Before I tell you what our greatest fear is, you’re going to hear the most raw, true confession, ever.

We’re going to like you.

We go, we text with you on one of those silly apps like Bumble or Tinder.

And we want to like you.

For those of us that are even more daring, we get on the phone and have a phone conversation with you. We really want to like you.

You see, we’re tired of all the swiping, dating, flaking, and all of the other unbelievable shit that comes with modern dating.

We’re all aboard the relationship train.

As a matter of fact, the choo-choo whistle is blowing. All aboard the dating train!

Next stop, like-ville.

We truly want to like you.

So are you ready for the biggest fear that we have?

You don’t look like your picture!

Let me tell you something, and this is not to sound egotistical or anything else.

I am better looking than my pictures.

I don’t dress my picture up.

I don’t take angles to cut years off of my age.

I just put up a nice picture of myself, and let the chips fall as they may. I like to see the pleasant surprise in a woman’s face when I first meet her, and she goes, you’re better looking than your picture.

You see, our biggest fear is that you don’t look like your picture.

When you show up on the date, and we look at you and we think to ourselves, again, because that is the first thing that comes to our mind. Again. How does this happen again?

We even look and try to find your worst picture, and think, if she looks like this, we’re okay.

But women, you’re like masters of illusions. You’re masters at angles, and Photoshop, and sunglasses on in your pictures, and other deceiving pictures.

I’m not saying this to be an ass hole.

I’m saying this so that you don’t actually waste your time.

It’s not because you’re not attractive.

It’s just when you’re an illustration to somebody, they expected spent else and got what you presented instead.

You see, you’re all beautiful in your own way. Who I am attracted to, my friend may not be attracted to.

A friend of mine, Obie, is not attracted to any of the women that I pick out. He likes them a little plumper.

A little curvier.

There is nothing wrong with that at all.

Every man is attracted to something different. So if you are who you are, and you put up exactly what you look like, you’re still going to get the same amount of men to swipe, and say yes.

You’re still going to get the same amount of men that want to date you, and say yes. But, you’re going to get quality instead of fake b.s.

You see, when ever you fake somebody out, they get annoyed, you get annoyed, and then the two of you get off of the online dating app and trash it, and say it doesn’t work.

Which slows down your own dating train.

Even when you don’t show up looking like your picture, what goes through my mind and every other male was God, I wanted to like you. We have been using religious terms here because we are praying for you to look like your pictures.

We even give the date time, because we are praying that we become more attracted to you, but to be honest with you, it is either there or not.

Men can’t bullshit attraction, neither can you.

Men will grow on you, but us? We’re visual. Maybe more so than you are, not saying you’re not, but we truly are visual creatures. For you, you absolutely beautiful, amazing woman, be what you are, show what you are all about. That way you get a quality lead – someone who is excited and says hell yes.

I am so happy that she looked like her picture.