The Law Of Attraction Works Both Ways!
By David Wygant
I received the following comment from someone the other day that I simply had to share with all of you as it illustrates something I teach perfectly. Let’s read what he wrote first, then I’ll explain further.
“David, I dont know what planet you’re from, but it’s not Earth. I think that perhaps you need to get out in the world and see for yourself. The problems in the dating world are never due to the man being needy or not being confident in himself. The problems lie with the way women have been brought up by their parents.
Women view the world as though everything and everyone is at their beckoned call and disposal. Especially mens bank accounts. Women have NO morals in todays society. They will do whatever it takes to get what they want. THAT is what is most important to them.
Too many times have I been out, alone, enjoying a drink when a girl will ask me to buy her a drink and when I do, its like she didnt even know I was in the room afterwards.
Women have been brought up being called “Princess” like they are something special and this give them a false impression of how the world views them. “Princess” is a word that should be banished by the english speaking world.
Every relationship I have had always ended the same way. She had all my money and personal items and I was left out in the cold and broke. They would cheat on me even though I was the best role model for men there is.
Men are blinded by pussy. They think the only way they are going to get some is if they do each and every thing a woman wants. WRONG!
We should go back to the time when women were seen and not heard, and 99% of those shouldnt let their big ass’ be seen.
David”
There are endless things I could say about this guy’s unbelievably poor mindset and attitude, but I posted his comment in this blog because it is the perfect example of one of the most important concepts I teach people I coach: what you believe (positive OR negative) you WILL manifest in your life.
Many of you have probably heard of “the law of attraction” which basically is this very concept . . . except people often believe that this “law” works only in terms of what you can POSITIVELY attract into your life. You may have seen articles dealing with “the law of attraction which discuss how you can use it to bring wealth, love, fame or success into your life.
“Attraction” is such a positive word . . . but what many people don’t realize is that you can (and will) attract BOTH the good and the bad things into your that your attitude and belief system attracts to it. Here is where our friend Dave’s comment is so perfectly illustrative. He is the textbook example of someone whose poor mindset and beliefs manifest all of those poor things into his life.
Dave’s comments make very clear that he believes himself to be a perpetual victim: he complains at length about how every woman takes advantage of him, his affections, his generosity, his money and his supreme fidelity – despite the fact that he is (and I quote) “the best role model for men there is.” According to him, EVERY woman leaves him broke, cheats on him, believes she should be treated like a princess, ignores him after she gets what she wants and just plain has no morals!
Wow, what are the odds that EVERY woman this guy meets has all of these awful characteristics? Or are ALL women simply like this? Think about how ridiculous this is for a minute.
Another thing that stuck out when reading Dave’s comments was that he takes NO responsibility for any of the romantic failures he’s experienced. He puts 100% of the blame for the fact that ‘every relationship he’s had always ends the same way’ on the fact that ALL women by their nature are people with the laundry list of horrible characteristics he describes.
Is he kidding? In all of these failed relationships there wasn’t one percent of blame that was attributable to him? Again, this is absurd.
Dave seems to find the same kind of woman (and the same kind of relationship) over and over again. Why? Well, looking at what all his relationships have in common, the one thing that is constant is HIM. In life, when we evaluate things in our life we need to remember to always look in the mirror.
Dave has cultivated such negative beliefs about relationships, about the nature of women, about his expectations for a relationship and about his identity as a consummate victim, that he will continue to attract this same kind of woman (and relationship) over and over again. He is manifesting all of these bad beliefs and attitudes into his life every day!
“The law of attraction” works to bring both the good and the bad things you believe into your life. So take some time to think about what you believe and what your mindset is all about.
If you look at your relationship patterns and feel like you keep meeting “bad people” or the wrong people, then you need to really re-evaluate what kind of energy you’re putting out to the world and what kind of beliefs are underlying your relationship choices. Chances are that while hopefully not as negative as our friend Dave’s are, you may be out there meeting and dating people with a few of these bad beliefs and mindsets of your own.
Think of the upside to all this also. By identifying any negative beliefs that may be manifesting negative things in your life, you can cultivate new and positive beliefs in their place which will begin to attract and manifest positive and amazing things into your life. Maybe this blog will inspire our friend Dave to do the same!
Todays video is all about how to attract and meet women everywhere……being natural and having fun with no chance of rejection!
Dave, I seriously suggest that you read this blog and look at David’s comments closely. I realize that will not be an easy task for you, given your attitude towards yourself, women, and the rest of the world. However, if you REALLY want to stop experiencing the same destructive relationships over and over again, you will stop and take a serious look at the role that YOU are playing in everything that happens to you, instead of placing the blame ENTIRELY on others. When you are ready to listen I’m sure David will be delighted to help out in any way possible. Best of luck to you!
David, the video does not work…
got it working, nevermind haha..
Hey David!
