Lost In Time
Have you ever met someone whom, when you’re with them, time just seems to disappear? You are talking to them for what feels like five minutes and all of a sudden you realize it’s actually been five hours.
Do you ever get lost in somebody so much that you feed off of each other’s energy? Then as you’re feeding off each other’s energy, you just want to learn more and more about that person.
You not only want to know what they’re all about, you want to know everything about them. You want to know what they were like as a kid, what they’re afraid of, what they feel, what their favorite things are, their favorite foods, their favorite bands and their favorite vacation spots. Every time you learn something about them, you want to learn more.
You want to know what they like to do, because the more you talk to them the more you get lost in this incredible world you’re in when you’re talking to them. Have you every met somebody with whom you can sit across a table at a restaurant for three hours without even one moment of silence?
I’m not really even talking, though, about moments of silence. I’m talking about how you feed off each other’s energy. It’s the way you laugh, the way you smile and the way you talk. It’s how every time one of you tells a story that the other will have a story having to do with the same subject, and you find you connect in so many different ways.
Every time you get to learn more about them, their energy keeps going into you. You feel more of their energy, get to know more of their energy and you crave more of their energy. You start to crave that connection you have with them.
You just get lost in time, and time doesn’t matter. You could be absolutely exhausted at the end of a long day when you speak with them, then all of a sudden a five minute conversation turns into a three hour conversation because you feed off of each other’s energy. It’s like a high. You get this incredible feeling when you talk to that person.
You get lost in time. Really, what is “lost in time?” Lost in time is just amazing chemistry with somebody. The reason we all spend so much time hoping and desiring to find someone is so we can have the feeling of being “lost in time.”
There’s nothing better than feeling lost in time with somebody, because time doesn’t really matter. If you think about it, there’s no such thing as time. What matters is the feelings and emotions you experience in every given situation.
So the next time you meet somebody and you get lost in a little world with them, enjoy it! That is what magic is all about . . . connecting with another person, feeding off of everything they say and wanting to learn every little thing about them. This is what you experience when you get lost in time with someone.
You know what else is magical about getting lost in time? It’s the moment you realize something magical is happening. You know it. You can feel it. Your gut and your intuition tell you. Then you savor every moment.
It’s like every phone conversation is just amazing. Every time you hang out, it’s amazing. The feeling of getting to know somebody with whom you truly connect and share intense chemistry is incredible.
I know personally that I savor every moment, because when you meet somebody with whom you get lost in time when you hang with them then you know something special and magical is happening. You need to really just embrace it and realize these “lost in time” moments are something that will put a smile on your face for a long time.
My brother and his wife are a great example of this. If you would ask my brother what the most magical feeling was when he met his wife, he would say it was the first year they spent together because that’s when they built the foundation for a lifetime of love. He remembers every conversation, the first cuddle and every kiss, because being able to experience magic with somebody is a gift.
That magic is something that all of us are craving, and that we all desire. The problem some of us have is that we are scared to death of it. We’re scared to death of letting go, so we can actually have this.
The amazing thing about getting lost in time with someone is knowing they’re on the same page with you. It takes two strong people to let down all the walls and enjoy the moment.
There is nothing more powerful than getting lost in time. I know, because I’m experiencing it and I’m enjoying every second of whatever we call time.
October 7th, 2008 at 12:13 pm
David
I cannot agree more! Back in May I picked up your mastery series and have been reading your blog almost daily since discovering your site, products and services. I was basically in the midst of a life makeover and the mastery series filled in many gaps of enlightenment and self confidence in approaching, meeting people, friendships and just life outlook in general that it is/was indescribable. After making a several changes and actually practicing what I knew and what you preach … I established a social base that has grown to like what it was back in high school / college, dating much more and actually having to try and manage my days / nights out with the different women I was meeting.
