I love spending the night with a woman. I really do. I love falling asleep in bed with her. I love waking up four times, knowing that she has to pee, and I think to myself, huh, doesn’t she know I have trouble going to sleep?

Anyway, there are things you need to know about your man and find out what type of spend-the-nighter he is.

1. I love my alone time.

I really do. I value it. I love quiet in the mornings. It’s my most creative time of the day, when I’m able to just process my thoughts, get my work done, write my blogs, think about what I need to do next. It’s when I really accelerate in life.

I’m not into long morning conversations with my partner. As a matter of fact, I like silence in the morning. I don’t like when a woman starts chatting my ear off in the morning. I’m happy that she’s excited that she slept over.

I’m happy that she’s excited and she wants to talk to me.

I’m happy about all that, but I need quiet.

2. I love when you leave.

It’s not that I don’t love you. It’s not that I don’t want to be with you.

It’s not that I haven’t had my morning cup of coffee because I don’t drink coffee or caffeine.

It’s just I like my alone time in the morning.

Even if I live with a woman, I’ll crawl out of bed after cuddling, and I’m not going to get in a long conversation, and I’ll literally go to my room, my office, my deck. I’ll take a walk because I’m not ready to have a conversation with another human being yet.

I will be after about an hour. I want to clear my head. I want to process the night, whatever we discussed or talked about. I want to process it. The sex was extra good. I want to process that.

I’m not ready to jump into this long-ass conversation in the morning, which leads us to number three.

3. When I say goodbye to you, I’m just saying goodbye to you in the moment.

I don’t like a long goodbye, lots of kisses. I just want you to leave. It’s not that I don’t want to be with you. It’s not that I don’t care for you. It’s not that I don’t love. I just want you to get the fuck out of my house so I can get my day started, so I can process the things I need to process, as I mentioned up there in reason number two.

I know I might be sounding like a, well, like an insensitive asshole right now.

But I’m not. I’m just being fucking honest.

And that’s why…

When you’re dating somebody, you need to tell them what your morning routine is so they can respect it so they don’t get insulted at all, so they don’t feel insulted, so they don’t feel insecure, so they don’t process or go somewhere they don’t need to go. It’s called communication. They can’t assume anything.

And when you assume something, you never know what the other person is thinking or feeling, so be concise and let somebody know exactly what you’re feeling. Otherwise, you will come across as an asshole.

And you don’t want to be that asshole.

The older we get, the longer we’ve been alone, the simpler it is for us to really get into our own patterns in our own life. So allow someone to know your patterns in your life and things you need because a real relationship is respecting the boundaries that we put up for each other so then, when we do connect, we connect when we’re both willing and open to do so.

If you’re with chatty Cathy or chatty Tommy, and he wants to talk in the morning, you need to tell them what your morning routine is, and they need to respect it because that is my most creative time of the day. If I’m not allowed to have that, I don’t flow into my day at all. I feel off, and if I’m off, I’m not successful in my day like I need to be. Honest communication, folks. That’s the way to go.