Today on this full moon Sunday and the night of the season premier of the second season of one of my favorite shows, True Blood, it is the perfect day to work on getting rid of the demons in your head. Today is the day to eliminate the old stuff holding you back.

So in today’s blog I’m going to talk about a female client I helped to see that she needed to eliminate certain things that were holding her back sexually, and talked to her about how to eliminate some of the sexual demons in her head.

I recently had an interesting conversation with a client. She’s a woman in her early 30s who, for the first time in her life, wants to start experimenting sexually. She is learning about who she is and what she wants sexually with a man.

As we were talking, I told her that there are a lot of women who don’t give themselves permission to have great, fun and crazy sex because they believe that most will judge them if they do. The truth is that if you do have sex like this, that some men will judge you.

If you are the type of woman who wants to experiment sexually, then you need to find a man who is going to embrace who you are and what you’re all about because a judgmental man is never going to understand you. Why do you want to be with somebody who judges you?

If you all of a sudden want to have a sexual relationship with a man, then you should be able to have a sexual relationship with a man. There are no boundaries except the ones you put on yourself.

Why are you going to allow other people to put boundaries on you, when the whole point of exploring yourself sexually is so you can be boundary free? It’s the whole reason you make the decision to explore yourself sexually in the first place.

With each lover you have, you learn more and more about yourself. As you learn how to please a man, you will learn how you want to be pleased.

So then in the long run when you’re ready for a relationship, you’re the lover you always wanted to be and you’re going to find the kind of lover you’ve always wanted to find. That’s what exploring yourself sexually is really all about.

So for those women out there who want to experiment sexually, I say go for it. Enjoy it!

If while you’re doing that you run across men who judge you, those are not the men for you. Those are men who are going to impede your growth as a sexual person, not help you to become the kind of sexual person you want to be.