About a month ago, after making some changes to my online dating profile compliments of your internet dating product, I met someone amazing through match, the total package if you will. It has been almost 10 yrs since I had met anyone that has captivated me and brought out some of the feelings that have developed with my new GF. As you mentioned in your blog … it’s as if time doesnt exist and every time she and I are together we are just ‘lost in time’ with each other. It is still early in the relationship but I can already tell it’s the real deal. a
To anyone out there who might read this think “wow, this is totally a sales pitch” or “that I was put up to this” … quit with the monkey chatter and making excuses in your head. I am a fairly attractive guy, have a successful business, an active lifestyle, active in the community … but when mixed with being in a really bad ‘relationshit’ about 5 years ago my self confidence was shot and I focused solely on building my ecommerce and internet marketing company. I was on the road traveling all around the world for the better part of 3 years working with clients and didnt put much (if any effort) into myself. When I decided to slow my travel schedule last fall and focus more on me I found I had virtually no confidence, ideas or tools to utilize in kind of transforming myself into who I really wanted to be. What was worse was I lost most of my friends due to the relationship years prior … and what I didnt lose then got married or had kids while I was off building my business so they werent the best to turn to for help in this ‘transformation’. So armed with a massive desire to change my life and unwillingness to concede I read some of the other so called ‘experts’ (much to no avail), joined the gym and started to get healthy again (guys, this matters - do it! an added bonus, you’ll feel better!), and most of all was willing to open myself up to the type of changes that needed to be made (both success & failures). Not only have Wygant’s products helped myself immensely but now I’ve turned many many of my close friends who have or do struggle with many of the same things (confidence, approaching, general outlook on life / friendships / etc) onto his products and they have all seen great results as well. All of this being in an armpit of a major city for being a single, Tampa. One tip to any of you out there struggling with some ideas of where / how to expand your social networks quickly … meetup.com. There are groups of awesome out there for pretty much every city and every conceivable topic. Great way to expose yourself to meeting people with similar interests.
Again … thanks David … keep up the awesome work! I for one will definitely be following along!
Cheers // A
October 7th, 2008 at 12:23 pm
oh god the thing is, i’m young. so i get this a lot, especially when i was 16-18, its like every cute girl that i see makes me feel lost in time!
October 7th, 2008 at 12:52 pm
Not sure why exactly, but I haven’t felt this about anyone in a loooonnngggg time. Maybe I’m a bit disillusioned with girls at the moment… maybe it just takes more to impress me nowadays… I don’t really know. Sounds like it would be cool if I did get “lost in time” though.
October 7th, 2008 at 2:59 pm
A
Thanks for a great post!!
Do you know what I love about what I do?
Its hearing how I have impacted your life as well as the lives of others!!
This post is something that I want all of you to experience!
Have a great rest of the day!
October 7th, 2008 at 6:14 pm
The loss of psychological time is one of the most enjoyable things. It can happen with alot of things - a good book, good song, good movie or TV show. But it can be even better with women! and the right woman will make any one of these activities much better.
October 7th, 2008 at 8:05 pm
That is awesome! I am glad for you. David, and wish you abundant happiness in your relationship!
I think that the soul longs for relationship like what you described. You are right that it takes a lot of guts to break down walls to truly connect with another person. Yes it is scary, very, very scary. There is nowhere else to go but forward though and what is meant to be will be. All we can do is give our best and brightest.
October 7th, 2008 at 8:15 pm
I do believe that time is literally measured in emotion …. hence why when you are in the moments like you describe, David, that a night with someone you get “lost with” feels like a minute.
I get the most lost in time during a truly amazing kiss — the best, most passionate and most intense kisses where you notice every nuance of the movement of someone’s lips, the way their hand caresses your face and every intake of their breath as it mingles with yours feels like somehow you have left altogether the plane of time and space.
There is nothing to me that makes me feel more lost in time than that …
October 7th, 2008 at 9:24 pm
hey kristen ever orgasm no didn’t think so.
October 7th, 2008 at 9:46 pm
did you erase my post nothing like a naysayer being silence thats very big brother david leave my posts on
funny noone refute the post over so it must be true
mmmmmmm
October 7th, 2008 at 9:47 pm
and kristen writing again as soon as you have your 1st orgasm time will stand still
October 7th, 2008 at 9:50 pm
what is this waiting for moderation bullshit
October 7th, 2008 at 10:56 pm
Joe
what is your issue here.
you sound like a 14 year old boy that can not meet women and you take out your frustration on someone who is sharing soem really cool and powerful thoughts.
grow up.
using words like
L o s e r
the reflection you see is yours.
get my drift
October 7th, 2008 at 11:11 pm
Joe, why so angry??
