caitlyn jenner dating adviceAs you all know, I don’t spend much time reading about celebrities. But I got to tell you, I’ve got to give my thumbs up to the courage of Caitlyn Jenner. First off, I can’t imagine the hell it must have been, living with the Kardashians all those years. That, to me, must have been a real nightmare to actually live with those people.

I can’t imagine what it must be like to come home to Kris Jenner, or to deal with those girls. I have to tell you, the Caitlyn Jenner story really touches me. I remember when I was living in New York City. I got out of college, moved into Manhattan a year later, and started working in a bar. I met a guy named Sandy Sanborne.

Sandy Sanborne was a kid from Nebraska.

He went to the University of Nebraska. He decided to move to New York City so he could live a life of courage. He went there to live the life that he always wanted to. You see, for Sandy Sanborne’s first 22 years of life, he had to be one of the guys. He had to be a guy, a man.

He had to pretend he liked women, and he had to pretend he liked sports. He was a Nebraska boy. Sandy Sanborne moved to New York City, got a job in a restaurant, and immediately “turned” gay. But did he?

That was always Sandy Sanborne’s joke. He used to say, “I went to NewYork and I turned gay. Really I knew I was gay since I was 5 years old, and I had to live and suffer for all these years. I was able to go to New York and be amongst my people.”

He came out of the closet with a bang.

I don’t know where Sandy Sanborne is right now, but I always admired him. He had to be what people thought he should have been for such a long time, when in reality, Sandy was just a gay boy, then a gay teenager, and finally a gay man.

He went to New York to become free. Throughout my 20s and 30s in New York City, I met men like that. They came out of the closet. They came to New York City to be free. I found that courageous. Look at what Caitlyn Jenner did, living her life as Bruce when she always wanted to be a woman. He finally came out at 65.

Some people will say, “Oh, she’s 65, what does it really matter?”

It does. To be able to live freely, the way you want to live, is what life is all about. It’s a beautiful thing to see people come and live that way.  All of you who suffer with approach anxiety and the fear of meeting women. Those who have the fear of sexually escalating, and the fear of what to say on a date, it’s all a bunch of crap.

You’re a man. You can learn these skills. You like women. You can learn how to be more expressive. You can you learn how to be more physical. These aren’t things that should bother you for the rest of your life. I have programs for you. It takes a little courage to push yourself out there and talk to the opposite sex, but eventually you’re going to get it right.

You don’t need the kind of courage of people like Caitlyn Jenner, and Sandy Sanborne. You don’t need the courage of people who had to pretend that they were something else their whole lives just to fit in with society.

That is beautiful. That is courage. So think about it the next time you’re looking at a woman and you don’t know what to say. You know you should approach her, but you don’t.

I want you to think about Caitlyn Jenner and Sandy Sanborne.

Think about all they had to go through to get where they needed. Especially Caitlyn Jenner. The amount of public outcry, and the amount of opinions she’s had to listen to. I mean Bruce Jenner isn’t someone people don’t know. Aside from being one of the ‘Kardashians’, don’t forget Bruce was the greatest athlete in the world, on the cover of Sports Illustrated.

She was always going to face a public storm, yet she did it. So channel your inner Caitlyn and your inner Sandy, and grab your balls and go flourish with the most beautiful woman you can find today. I guarantee it’s easier than pretending to be something you’re not all your life.