Great blog today! I didn’t even realize how much you were into the law of attraction… it’s also kinda funny for me to read that guy’s comment, because I am now able to recognize some of my own old thinking patterns from way back in the day. I can’t even stress how detrimental these things are to one’s life. I honestly believe that the first thing anyone who wants to be more successful with the opposite sex should do is to rewire their brains away from these mental viruses!
Another thing… you frequently mention the classic “Hugh Grant Moment” in your videos. Is there a particular scene or a movie I can watch to better understand what you mean by this? I’m not too big on chick flicks
Please let me know!
All the Best,
Taras
Don’t be negative! It’s so simple of a concept, but it’s amazing how hard it is to convince some guys of this.
It’s not to say it’s easy to do, I have to work at it like anyone else. But that’s even more of a reason to avoid doing it. It’s the best shortcut to ruining your love life if you ever needed one I think.
Wow, what a freakin dumb ass thing to say…women should be seen and not heard. LOL
I am sure of a couple of things…
You probably hear women telling you where to shove it (and it isn’t any place you’d find pleasure, and two, I KNOW you are getting that silence you so long for from a woman in bed….cause ya ass is sleepin alizzzzoneee!!
I have read Daves comments on my email. I can tell you that none of you know me just from reading my reply to Dave rediculous statements on what women want. Relationships are two sided, not one sided. As for Joans response….typical. Every breath she takes for the rest of her life will prove me right. David
Funny how you mention the “Laws of Attraction” and how I am currently reading the book now. This has to be part of “inner game” material. Even before walking out the door almost. You do need to have a positive outlook, and if that is not working for you, take a look at how you are applying your positive energy. If something fails the first time, maybe it’s just that you are doing it wrong or there is another step you need to take before moving forward in that direction.
Then again, if you are relying on women, or men for women, to bring you your source of pleasure, then you are always going to be at their whim. Takes awhile to learn that. Find something other than people that makes you feel good inside, that you can do for yourself to make you feel good. I’m not talking about masturbation. For instance, when I feel a little down or negative energy coming on, I ‘ll break out the 12-string and strum it’s angelical sound and vibrant energy right back into me. This brings me back to that moment of inner ecstasy and peace and positive outlook on all things in my life.
A little side track, but should you look for yourself before looking for others?
Hey sexless? Yea you dumbass…you know who you are.
You are bitter as hell because you are probably a sexless, brainless (obviously that) classless….OH OH OHHHHHHHHHHH heyyyyyyyyyy all of the above…not enough time and who wants to waste it on your funkasaurus crap?
Yeahhhhhhh what what what? Haaaaaa LOL
Baby….I would say kiss my ass, BUTT I wouldn’t allow you such pleasure.
Now back to your whack attack….pfffffffffffffffft
Joan,
Are you giving into his negative energy? Because you are giving him the exact reaction he wants and you are letting him pull you into his world. Please tell me that is not where you want to be?
Dylan;
lol No…not at all. I am just being me…and me likes to joke, play , have fun and try desperately to cheer up the miserable people in this world.
Actually, I feel a bit of pity for the ignorant factor because you and i both know…women are fun fun fun! I should know…I am one..lol
Joan
Do not let this person bring you down to his level.
I actually have been doing him a favor by posting this so he can be open and take responsibility
This is what he sent me
FUCK OFF gay boy
That was his email to me a few minutes ago.
Hey david Wygant;)
Long time no see…I have missed you and the blog:)
Ohhh hmmmmm I think I am so high on people..well Person places and things going on in my life right now…I am immune to the land down under! lol BUT Yes, I know what you are saying.
Wow, that statement is just???? No comprendi muchacho….uncalled for for sure but you know…gotta try and help.
Your a good man Charlie Brown;)
What is sad is that negativity is like a disease in that it starts in one place and then it spreads all over the place. The other sad part is that you are truly the only one that can find your own cure. I’m not going to say “don’t worry, be happy.” Rather I would quote a song from ‘Not The 9 O’clock News’.
“I like bouncing,
boing boing boing,
Jumping up and down
’til it hurts in the groin.
Trying to be happy
when it really counts,
I turn into a rubber ball
and bounce bounce bounce!!”
Negativity is something that a lot of people buy into.
It is much easier to point fingers than take responsibility of your actions.
I always tell people to look in the mirror.
What you see is what you will get.
Joan
Great to see you again.
Where have you been hiding?
Hey daddio;)
Thank you darlin…it is great to see you as well:)
Aweee hmmm well, I took a WRONG turn in the dating road and had to use my GPS to find my way back…LOL
Moving on…LITERALLY…..I am inendated with Medical Billing and Coding Terminology/A&P every day through the wee hours of the morning…BUT I have an A average, and for a 46 year young lady…that ain’t too shabby;)
There is a sweet saxy someone in my life that I really want to devote more time to as well….mmmmmm that saxyness becomes him wonderfully. A sax player instead of a player-player is just what I had given up on ever finding…then when you least expect it…OOPS there he is
It is more than wonderful to be called a “treasure” and that you facinate someone?? Whewwww I can get lost in that
I see things have been intense here from time to time. I am going to go read what I have missed and see what fun y’all have had without me
Well back to the “nose in the book” syndrome here.
