Tom BradyHow do you get really good at something? You get completely immersed into it. Have you ever read the book “Outliers” by Malcolm Gladwell?

In that book, Malcolm Gladwell states in order to become an expert at something you need to put 10,000 hours into it. But so many people expect to get good at something without putting any time into it. If you’re serious about meeting women, finding love, and having a beautiful girlfriend you need to immerse yourself in that. How do you do that? You critique yourself.

You record your own approaches. You listen to them. Think about what you could have said differently. Were you listening carefully? Were you enthusiastic? Was your tonality good? Did you own your words?

If you look at Tom Brady, Peyton Manning or any other successful NFL player, they’re totally immersed in what they do. It’s funny, I wrote a blog about Peyton Manning, and some of you got your panties all tied up. You’re like, “Screw Manning. Brady’s much better.”

If Brady is better than Manning he’d be the MVP of the league. It’s like comparing Superman to Batman. You’re talking about two super-studs that play the game of football better than just about any quarterback that ever played. That said, for those of you who were making fun of Manning, how do you feel today?

He totally dominated Brady yesterday, and the Patriots left Denver with their tails between their legs. Sure Manning has better weapons, but that’s just an excuse. Manning was perfectly prepared, and that comes from years of practice. 

Now he gets to play the Seahawks in the Super Bowl, and you know even though he’s played this game over and over for 15 years, he’ll still put in the practice time so he’s prepared for it. He won’t just show up. Most people just turn up and get frustrated when results don’t happen. The best are the best for a reason. They’re immersed in what they do. They practice. They put in the hours. They work with the talent around them. They whine. They don’t quit. They just keep going. And it’s funny, I read some of your comments. You’re like, “Look at Manning. He was whining after one of the plays.”

Let me tell you something…

After a dropped pass, every NFL player is going to look for pass interference. If your quarterback gets hit, they’re going to look for roughing the passer. That’s the way the game is played. They all do it. And they immerse themselves in their career, their sport, and their craft. How do you immerse yourself in your craft? How do you immerse yourself in your life? When you come home after a night out and you haven’t met any women, do you whine to the officials?

You run up to an official who watched you fail at the bar, and you sat, “Hey, I won that girl fairly. You should have thrown the yellow flag!”

You see quitters quit, and then blame the system they tried to learn. It’s never the system and always the quitter.  Brady lost yesterday but he didn’t blame his system. He was a man and accepted he lost to the better man on the day. In order to get great at anything, you need to immerse yourself in it. You need to put in the work, and you need to be diligent. Get out there and do it, every single day!

Your turn!