll admit it though, I did wanna go to a party but I’m glad I got to hang out with my son who just turned 14 two days prior.
Happy new year everyone! Make it a great year.
Victor
@david wygant
i was with someone, i had a good time and yes we were pawing each other and making out most of the night and connecting. does that me a amateur horney guy now?
Well, I don’t know how my comments ended up on another blog,, but,
Tough loss Jets fans.
( hahahahaha. )
Happy New Year Everyone! It sounds like you had a good time and Mike, I’m happy you said hi. It’s a big step in the right direction.
For my New Year’s Eve I had dinner with the gf and watched American Horror Story. It might be my new obsession.
John, I went through a stretch where I couldn’t meet an unattached woman at university. It was bizarre. They were all married or had boyfriends. I was so frustrated that I began to seriously consider trying to poach some of them from their partners. I didn’t want to do it to another guy or take on that MASSIVE karmic debt but I was that frustrated.
My friends started making fun of me. We’d go out and I’d go and bring women into our group and they’d all turn out to be married or in long term relationships. My friends started saying I was bad luck and banned me from picking the women we talked to at a party or a bar or whatever.
It turned out I was bad luck. I was attracting unavailable women because I was unavailable. I couldn’t put myself out there because I was too scared that there was something wrong with me and that I’d just end up hurt.
We really do attract what we put out into the universe. If you’re not meeting single women, what could you be putting out that is attracting unavailable women?
I saw the New Year in through the back of my eyelids! I was fast asleep with my kids in a tent away camping with a big group of friends. I couldn’t think of a better way to transition from 2011 to 2012! Especially going to sleep with my kids all so close. What a great way to welcome New Years in as a snug little unit of 4!
Leanne
@interndan,, ok, so my mindset, and what I’m putting out (whatever the hell that means) , is making every single woman in sight have a man on her arm?
C’mon Dan, do you know how ridiculous that sounds?
I will make sure I have a fully charged battery next time I’m out, so I can film every woman, and point out,,
“taken, taken, taken, too young, too young, taken, taken, taken…)” And I’ll post it.
John, you’re not looking for available women, so why do you think you’d find them?
You’re looking for women who feed into your belief that you’re too ugly or whatever. So of course you’re going to find the women you’re looking for. They’re all going to be hot and attached and EXACTLY the type of women who you think wouldn’t go for you.
I was in university and couldn’t find an unattached woman. I should have been ONLY able to find unattached women. But I was scared to find a woman that was available because I was afraid that she’d think I was too ugly, too needy or just plain messed up. So every woman I met was married or just about married.
What are you afraid of if you meet an unattached woman?
@Leannes: Camping with your loved ones was an awesome way to spend New Year’s Eve! I did the same with my friends. Way better than an over-priced, over-rated party somewhere.
@interndan,, what are you talking about? You aren’t making any sense.
I never said I was afraid of anything.
You’re how old? It is easy to find available women in your 20′s. It’s nearly impossible at 39. (unless you want to come off as a creepy old guy.
I am too old for most 25 year old women to consider. That is just a fact. Women who are available older than that are few and far between.
I know i am late but i barffed all over laptop lmao. but I had a blast new years eve. i went to a part that my nephew girl was throwing. and even though there was no females but one. i still had a blast. i got wasted and i was the only one dancing at the party. lol i broke a chair punched a wall. thing is i dont remember it. and i got sick.
going in i was shy and wouldnt talk to anyone. when i got a lil drunk my nephew left me wit his girl and her friends who were all guys. but i fucking still conversated with everyone. now i got new friends. lol i just wished i didnt get too drunk. but hey i had a blast. i already know 2012 is gonna be the years where i live in the moment and not my head. HAPPY NEW YEAR DAVID WYGANT, AND SHOGO. AND EVERYBODY ON THE BLOG. Stop making excuses and lets create memories.
Joe E. I love the attitude for 2012!
John, you didn’t say you were afraid of anything. That’s why I’m asking you what you’re afraid of if you meet unattached women.
Okay, so,you’re standing in line somewhere and you see a woman without a bf or a wedding ring and she looks to be about your age. How do you start talking to her? What does the interaction look like? What’s going through your head?