It is very clear to me you have never had a real, passionate and totally consuming sexual connection with anyone. I have had amazing orgasms, and they are incredible physical experiences! My comment was about my favorite “lost in time” moments - and the type of kiss I described is exactly how I am able to also have the amazing orgasms.
If you only judge getting lost in time as whether or not you “get off,” then I am willing to bet a lot of money that none of your partners are telling any stories about getting “lost in time” with you … more like they were wishing that time would go faster so they could leave …
Wow, you are a man desperately in need of spending some quality “lost in time” moments with someone …
and a good anger management class to help you be able to get there.
Joe, you are clearly bitter about something (or someone). Let whatever it is go — we all have bad memories and past experiences (believe me I have my own) … but if you carry those with you, you will never be able to find a lost in time moment of your own …
October 7th, 2008 at 11:25 pm
Joe
I’m pretty sure you are the reason they invented the “awaiting moderation” feature
October 8th, 2008 at 3:08 am
As I began reading, I realized, this is what I am experiencing as we speak. In 7 years this has only happened 2 times. This time it’s even better than the first and yes, I am scared. Its one of those things that seems too good to be true. I am really enjoying this man and treasuring Johnny and every moment that I am given with him. For once, I have met someone on the same page as me, both morally, mentally, and physically. We get on the phone and as you said, its been an hour and a half since we got on and I can no longer keep my eyes open…This is the most fantastic feeling I could ever experience, short of the birth of my children. Its all in God’s hands as to where it is going, but never can I remember being so positive and hopeful. As someone else said, you have to take a chance, and open yourself up if you are to find love. I wasn’t looking for this, but Who Knows!!!!
Sharon
October 8th, 2008 at 1:39 pm
@ Kristen, I really like your comment about time is measured in emotions. I like to think time is measured in memories.
We usually don’t remember the exact date we do something, but we always remember the memory that triggered the emotion. It’s just fantastic.
When I talk to my girlfriend, we always talk longer than we expect. The funny thing is that it’s very common for me to “travel back in time” with her and discuss again what kind of fun we had on this or that specific date.
When she’s with me for the weekend, it’s always hard for us to leave the house in the morning too… b/c as David says, we get lost in time talking and kissing each other.
It’s magical
October 8th, 2008 at 1:48 pm
One last thing here
I still can not get over the negative energy that Joe has brought to such a deep post.
What fear did this bring up in you Joe?
October 8th, 2008 at 2:22 pm
I had that moment a few nights ago with someone. We had dinner and it was so much fun connecting with her. We were really there for a few hours and it seemed like 10 minutes.
There’s something to be said when you have a connection with someone. Time does seem to slow down in your mind. I prefer to call it focused emotions.
It can be similarly be compared to playing video games. Those who play a lot will know what I am talking about. It just takes one good game to take away your entire day…perhaps weeks.
October 8th, 2008 at 2:43 pm
LOL Infinity, I love your video game analogy.
I used to be a big computer video gamer. I always played the games for the story, the suspense… and whatever emotions they had in it. A good game to me was like a good movie: Half Life or Half Life 2 anyone?
I remember when I played that game, I’d play it for 2-3 days straight until I was finished. As you say, it’s like time disappears.
Well now, I still like to play games… but a different kind of games… that’s a lot more fun… with my g/f ;p
October 8th, 2008 at 5:56 pm
That feeling of getting completely lost in time is truly an amazing experience. I met someone a couple of months ago and we’ve been dating nearly every weekend since. Time goes by so fast that it’s unbelievable and it doesn’t seem to matter what we’re doing. I think the “feeding off of the energy” statement made is really the source of this incredible “magic” feeling that takes hold. That energy is the same source that we “connect” on and can create a really incredible rush. The challenge is not mistaking those moments for a soul mate connection and thinking you have to rush to the goal, whatever that is. Enjoying those moments and deeply appreciating them is good. Getting “addicted” to that energy is bad and if you’re not careful in how you are feeling the energy and or giving it back, you can be in a not so good place.
