Why I Hate Routine

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By David Wygant September 26, 2012 333 Shares

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You want to know why I hate routine?

Because doing the same thing every day is like death.

I have set up my life to not have any routines.

I work where I want to work, when I choose to work and with whom I choose to work.

If I don’t enjoy being with somebody anymore, I choose to eliminate him or her from my life.

Harsh? I don’t think so. It is the way that I have set my life up; it is the way that I like to live.

I am a free spirit, in so many ways.

I am not a misser. I am not somebody who does a lot of missing. When I am with somebody I enjoy their company and when I am not with them I enjoy the time by myself. I have never been much of a misser in my life, because every day I enjoy doing and being where I am at.

“Missing” is an emotion that is a waste of time and energy. If I am missing somebody it means that I am not present to where I am in that moment.

It doesn’t mean that I don’t think of people, it doesn’t mean I don’t have warm and fuzzy feelings inside about people from time to time, but to sit there and just ache or miss somebody—I don’t do it.

I like to hang out with people who I want to hang out with. I can’t stand schedule and routines.

When you schedule a call with me, and you’re one of my clients, I make sure I do it on days that I know I can commit. I don’t schedule anything before 10:00 in the morning, and I don’t schedule anything after 5:00 in the afternoon.

I truly live a life that I crafted for myself based on who I am as a person. I have really gotten to know myself—what I can and can’t do—and I’m okay with it all.

I don’t feel like I have any limitations. When I truly put my mind to something I know that I can do it. But there are some things that I just choose not to do and that’s okay.

This is a healthy attitude. It is an attitude that I think all of you should take in your own lives. Granted, some of you have work schedules, kids, and other lifestyles that do require scheduling.

Is it how you want to live?

That is today’s question:

How do you want to set your life up so that you can live it the exact way that you want with no compromises?

Let me know in the comments below.

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About David

1.7 million men & women come to me every month to find the secrets to success. And after 20 years of coaching, I’ve discovered the golden keys to success in dating, business, health and wellness, and life.

I’ve helped millions of men and women around the globe achieve success in their dating, social and personal lives. I’m also a father to the world’s cutest little girl, and I am an unapologetic man. Some say I’m nuts, others say I’ve changed their life forever. One thing’s for certain: I’ll always give you the truth, whether you can handle it or not. I never sugar coat anything.

Nice is so overrated. I’d prefer brutally honest breakthrough to a “nice” rut any damn day of the week. If you’re the same way, then you've come to the right place.

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Matthew G. Monroe

Wednesday, September 26th, 2012

David: You and I must share the same brain. There is nothing – NOTHING! – worse than routine and mindlessly repetitive tasks. Of course, our society is based upon routine and repetitive tasks (just think about how school is structured, or how business is typically conducted), and so the folks who aren't wired internally to put up with that stuff miss out on a lot of stuff that's considered "normal." In all honesty, though, "normal" is pretty damn boring. Myself, I embrace the non-normal stuff... I travel to second and third world countries (cheap and easy to do). I start up conversations with random strangers who look interesting, and have met tons of absolutely fascinating people by doing so (asking about tattoos is a great conversation starter). I also go out of my way to treat everyone – from corporate CEOs to day laborers – in exactly the same way. No special treatment (or condescension) based on hierarchy or economic status. So many people in this world simply go with the flow because it's what they've told they should do. I have no use for that approach to life. I'd rather get my own thing going.

Dave

Wednesday, September 26th, 2012

Routine, routine, routine, thats what I'm ALL ABOUT!!!

Hans

Wednesday, September 26th, 2012

Very good post. I just want to add that there are countless people who DEPEND on their daily routine for bare survival. Anything out of the ordinary totally freaks them out. In the end, I truly believe that everybody does what he or she is capable of. You think that somebody who goes with the flow is missing out ? Think again: they are going with the flow because that is all they are capable of. Talking to strangers ? Scary. Making your own decisions ? Even scarier. There really are not that many people out there who are capable of living a life like David or Matthew. And it shows very early: I bet the two of you have been like that since a very early age.

Ben Hunt

Thursday, September 27th, 2012

Hans, I do agree with you to some extent but I would say that people are only really capable of doing what their "mindset and attitude" allows them to do. If the person changed their attitude and mindset you would find that they can do the things you mention. But, of course not many people have the awareness to realise their life is really a product of their own thoughts!

Harrison Davignon

Friday, March 20th, 2015

16630 6tth AVE SW. Realy. I thought we all had different things about us such as some people naturally high energy and some low energy not matter what there thoughts are, and we are all different looking no matter what are thoughts are. Medications affect us in different ways no matter who we are and we need food, water and shelter to live. You bring up a great point though, like negative thinking is all in your head, we have different experiences that teach us different things.

Jeri

Tuesday, December 10th, 2013

PRETTY SURE YOU JUST SUMMED IT ALL UP! I STRUGGLE WITH ROUTINE...I KNOW I COULD USE A LITTLE STRUCTURE BUT DON'T WANT TO COMMIT TO IT. I HATE TO HAVE TO DO SOMETHING. I THINK IF I COULD GET IT TOGETHER A LITTLE MORE STRUCTURE WOULD GIVE ME MORE TIME TO DO THE THINGS I WANT TO DO.

