‘Tis the season to be dating.
This is a great time to get creative with the dates this holiday.
Ditch the boring coffee date, ditch the boring dinner date, and let’s get creative here.
First off, if you’re going to do a coffee date, make it a holiday-themed coffee date. Get one of the gingerbread lattes or something spiced and enjoy the holiday decorations. It makes it a little more festive, a little more fun.
You’ve got ice skating. No matter how good or how bad you are, it’s great to watch your date fall on her ass as you fall on your ass, too.
Just walking around could be fun. Like the main main part of your town and checking out all the festivities. You can go window shopping, talk about the window displays, hold hands…you get the picture.
Or you can check out a holiday show. There’s always a fun little holiday show to go and see. Check out your local newspaper, check online, and find some holiday shows to go. It could be a concert, it could be a play, something that’s holiday-themed.
Go to a local department store and go visit Santa Claus. That’s right, have her sit on Santa’s lap, get the picture, and ask her to ask Santa if she was naughty or nice.
Have fun with it.
Or…go Christmas caroling.
It’s about having fun. Start doing things that are different and out of the ordinary this holiday season. It’s not about doing the same old, same old.
Those are enough tips to last until the end of the year. And if you have a date between Christmas and new years, go holiday gift returning with her. The two of you get the gifts that your grandparents gave you that you no longer want and you go pick out some new stuff.
You noticed this is all about activities. None of it is sitting there swapping resumes having the usual boring dinner date.
Get creative, have fun, and merry holidays.
“have her sit on Santa’s lap, get the picture, and ask her to ask Santa if she was naughty or nice.”
That’s what I like about you, David – you have an even more colorful imagination than I do
Easier said than done though! For me at least. I’ve always, always, always just wanted to go out and do activities rather than chat about how my day went. I’m a doer, not a talker. Seems like ‘normal’ people prefer to talk or hang out or spend money for fun instead of doing something out of the ordinary though. Most of my nerdfriends don’t do anything active ever, and most of my cool friends just want to hang out and drink and gossip. Yawn.
Whine, whine, whine
OK, I feel better now that I’ve vented all that. Thanks for listening.
OK, question for the ladies:
What’s the most unusual activity a guy has asked you out on WITHOUT a previous chit chat date that got you excited and saying yes? You’ve just had your two minute street conversation, or maybe a few interesting email exchanges, or maybe hung out while with a group of friends, but this is the first one on one date.
Let’s see, my thoughts just off the top of my big shiny head, are:
Hiking, ice skating, snowboarding, kayaking (not this time of year but in general), making a snowman, indoor climbing, volunteering, challenging you to a bout of ping pong or connect four or trampoline arena dodgeball or something, swing dancing, cooking class, teaching you how to juggle or ride a unicycle or handle a fire staff, climbing some trees while taking a walk in the park, …
Just thinking out loud here.
David thanks for all your tips. I was a late bloomer physically and on the social scene. I’ve been reading your blog and youtube videos for the last few months. I finally have a date this weekend w/ a really nice girl i’ve been talking too for a few days. Whether it goes well or not, I am so much more confident after seeing your tips. You’re a great man and make a difference in people’s lives.
I have come to understand that when approaching a woman with success you’re inner state of being has to be good. This is a must because women can sense what you feel inside. So next time when you approche a woman make sure you’re in your happy place inside.