When you really connect with someone and you get that feeling in the core of your soul that lightening has struck a bit, be smart, go slow but not too slow, listen, keep the energy flowing naturally and enjoy every moment. Such moments are a gift and may be all you have.
Peace.
October 8th, 2008 at 8:04 pm
Joe Carney
Interesting post, I must say.
If you think you’re going to get a reaction out of me, you’re not.
What I feel for, is I feel sorry for you. I looked at your post, I read it, and I even allowed it on the blog because I’ve got nothing to hide and the fact is, is that in a year and a half of doing a blog you’re the first person that’s ever written something like this.
I feel bad for you. You’re like an angry little boy, and your life definitely sounds non-satisfactory.
I’ve seen guys like you before; guys that are angry at the world, angry at everybody, pointing the finger at everybody else for all the bad things that happened in their life.
You can’t get a women, you don’t have a good job, whatever it might be, because you play the role of being a victim, and victim’s usually look at people who are stronger than them with jealousy and anger
The fact is, is that everybody can create the life that they want and nobody should waste time spewing negative energy at another person.
You see, if you waste time spewing negative energy on other people, you’re going to bring negative into your life and you’re a negative person. How do I know this? Because I’ve seen guys like you and my mother was like this growing up.
She was a negative person which in turn really was one of my best lessons teaching me how to be a positive person.
Spend more time actually seeing the good in people. Because if you have nothing good to say you shouldn’t really say it, because every time you attack somebody you’re basically spewing that energy out into the universe.
What happens is, is exactly what you’re going to get back in your life. So, your life will continually be the victim and create an unsatisfactory life that it appears to be,
this is too deep for you. As the blog seems to have been too deep for you, you probably won’t even understand what I just said to you, and it’s all right, because you’re going to disappear into whatever hole you came from.
The blog that was written, you didn’t get it and understand it, because what it seems like to me is that you really don’t understand the depth of human relationships and calling it a high school type of crush only tells me of the last time you felt something for somebody was high school and you were innocent and not so bitter.
Or, you may just be a little boy who still lives in high school. Who knows? Who cares? Too many great people out there in this world that I need to pay my attention to.
October 8th, 2008 at 8:36 pm
I agree with you, but it also makes me a bit sad. And perhaps this is MY excuse for remaining.
I had one of those “lost in time” relationships. It lasted nearly two years and ended about 4 years ago. For me, no one else compares! I go on dates–I really do put myself out there. I volunteer, audition for plays, even joined a volleyball league this year. I’m not waiting for something else to happen in my life. I live in one of the top 10 single cities in the US, so I know there are other men out there. I’m really available right now.
But honestly, when a first date isn’t even as good as the last date with my “lost in time” man, I am not going to give him another chance. It’s exhausting to work that hard for a mediocre relationship. Maybe I’m too picky. And maybe I really am meant to be single. But I’m not settling for a ho-hum relationship that doesn’t curl my toes or steal my time or take my breath away.
October 8th, 2008 at 8:37 pm
Edit: my excuse for remaining single.*
October 8th, 2008 at 8:39 pm
David keep up the good job. Im glad you wrote about Joe Carney. He need’s to really shut his trap. He’s probably gay i don’t really care. But David contniue to give us the good information. I know i’ll keep listening.
October 8th, 2008 at 8:58 pm
@dsrtrosy, you should cherish the memories of your “lost in time” relationship but you shouldn’t let that hinder you from exploring something new.
David and I always advise clients to give new people you date a clean slate. It’s hard of you to expect the new person to live up to someone else’s past with you and when you keep on doing the compare and contrast, you’ll never give the new person a real shot at sweeping your feet away.
Each person is different. It’s OK to have preferences based on your old relationships… but be open minded. Allow the new person to be who they are. Only when you look at the new person with non-judgment can you learn to truly appreciate them.
