What You Can Learn From Matt Leinart

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By David Wygant September 8, 2010 512 Shares

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Let me ask you a couple of questions…

Do you suffer from high expectations?

Are you really doing all that you can do to meet the opposite sex?

Be honest with yourself!

Or do you suffer from Matt Leinart disease? (Yes, that’s him on the right… A little drunk you might say)

What’s that? If you haven’t followed the news, Matt was expected to be a starter for the Arizona Cardinals, but has now been released.

To find out more you need to listen to today’s eye opening life changing podcast!

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1.7 million men & women come to me every month to find the secrets to success. And after 20 years of coaching, I’ve discovered the golden keys to success in dating, business, health and wellness, and life.

I’ve helped millions of men and women around the globe achieve success in their dating, social and personal lives. I’m also a father to the world’s cutest little girl, and I am an unapologetic man. Some say I’m nuts, others say I’ve changed their life forever. One thing’s for certain: I’ll always give you the truth, whether you can handle it or not. I never sugar coat anything.

Nice is so overrated. I’d prefer brutally honest breakthrough to a “nice” rut any damn day of the week. If you’re the same way, then you've come to the right place.

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Wednesday, September 8th, 2010

Hi Dave, If you're going to send these in the newsletters, can you have it in print form too. A lof times, we're reading this on a blackberry or laptop at work and can't hear it on podcasts...so it means that whenever your newsletters link to some podcast or video, we can't really get to it or end up skipping it altogether. And the Matt Leinart topic would seem to be a very interesting one considering he was the number 10 pick and was just cut out right, which rarely happens in the NFL for such a touted quarterback.

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Pavel

Wednesday, September 8th, 2010

my name is Pavel(34) . im Polish and living in UK Bristol . hahahah i love you dude . mind set is everything . moste of things you saying is reall and i like that . i hope you live 100 years .

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Steve-O

Wednesday, September 8th, 2010

David, Such a great podcast today, so insitefull. A person just can't get this kind of insite from anyone else in this industry. This was great for the mindset today. I'll take some good mentoring for my "mind" over mentoring for my "game" anyday. Thanks,

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Jeff

Wednesday, September 8th, 2010

wow David that is fantastic, I started in the whole PUA thing about 4yrs ago and stumbled on you, and i read your blog every day and have been reading John Grey and David Deida and a whole bunch of other thing's about truly being a man, abundance is a good thing and i so love having option's i was always "the nice guy" I am not mean or an ass hole now, i have learned to say no though. I was just telling some guy's i work with recently that I love the fact that I do have female friend's and i can go hang out with a woman any time I want and not have to try to be impressive or think how am I going to get into her pant's no stupidity I can just enjoy the company of a beautiful woman, I have a couple woman i am friend's with who I went out with and was just not into romantically and told them that they where a little hurt but grateful for my honesty and we have become really good friend's. I am not quit where i want to be yet but I am gaining the abundance mentality more and more everyday. Jeff

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AC

Wednesday, September 8th, 2010

Hey Mr. Wygant, I have no idea whats up with you, but you are a GENIUS. This has to be the biggest wake up call for me, the whole idea about expectations being there because of a slow social life was SO dead on. So like you said in your pod cast, I will "get my ass out there and do the work." Seriously, you're a genius and I love ALL of your stuff. Hope to see way more of your stuff in the future for a long, long time.

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David Wygant

Wednesday, September 8th, 2010

Jeff That is all great lessons you are learning and embracing!! Keep it up!

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David Wygant

Wednesday, September 8th, 2010

PAvel The only way I am living 100 years is if I can live the 100 years healthy and painfree:)

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David Wygant

Wednesday, September 8th, 2010

Steve O Get the mind in gear and life becomes easy and there will be no need for silly pick up games. The formula is that that easy, I talk all about this at length in my mastery series!

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David Wygant

Wednesday, September 8th, 2010

AC Thanks for the great comment!!! This was one of my favorite podcasts yet, CAnt wait to start my radio show in a few weeks!

