Sunday Challenge
Your goal on a Sunday (you can do it on a Saturday too) is to take yourself out on a date all day long.
I used to do this when I lived in Manhattan. I would wake up at 10:30, take a shower, and then decide which direction I was going to go that day. I’d go left, I’d go right, or I’d go straight.
My goal was to meet as many new people as I could that day – to build up my social network, so then I would be able to go and meet some great women.
So your goal tomorrow is to meet 20 new people. Take a notebook with you, and after you meet someone new, I want you to write down exactly what you remember about him or her. “I met this woman on the beach, and she got her little booties all wet, blah blah blah.”
Write down something personal that you remember about them, so that the next time you run into them again, you can go back and say, “hey, Wet Boot Girl, how are you?” “Hey Sand Castle Girl, what’s up?”
You have 20 people you have to meet and then write it down. You’re going to do this every single Sunday by yourself. Blow off your friends and take yourself out to places like Whole Foods, the malls, the beach, whatever.
Meet men, women, children – everyone. If you do this four Sundays in a row – wait, it is football season, do it on Saturday! If you do this four Saturdays in a row, you’ve just met 80 new people.
Do you think out of 80 people you might be able to find one woman that you want to go out with?
And during the course of those four Saturdays, you’re going to be running into these same people again, and then you’ll get to meet the people they have with them. It’s like adding fingers to your network.
In LA, maybe we can get together small little groups and just go up to Silver Lake for the day and hang out. We can just go up there and meet people in Silver Lake.
This is how you build your network up, and get exactly what you want to get out of it without the crappy part of actually having to go and pick them up. When you go out and talk to people all day long, your brain is stimulated and you don’t think about the fear.
So if you do this every Saturday, by the end of the month you will have met 80 new people.
October 12th, 2008 at 9:23 pm
This is good stuff…and so true! The more people your out and about being social with the better you feel around people. The better you get at doing this, the easier it is to talk to hot girls. You become “natural”…haha you don’t need a dating guru to tell you how to act natural! You just have to get out and be you, put yourself out there.
I work promotions for a radio station in boston so i’m always meeting people. I get paid to make my social life better! It’s pretty sweet and, it makes my game with the ladies that much better
Just get out there and challenge yourself!
October 12th, 2008 at 11:22 pm
Interesting, I should try this on a Sunday. I love going on little adventures like this.
granted its alot easier to do in a town like NY, but i know you can try this in certain sections of LA like the grove, santa monica, beverly center, etc.
October 13th, 2008 at 4:08 am
My church days are during Saturdays. So i’ll defnitely try this on Sundays.
October 13th, 2008 at 4:17 pm
Rich - It’s plenty easy to do in the LA area. I do this all the time, I just do it on my bike. I cover a lot of miles and meet some really cool people in the process. I did it this weekend and had a blast.
October 14th, 2008 at 11:07 am
You are treating dating like it is a form of marketing. I am a date coach myself and I would never ask my clients to go out and make it a point to talk to 20 people every Sunday.
October 14th, 2008 at 11:20 am
Crystal
So you say you are a date coach.
I have never heard of you.
How long have you been doing this and what is your success rate?
Not only does this work…every person who has ever done the challenge has broken through all their fears!!!
Its not marketing at all……it is an exercise based on building comfort within themselves.
What is your methodology?
October 14th, 2008 at 6:32 pm
I help coach men and women in the art of flirting. One of the first objectives with most men that I work with is to get over their fear of meeting new people. Meeting twenty new people is a great exercise because it allows a person to learn how to become more relaxed with the opposite sex and to gain experience with fliritng. As a wise friend once told me, experience is the best teacher.
Great exercise David!
October 14th, 2008 at 7:15 pm
20 new people in a sunday, isn’t that bit much. How would I do this?
Just go to the mall and walk around , with a notebook in my hand?
I’ll try it , but I’m having problems seeing how it’s possible without feeling awkward.
October 14th, 2008 at 8:57 pm
Meeting 20 people isn’t that hard if you just talk to everyone at a mall. You don’t necessarily have to approach 20 people… you are just making casual conversations, making small talk with all the people who are around you.
If you really pay attention, it’s not that many people.
As far as Crystal’s comments, David doesn’t tell you to make it a point of talking to 20 people… David teaches you to do the things you want to do in your life and pay attention to the very people you COULD meet every day in your life. If you just realized how many people are around you every day, it only takes one very small step (just a little hi) to start meeting those very people.
The exercise is definitely more of a comfort building exercise with your own self than marketing yourself to other people.
October 16th, 2008 at 1:15 pm
“20 new people in a sunday, isn’t that bit much. How would I do this?
Just go to the mall and walk around , with a notebook in my hand?
I’ll try it , but I’m having problems seeing how it’s possible without feeling awkward.”
I completely agree with Khiem!
Here’s a few things that I have seen that create results in guys I work with and in my own life.
1. David had me start learning to observe people versus using lines. So whenever, I get into a block I go back to the basics. I observe my environment. It definitely helps me get out of “my head” and into the world of others. I have also found that I was more effective with flirting with women by observing their world versus using “canned material.” It’s genuine and relevant!!
2. Focus on having fun instead of flirting! When I gave up my outcome of getting women. I started to focus on being the friendly, fun guy who attracts women. That’s when my world changed. David showed me this in Seattle when a bunch of us were sitting in a lounge on Friday night not looking for women. Out of no where a beautiful blonde starting talking to us. I did the same thing this weekend at a dance club with a few friends. I stopped looking for women and had fun. Guess what? The hot women in the club started to come closer to us because we had great energy and we stopped looking for them.
3. I like Khiem’s suggestions on saying, “Hi.” I have seen guys who have broken through a lot of their fears by greeting people in such a fashion. Meeting people is more about delievery, attitude, and energy!
4. A few things I teach guys to do is to warm up. “We are just practicing!” When I do that something interesting happens. They begin to actually take pressure off themselves and detach from the outcome of trying to get a woman and they start to do a lot better. It becomes more fun for them.
5. Again focus on the casaul conversations like Khiem said. An hour ago at this coffee shop I observed a hot blonde who was wearing Timex Running Watch.” Here’s what I asked her by being completely present.
“Is that a Timex Running Watch?”
She started to go into Vegas of why she orginally got it and then into how she was teacher! All I did was to be genuine in my interest and ask her about it and then keep asking her questions.
By the time I left I could feel that the people behind the counter where energized by someone who showed them interest in what they had to say!!!
Have Fun Langknow and let us know how it’s going!!!
Chris
October 16th, 2008 at 8:48 pm
AWESOME! I can do this! Why not! I think it will be fun!
October 16th, 2008 at 8:48 pm
If I lived in CA - I would definitely come hang with ya