October 9th, 2008 at 1:49 am
Fairytale:)
October 9th, 2008 at 3:03 am
I have a strange situation that this reminds me of. I was doing the online dating thing for a while and had met some nice guys, but nothing that really lit that spark inside me saying “WOW, this guy is great!” I was actually getting ready to terminate my membership when I get some random email from a guy in England. I live in New Mexico and thought, well, what can it hurt really? If he took the effort to send me a mail the least I can do is reply. That was three months ago. Now we talk on the phone every day. For hours at a time and he HATES to talk on the phone! The first time, we talked for six hours and it felt like I had just picked up the phone… There’s just such a connection there that we don’t even realize time is passing. We get so caught up in each other, and our energy that time just doesn’t make sense or exist anymore. What you’ve said is so true.. I can’t wait to hear about the small things that he does every day, or his childhood and vice versa. Everytime we hear each other’s voice.. well, it’s like we’ve talked to each other our whole lives and we can’t see it being any other way. I won’t say that we live for those conversations, but I will say that we are definitely addicted to them and they are the best part of our days. Who would have thought that a chance communication would take us here? This life is strange beyond words.
David - I wanted to say thanks so much for posting such a profound and thoughtful blog. Reading it just affirms for me that no, I’m not crazy or imagining things. This really does happen! It was exactly what I needed to see and hear - both from you and all the other wonderful people who’ve experienced such a deep thing. I’ve never been to your site before and just happened on it by chance tonight, but it resonated with me and I had to share. Thanks again and keep up the good work!
October 15th, 2008 at 3:39 pm
I love the blogs where everyone gets so blazingly passionate!
This blog sends chills through my veins.
Lost in time…
It’s the ultimate thing we crave and the one thing that scares us to death.
Maybe that’s because… what remains once we have that ultimate thing? What if that joy fades like it does for everything else we acquire?
Still, deep inside, we don’t truly believe that, do we?
A friend once said to me: “The ‘in love’ feeling wears off eventually.”
I have NEVER believed that.
I will prove the opposite or die in the process.
October 15th, 2008 at 5:26 pm
Pete….I personally think that the kind of love that fades that your friend was talking about wasn’t love but more like reciprocal narcisism meaning it was a mutual ego booster. Once one or the other’s ego was no longer being boosted, the feeling of love faded. Real love transcends that and lasts beyond that stage. But that first stage of infatuation, getting lost in time and finding that some one you feel a little nuts about is a good start…moving slow and cherishing those lost in time moments will hopefully lead to real love…the kind that doesn’t fade but just grows deeper. I, like you, believe that’s possible and will never give up looking for it and I will find it (or it me…LOL) I liked your reply. Peace!!!
October 17th, 2008 at 3:19 am
Joe Carney - Here’s a freebie from a therapist I heard speak many years ago: There are two kinds of people in therapy. The ones who blame themselves for everything and the ones who blame everyone else.
Those who blame themselves for everything haven’t figured out that the world does not revolve around them. They take the problems of the world on their shoulders as their fault. They are easier to treat once they understand that shit happens and that they can choose how they respond to the things that happen in their lives and the world at large. It certainly doesn’t make everything their fault. They just need a reality check or change in perspective for other possible ways to view their world and make changes.
Those who blame everything on everyone else are unable to accept responsibility for their actions and to make changes that will improve their lives or luck or whatever you call it. They take much longer to treat because nothing is ever their fault or responsibility. It’s always the fault of someone else, fate, karma, or a conspiracy to screw you personally, etc. Hate to sound like Dr. Phil but you can’t change what you don’t own.
Which one are you? Change your perspective and change your world. Suddenly, you may be open enough to experience what David and others here are describing. The world stops and suddenly becomes focused and quiet. You catch your breath for a moment when you realize that someone gets you in a way that you thought was not possible because you were sure that who you are deep inside was some big mystery - even to you. You never saw the connection coming - you’re just suddenly there and you don’t remember the journey. You want that feeling to continue…which it does, and you don’t understand that either. It gives you an inner warmth that buoys you against yet another tough day at work, a rude customer, a long commute, or an irritable boss. Just thinking about a moment with that person will soothe and calm you. It also rewards you in ways that allow you to be more of who you want to be and who you want the world to see when they look at you. Others will notice it in you before you do. And you know what the reason is…you allowed yourself to be open to the experience and it happened without you seeking it by name. You get back what you put out - make it something worthwhile for everyone.