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AJ

Wednesday, September 8th, 2010

David, It has been the one of the best podcasts I have ever listened on your blog.What you say is exactly who I am these days in dating and I am getting disappointed more and more by my expectations.I am a talented well educated nice guy and It`s hard for me to get rid of my expectations but I have to work on that as it seems there is no option left to immune myself against being hurt.It`s like you have read my mind. Thank you

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Bob

Wednesday, September 8th, 2010

This podcast is trully confusing to me. I have often wondered if I suffer from too low of expectations in trying to meet women. You seem to suggest that having absolutely no expectations is how you should go about dating women. It seems, I meet woman after woman, either in person, or on line, who truthfully, I just don't want to see again, after getting to know them. With all the options in meeting women today, it seems there is an endless stream of women, that are available to take out. But, I seemed to have had better luck when I dated far fewer women, who I met only at events that I am interested in. Of course, that way of meeting women is few and far between, and does not subscribe to the "abundance" theory, where you should be open to talking, meeting, and dating women, wherever you are, at all times. In meeting women at events that you are only interested in, there may be 10 or so women. 7 or eight will be married, the rest either too old, too young, not physically atractive to you, uninterested, or unavailable. After dozens of meaningless dates, using the "abundance theory", I wonder if I am spreading myself too thin, by going out every week, dating all these women, with no results. The idea of abundance seems to be doing me no good in my quest. Should I narrow down my choices, have fewer dates, and actually have HIGHER EXPECTATIONS, with fewer women? The quarterback example makes no sense to me either. In a recent, previous podcast, you state that confidence is the ability to think that you can do anything, completely believe in yourself, and not worry about failure, no matter how many times it happens. Well, this Leinart guy seemed to have all the confidence in the world, if he, as you said, expected to lead his team to the superbowl,should have been a first round pick, and immediately be a champion quarterback. What happened to him? He failed miserably, and is now ridiculed and relegated to a third string, third class, quarterback. So, his extreme confidence seems to have been terrible, useless, and even a negative influence for him. Yes he failed, but as you suggested, he is not bothered by failure, and apparently, still believes completely in himself. You seem to say that he was wrong in believing in himself, and wrong for not worrying about failure now. Of course, we are all aware, as I hope he was, that confidence is a completely different emotion than arrogance. Looking forward to your new radio show. Your blog really keeps me thinking, and reflecting, on my current beliefs, and how I should adjust my future beliefs.

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Wednesday, September 8th, 2010

I agree with almost every you said Dave, except about Derek Anderson. He's pretty good...at least he could move the ball, something Leinart couldn't do...Leinart just played it safe with the check downs.

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Thursday, September 9th, 2010

Oh....just finished the podcast.... by the way, that was probably the best podcast I've heard on here all year. Very on target. More importantly, very timely for what a lot of people are feeling this time of year. Summer was supposed to be the time, with all the great parties and outdoor activities, but I've heard more than one person complain about how "hard" it is, meanwhile they a lot going for them but haven't tried what Dave is saying in the broadcast. Is it really possible for everyone to get that "dream" person...just the law of statistics would say that's not possible.

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Greg

Thursday, September 9th, 2010

Bob makes a good point, but I think I understand what you're saying. Maybe the point of this podcast isn't that Matt LEinart had expectations that were too high - it was that he started coasting and approaching his challenges with his mind still rooted in the past or future. There's a concept called "taking right action" that took me a while to get. Basically, you act with presence and intention - without concern for the past or future. When I'm able to do this, my results are way better than when I cling to how smooth I was when I chatted up that hot brutette at the post office yesterday. The analogy would be that Leinart is living more in the past, and therefore his current action isn't nearly as strong as it should be.

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Thursday, September 9th, 2010

I think expectations is being used very liberally....and people are using it differently here in different context. Matt Leinart felt "entitled" to the starting quarterback position. That guy has had the worst attitude going into the job. He sufferred from the "Ryan Leaf" disorder. Leinart came in and didn't work as hard as he should, partying when he should have been studying...and that's crazy because the playbook is a mile thick and you have to compete at the highest level. Even Peyton Manning who has come from football royalty locked himself in the film room when he first got in the league and religiously studies the arial shots to see where he needs to improve--which you can see him do every sunday or any behind the scenes footage. Now compare Leinart to just his predecessor Kurt Warner. Kurt didn't feel entitled...in fact, he was bagging groceries and slinging footballs for arena football. Kurt always believed he could do it, but he certainly didn't whine when things didn't originally go his way. This is perhaps why his teammates rally around him, whereas they privately murmur about Leinart.

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Thursday, September 9th, 2010

The podcast was very painful for me. It was painful, because the truth really does hurt! Matt Lienart and I are guilty of feelings of entitlement without behaving in ways to justify the treatment we feel we should get (note "get" vs. "deserve"). Actions get results, and it's never too late to set goals, work towards them, and improve. I'm very guilty of Matt Lienart-type behavior and need to improve. Thank you for lighting a fire (again) David!

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