Set a Goal By David Wygant
Every single day, what you need to do is set a goal. You need to go out there and have at least ten conversations a day.
By having ten conversations a day, you create positive energy around you. I don’t care if you go out and talk to ten men, ten women, ten kids – what happens is that every time you stop and have a conversation, you smile, you look in someone’s eyes and you engage them, you are learning how to be a more confident person the whole time.
Not only that, but other people are looking at you. When other people are looking at you, they want to go and talk to you too – they’re wondering what you are all about. You’re creating intrigue around you, you’re creating a positive vibe around you, and you’re creating something that most people don’t create: interest.
Most guys walk around, and all they do is chase. They walk through the entire day just trying to find the one woman that they’re attracted to that they can talk to.
The problem with that is that when you find her, you haven’t talked to anybody else, so you haven’t had any other conversations, so you walk over all uptight.
Once again, go out there and talk to everybody all day long, and you’ll build your social confidence up all day.
That’s what real confidence is about – being able to carry on a conversation with everyone. The point is that you want to become a good conversationalist. Becoming a good conversationalist means that you can talk to everybody in every situation.
Todays podcast is all about playing the percentages. Life is all about numbers……and until you are willing to fail you will never meet anyone.
This podcast is for men and women.
Enjoy your Sunday!!!
The podcast with this is incredible!! It had something everyguy/girl could relate to. Hearing about some of David’s pitfalls and the learning curve involved with becoming the man he is today really helped reinforce one of the most important messeges he beats us over the head with in almost all the blogs, videos, and podcasts. That this is all a process…David didn’t do all this overnight, we shouldn’t pressure ourselves to. But a GREAT podcast like this can inspire a breakthrough that leads to someone taking that first and hardest step. I really believe this is the best podcast he has ever made…everyone can take something away from this. Props to David. Thanks
So true… I must admit that I myself have often times been guilty of the “chasing” syndrome. It’s definitely not a good strategy. Trust me.
David – Amazing podcast today!!
What you talked about in terms of past relationships and abundance not only resonated with me, but gave me a new insight into how to process the “meaning” of past relationships.
I have always believed that what occurs in your past is all data that you accumulate that tells you who you are … So every time I have had someone who broke up with me or cheated on me or whatever, to me that was a piece of data which indicated something negative about how desirable a woman I am (I’m an economist and a lawyer that was the way of processing those past events that made the most intuitive sense to me.)
Your concept of abundance is amazing too … When you have had feelings for someone, it is hard to conceive that there could be someone else for whom you could feel the same way or with whom you could have the same kind of connection.
After listening to your podcast, I thought back on my past in terms of what I’ve learned and how it has changed me (for the better in most ways) … and perhaps all of that has led me to grow and seek to become the person I want to be. And perhaps it is THAT person who is meant to find and will attract that amazing and incredible man I want to find.
Now THAT is a mindset I can get behind 
It’s also nice to know you’re human David … I don’t think I believed you had probably ever been dumped in your life
Thanks again David for a great recording 
I agree with Blain, this is an awesome podcast. You can’t learn a new skill overnight, but for most people when they are not IMMEDIATELY successful with women (or men), they take it so personally and see themselves as a failure. If we can get our egos and our pride out of the way we’d make a lot more progress in a shorter amount of time. David is so right: “until you are willing to fail you will never meet anyone.” Great entry!
You have a great blog here David. I enjoy reading your blog time to time. Natural approach to dating and life is the way to go and many community gurus are starting to wake up and realize the power of what you teach!!
I haven’t had a chance to listen to the podcast but I have set a goal for myself for today. Instead of 10 conversations today I will have 10 orgasms! hehehe ;D We’re already off to a great start with 3 this morning.
But seriously I can easily sense when a guy is trying to pick up on me as I am sure most women can. Sometimes it’s flattering but usually it’s quite annoying. The guy knows nothing about me other than what I look like. Maybe I’m a stupid, annoying bitch. Maybe I am not worthy of him. Maybe I’m a psychopath. Shouldn’t guys want to find out about the woman they are attracted to before they start coming on to her?
I want a guy to be physically attracted to me but I want them to be most drawn to my wit, personality, character, sense of humor, and brain! When a guy comes on to be before knowing anything about me I always wonder if he even cares to know anything about me or if he just wants to get into my pants. It’s a MAJOR turn off for me when men try to pick me up instead of getting to know me. It reeks of despair. Guys need to start being sincere and genuine about getting to know women.
Weed through…
so true so true, weed out, engage in conversation..
I find that meeting that 1/10 is harder than usual. Not everyday I have this amazing mind blowing chemistry with women. Just does not happen, for that talking and engaging in conversation everybody and have law of abundance is the way to go!
David, thank you for sharing this stuff, I find it very helpful!!
