Forget The Bars Tonight Head To Whole Foods

Umm! Sorry it is late but did not get a chance to read the blog...but thought I would say something about the title well here in Nashville Tennessee it would be head on down to Wal Mart or Krogers Aldi's Publix and etc. We do not have a Whole Foods here. Luv u Dave Merry Christmas to u and ur family as well as the coaching team.

No offense Dave. I've heard you mention this a million times....but it just hasn't worked out for me the way it has for you. In fact, I think the supermarket and places where the girls do not expect to be hit on by a stranger is one of the harder closes you can do. It seems like this is for someone with more advanced skills like yourself... and even if you do get a number...it's not even sure that that would be a solid number. Places like a bar or some event while stressful seems to have at least yielded me numbers cosnsistently of very good looking girls all in one cocentrated area. While in a supermarket, there's no social validation and she doesn't trust some stranger that would give the illlusion of safety as say in a bar where you happened to be a friend of a friend or she sees you with 10 other people so you must be cool.

I've been preaching for aeons the superiority of day game. I've always noticed that the quality of women I meet in book stores and cafes is much higher than the quality of women I meet at night clubs and bars. On another note, women are much more open to talking to you at places like whole food stores and cafes. It's much easier for them to let go of their social constraints. I e; pursuing / dating a guy they met at a bar is much less "acceptable" than dating a guy they met at a cafe. I've had a much higher success rate w/ cold approaching at Barnes and nobles than at my local bar. It's also more satisfying to know that you don't need alcohol to get women to like you.

I completely agree with the supermarket/coffee house/store meeting locations compared to bars/clubs. While the women may not be expecting somebody to come up and talk to them, this may mean they are actually more open to conversation compared to a woman going to a bar and putting up a shield to protect herself from the drones of men who will undoubtedly be approaching her. The best women I have dated, as Solve also mentioned, have been from these more casual locations.

Anonymous You need to expand your horizons and challenge yourself to meet a whole new bunch of women. You may have tried to meet women in the market but you may not have done it correctly. I know you would want to master this and expand your horizons. So I challenge you to do so!

David, I love your approach to approaching! I got fed up with bars and clubs a while back and one day I thought to myself "there has to be a better way to meet and flirt with women" and literally the next day I found your material. Just went through the mastery program and am really loving it. Sure bars and clubs were fun when I was younger and needed alcohol to numb the nervousness, but now I am more about affection AND connection, and I like being fully present with the person I am interacting with. Besides, meeting women at places like whole foods fits into my life, rather than being a separate event (which sets up goals and expectations, and creates outcome based thinking leading to anxiety). After listening to the mastery program, I don't even have to put much effort into it, the conversation just seems to flow out of me easier. Plus I feel that the program has changed me in some way so that women are more open and even talk me up (I am all about letting things happen naturally). Thanks, Ryan

Solve, I agree with you fully. For me, one of the main points against bar/club game is the quality of women. Did you ever notice that you meet COMPLETELY different women during daytime? And you would probably never meet them in a bar or club? It depends on what you're looking for, but day encounters are usually much more fulfilling and interesting.

Last comment on this blog: I usually hang out at bookstores like Mc Kay's Used Books and CD etc. Well here in Ashland City Tennessee we have Mayfield's but not too many people come there. I meet a lot of people just checking them out at Wal Mart.

Ok. Thanks David. I do feel more out of my element in the supermarket surprisingly. I'm fairly social guy...and in certain venues like clubs, the women expect you to come on to them and there's really nothing they've never seen there. So, in a way, I felt way more comfortable there whereas a supermarket there seems to be 1-5 minutes tops and none of the social "enhancers" like a cool social group, etc....

There are so many positives to meeting women in the day time whether its at your local market, starbucks or a yoga class. They do not expect the average guy to approach them. In a bar or club, "fa get about it!", the music is usually too loud to carry on a decent conversation without yelling (and, not to mention everyone is intoxicated), their usually there in groups and then you have to deal with cock blockers and AMOGS plus she has her guard up because she knows every guy in the place is on the prowl. You've got none of those things to deal with during the day. David is spot on!

ok, after listening to the "mastery series", I thought observations like "what's the green drink" was BAD. David tells about critisizing a client for approaching a woman with "what's the blue drink?", and called it boring, and a dumb question. So, my question is, why is it a good opener here, and not in the example in the mastery series? I know this is a very old thread, but if by chance someone reads this, and can answer me, I would appreciate it. I really want to know what the difference is, so I can understand.