Petko

Wednesday, September 26th, 2012

Hi David, there is another viewpoint on the routines. That they are the habits and are very powerful way for positive change. For example if you decide to diet, you will do it 1-2 days and you probably will quit at some point. The same goes with the fitness exercises. If the new behavior doesn't become your habit, you will probably return will lower confidence to your previous life. There is a very nice book out in the market. You can check it out - "The power of habit" by Charles Duhigg.

Matt

Wednesday, September 26th, 2012

I enjoyed this blog.. Everything in life is about being present in the moment and getting out of your head! That's the only thing stoping me from truelly connecting with someone is the fact I get taken out of the moment do to me not being present.. Routines keep you out of the moment because your always doing the same thing and thus are not letting natural events take place. Live life in the moment and you will bring happiness to your life because you are not outcome driven. PUA crap is a bunch of bullshit done by insecure assholes who look at women as objects and not wonderful individuals who contribute so much to life!

Harrison Davignon

Friday, March 20th, 2015

You're right but got to think in the future a little bit. like I if you live in the moment and eat junk food everyday in the moment thinking, you could have health problems down the road. I know we need a clean energy future and thats why i;m with environmental groups, run out of energy in our future, shut down economy, a lot of health problems from fossil fuel burning, destroyed planet. I thinking school in the long term will help me. It good to think in the moment and little bit in the future and turn the past negative or positive into life lessons, otherwise you will never learn.

Matt

Wednesday, September 26th, 2012

Anyone else want to see David update his YouTube account???

erick

Thursday, September 27th, 2012

Alright guys i feel weird, i feel kind of depressed under the radar. I want a girl who will have a long conversation , get raw, and will listen to my ideas. i dont know what to do guys im thinking it might be silly hormones but i dont know what it is (17 in highschool) I realy want to just hold a girl in my arms and love her and be there for someone :/

Technoboy

Friday, September 28th, 2012

Wow. I'm almost twice your age and have similar thoughts. Kudos to you for not waiting as long as I did before taking some action! Please don't get depressed though - that's never a good thing IMO. I get angry and frustrated sometimes, but not depressed. The way I think about it is: relating to women is a skill like any other and needs to be practiced. If I have trouble relating to women it means exactly that: I am lacking a skill that I can learn and practice, but it does not say anything about my character. I am fine in a hundred other ways. And I can own those words because in general if I look at the kind of person I would like to date and the kind of person I am, I see a ton of overlap. If I see a major discrepancy somewhere - like if I insist on a fitness model and am out of shape, or if I want an adventurer but play nintendo all day - then I have some work to do on myself, otherwise it's 'just' a matter of learning a new skill. Easier said than done though, I know. Hang in there.

Technoboy

Friday, September 28th, 2012

I have an interesting perspective on this based on a recreational interest in neuroscience: If you are doing routines, you are in autodrive mode - the same kind of unthinking mode you are in when you are driving your daily commute. It's a zombielike state that is not conducive to learning and exploration and discovery. If you are doing something new, you are in a childlike state of mind where you are active and engaging and thinking. And most importantly, making new connections in your brain and keeping your mind sharp. So I am very novelty seeking and go so far as to make sure that every time I go to the supermarket, I get some item that I have never gotten before. Routines do have their place though - especially when it comes to time management.

Harrison Davignon

Friday, March 20th, 2015

16630 6tth AVE SW. Like when I was working at the airport. Get up at the same time, bicycle ride the same rout, what made it non routine was the weather, sometimes rian, heavy wind, calm, snowing, sunny winter days, different temperatures, frost in the bike lane at times, frogs singing loudly as I passed a pond, quit at other times, different traffic patterns, different vehicles, so never really routine. At the airport working on the ramp( where the planes are) my schedule changed, different rules different airlines, seeing different planes take off and all sorts pf weather. At home depot, my schedule was always different, sometimes moorings, evenings, afternoons. I like to do things based off what needs to be done and be spontaneous. Like do yard work one day, adventure the next, choose different activities to do, college is not my favorite thing, but at the classes are different throughout the time i'm there. I bicycle ride a lot, but sometimes for arends and sometimes a good workout or a trip. I go to bed at slightly different times and wake up at slightly different and traveling is always fun and I like a variety of activities. Doing the same thing every day would bore me, its hard to describe, but it just would.

Harrison Davignon

Friday, March 20th, 2015

Harrison Davignon

Friday, March 20th, 2015

16630 6tth AVE SW. One more thing bicycle riding is not routine as driving a car. I'm always on high alert to different things, vehicles( like listening for big trucks coming) high speed downhill, weather, objects in the road, working hard up hill. wobbly loads on the luggage rack, empty rack, carrying different stuff while riding, either no shoulder, shoulder, bike lane, bike path, people paying attention to me or not, like I feel safer on 3rd avenue in downtown Seattle with a lot of buses and cars, then I do 10 miles away in quieter Burien, sometimes pedestrians to wait for and on a bus it is unpredictable as well, the bus can leave early late, different people, drivers. I a car its more consistent, you normally get in the car on your terms and leave on your terms, weather does not affect you so much, and your moving at the speed of traffic on a road normally.

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