Hey hope
Tell them about the guys who tried to brag there way into your pants in front of my house!
You nailed it on this one Dave and your bootcamp directly reflects this philosophy. At first, we were instructed to talk to the most awkward, introverted people because it would be the hardest to talk to them. And then when we went to the street fair, we just talked to everyone no matter who they were and cute girls just kind of fell in line. Great philosophy and works wonders Dave. Keep up the good work
Hey HOPE,
Sometimes a guy would rather be shut down, as when trying to pick up a lovely lady, than been put into “just be friends” category, by been too much of a “caring” ear.
BTW, tell DW to stop wearing that gay hat!
HOPE:
DITTO AND 1000 KUDOS!!
there is NOTHING wrong with deeper bragging! but seriously though i find myself achieving a lot more when i have small girls (typo i mean goals) to accomplish here and there, but it is like having a map that tells you where you stand on your work, and what is there to accomplish. i also give myself a better incentive to not slack off when i clearly set my goals out to accomplish!
J-Dude, I hear what you’re saying and I agree that you need someone you are interested in to know that you are interested so they don’t file you away under “just friends.” What I am talking about is when you SEE someone for the 1st time and haven’t ever spoken a word to them. If you know nothing about them you shouldn’t “hit on” someone because they may be a horrible person and/or someone you can’t stand or don’t relate to. Of course you should pursue an initial attraction by wanting to GET TO KNOW THEM to see if they are worthy of you or someone that really is attractive. Once you have established this then for sure make your move and let her know you are interested. BTW I absolutely HATE that hat!!!! But he likes it so I would never suggest that he should stop wearing it…although I have a feeling he may misplace it soon
whats up with the hat.
i hate the sun….so it keeps me shielded from the harmful rays of the sun:)
plus i like it!!!!
David asked for me to share the story of what happened yesterday morning in front of his house. Basically I was walking Daphne and I saw 5 guys standing about 40 feet down the sidewalk we were walking on. We had to walk past them to get to where we were going. On the street in front of the guys were their 5 Ferraris. One guy saw me and within a second or two the other 4 turned around to check me out. Or perhaps they weren’t checking me out at all. Maybe they were huge dog lovers and were gawking at Daphne.
I could tell they were going to say something to me and I really wasn’t in the mood to talk to anyone, let alone the type of guy that meets up with other Ferrari guys on a street to drive around together to show off essentially. Don’t get me wrong I have nothing against Ferraris but I really am a Lamborghini person at heart. 
So I decided the safest thing to do was to start running. Don’t worry I was wearing short running shorts, a tight wife beater and running shoes so it looked like I was going to go for a run anyway. As I approached, one of the guys asked if I was dancing or running and then said that he had never seen anyone look so good and graceful running. I of course shouted, I”Running..AWAY!” He said, “Don’t run away. Don’ t you want me to give you a ride in my Ferrari.” I also heard another guy make cheesy cat call noises. I couldn’t believe how pathetic these guys were. I suppose in their case it is true what they say about guys that buy exotic, expensive sports cars! So Daphne and I continued around the corner to her regular shitting spot and I really didn’t want to have to go back until they were gone but I waited 20 minutes and they were all still standing there. They were parked right in front of David’s so I had no way of avoiding them. Just as I walked up a Porsche pulled in front of them and they started yelling to the guy that his car sucked and it’s not as nice and didn’t belong there. I couldn’t believe how juvenile these guys were plus I couldn’t help but get offended as I have the exact same car. I looked at the guy in the Porsche and said, “I love your car. It’s so much better than cheesy Ferraris.” Then I flashed a huge smile to the Ferrari guys and ran up the stairs. They were dumbfounded.
HOPE,
Thanks for the posts, and very timely. There’s this lady at the Gym, you know the kind, statuesque/stripper-like body, wearing the posibley, legally skimpiest outfit in 48 states. Every guy drooling and disturbed (during their workout routines). I walk by where she and friends are, thinking “I’m not playing her game, I’m just acting like she’s anyone other person in here”. Well today, she seems to be checking me out… like igore a cat and they come to you. Again, she has a body like the Devil designed it. But I see your point of “not buying that” right off the bat, not quite yet. Your post was very articulate.
Hey, and ask David if Clint Eastwood would wear that hat and say “go ahead, make my day”.
“I looked at the guy in the Porsche and said, “I love your car. It’s so much better than cheesy Ferraris.” Then I flashed a huge smile to the Ferrari guys and ran up the stairs.”
LOL!! What’s that sound??
That’s 5 Ferrari-sized egos deflating into Mini Coopers. Hahahaha!
J dude
I got the hat from clint…..he is a friend of mine and i visit with him when i am up north.
keep in mind he is 75 so that hat will look good on him now:)
I think of past “failures” as only feedback to how much more I have to grow :p