Why She Doesn’t Want to Commit

You’ve got a flirtatious banter going on with a beautiful woman.

You’ve gone out on several dates.

You start to develop intrigue, maybe a little bit of feelings for her.

She tells you that she doesn’t want anything serious right now; she doesn’t want a commitment.

Yet…you want something entirely different.

What do you do?

You listen.

You can’t change somebody’s viewpoint on what they want and desire in life.

This is the biggest mistake people make when dating. They think to themselves, “Ya know, I hear what she’s saying, but I am going to change her mind.”

I would say that women do this more often that men–wanting to be fixers & changers. Guys are a bit more thick–we often choose to ignore the signals, and not here what they are saying.

What just happened is that she told you exactly, right from the beginning, what she wants, needs, and desires. It’s just a matter of you listening to them carefully.

If you don’t listen to them, then guess what happens? You end up getting hurt down the road, you set yourself up for it.

If someone takes a pass on you, meaning they’re not looking for the commitment you’re looking for at the present moment. Look at them straight in the eyes and tell them:

“I’m looking for a commitment. I do want a committed relationship. It’s important to me. I don’t know where you are in your life, but I don’t want to move forward if you don’t want the same thing.”

Six months down the road, they might remember that, might run into you again and the sparks may fly all over the place. This time she may want exactly what you want.

But it will work only then.

Listen…and date well, my friends.