The other day I was out with one with one of my clients walking around.
He looked at me and said, “David, whenever I’m out, I always see a woman that I’m attracted to and I’ve wanted to steal her away from this other guy. I just don’t know how to do it. Can you give me a little tip?”
What I’m about to share with you is one of the best bar tips ever.
Now, if you read my blog then you know that I’m not a big bar person. I don’t drink. I don’t really party that much. But, when I do go out to a bar I love playing this game.
I call it the “Bar Game”, or “The Friday Night Steal Her Away from Another Man Game”.
And this is how you play:
I’ll walk into a bar and then target my woman. Now, I won’t walk over to her immediately like a lot of other guys do.
I mean, that sometimes works, but I prefer to gather as much information about her and then steal her away from the guy that initially went in too aggressively.
That’s how I play the bar game.
See, when women go out at night, their defenses go up. And the longer they are out, the higher the defenses rise.
As each drunken man walks over to her and says something stupid, she retreats further and further into a cocoon. They sometimes look to their friends to block any other men from approaching (the “cockblock”).
I like to watch a little bit. I like to look around the room and pick out a couple different women that I’d like talk to and then I’ll watch guys crash and burn.
So what usually happens is the aggressive guys go in quickly. The ones that are super aggressive usually want to get laid, or they’re just phone number collectors and they just want to go and meet a woman as quickly as possible to go meet another one.
So after an overly-aggressive guy fails, I’ll walk over to the woman, I’ll whisper in her ear, and I’ll say this:
“You know, I really think it’s time you and I talked.
I’ve been watching you, and checking you out and you know what, I don’t think it’s going to work with that guy. It’s just a feeling that I have.
So here’s the deal. I’m going to walk away. You’re going to dismiss yourself in 30 seconds, you’re going to come over, and you and I are going to get to know one another.”
Then I’ll back away and smile. I’ll look at her and I’ll look at the guy and say, “Oh man, she’s an awesome, awesome girl—she really is.”
I’ll walk away, and I’ll let her come back to me.
That’s the game.
And guys, I’ve got to tell you something, the majority of the times you do this, she will come over because she’s intrigued by what the hell just happened.
She’s going to forget about whatever guy she was talking to. Even if she thinks I’m an asshole for doing it, she’s still going to wonder who I am and what I’m all about and it’s going to ruin whatever conversation she had going with the other guy.
That’s one of my favorite things to do when I’m out in a bar.