Joan
Are you out of texas?
Did you leave the nest?
LOL No David…I just moved to, new attitude.
If you get a chance, go to MySpace and take a quick peek at the pics of where I am. It is the “AUSTIN….”album. Absolutely incredibly wonderful! I am happy:) I have been to Ca twice, so I can still get to my mom…one trip was for her…the other should have been BUT…moving on….LITERALLY
They tell me this is the California of Texas…close as you will get. It is all new development that I had no clue was being built…shows you how “in tune” I am lol
joan
one of the few places in the world that i have never been….austin
can you believe with all the travel that i do all over the world that i have never been to austin
also you know that i never my space.
i have enough work to do on my own site then to play on my space or facebook”:)
Aweee baby bend with the wind! I am on your friendlist…you click, click pis and wa laa. I would love for you to see Austin…this part of it. It is really breathtaking. Humor me dahling. It won’t even be considered Myspacing…lol You arn’t posting comments you look and leave..simple
FACEBOOK? Arrrrrrg blah yuk yuk pooey…spit..LOL Haaaaaaaaaa I hate that damn thing. People sending me drinks and goo goo yum yum stuff…sighhhh tireing.
or throw a damn sheep at someone…what do they DO with that sheep hugh? One can only wonder.. lol
Yes, that I havent time to Bit%$ slap (sorry Brad…the fun is over haaaaaa LOL
Aweee baby bend with the wind! I am on your friendlist…you click, click pics and wa laa. I would love for you to see Austin…this part of it. It is really breathtaking. Humor me dahling. It won’t even be considered Myspacing…lol You arn’t posting comments you look and leave..simple
FACEBOOK? Arrrrrrg blah yuk yuk pooey…spit..LOL Haaaaaaaaaa I hate that damn thing. People sending me drinks and goo goo yum yum stuff…sighhhh tireing.
or throw a damn sheep at someone…what do they DO with that sheep hugh? One can only wonder.. lol
Yes, that I havent time to Bit%$ slap (sorry Brad…the fun is over haaaaaa LOL
I know facebook is really funny.
30 year olds sitting in their office all day poking each other and sending each other bitch slaps.
also what is up with all the fake friends on the sites.
the part i like is you get to see what people look like….i enjoy that part of it being able to see who people are.
that part of social networking is great but when adults wake up in the morning and send bites or whatever to there friends….that is where the line is drawn with me.
Oh hmmmm you don’t like a little nibbleing on the neck in the AM? lol
OHHHHH the vampire crap? Yea wth is that? Are we 5 years old playing dracula…wheres my B*&^% cape?? he he YES I do like the networking aspect…Eben Pagan has been very helpful and then some, AND I have to harass Brad from time to time.
WELL ehemmm Since you won’t come to Austin Via my pics or otherwise…I sent a pic to you with comment on your Myspace.
BTW…I like the way you have it laid out there. very organized…as is mine:) It is the only way to fly!
Its not like I dont like to nibble on ones neck…..but not any virtual crap.
so how do you really feel about this guy today who wrote this email?
Hmmm Yes virtual is just that…virtually non existant.
Well david W…I think the article screams help me but don’t get to close or you might see the real me…and I don’t like him? That is what I feel he is relaying in the lashing out and comments about women. He seems to have been hurt….maybe more than one time.
As my other friend HITCH writes such a great bulletin “LET IT GO!” That is what this guy needs to do. Let all the garbage out and start with with a clean slate starting with a new attitude towards people in general…not just women. Starting with self would be a grand idea.
I have to wonder how the relationship with mom was, is or wasn’t and isn’t. There is a lot of underlying anger that needs to surface and be dealt with before ever trying to have a meaningful relationship.
What are your thoughts there webmaster?
I think he has never done any work on himself
The term self help means nothing to him. he is always blaming others for everything that goes wromg.
but even deeper i think his mother was someone who told him just how perfect he was in all ways and i would not be surprised if he still talks to her everyday and she tells him everyday what a perfect man he is and how no one deserves him.
you see my dad was just like this……it was his birthday yesterday he would have been 70.
my dad was someone who always played the role of victim and my grandmother was someone who coddled him his whole life calling him the king and how he could do no wrong.
except he did.
when he died i was the only kid of three who was speaking to him and that was only something that happened a few months before he died.
so i know what a victim is and how they sit back and take no responsibilities….my dad made it seem like all the kids abandoned him when in reality we could not take the way he treated us.
cats in the cradle…
David W?
Thank you for sharing your heart there about your dad and the absense of relationships. I see this in my kids, now all adults, but still bitter for how he treated all of us…very cruel SOB. GOD I am so glad to be free! He did that damage to my children for so many years and now he pays the price. Too bad..I warned and warned again. He actually gets pissed they love me as they do.:)
It brings tears to my eyes to think of the wonderful things I am “allowed at 46 to share” with people! I feel like a younun.
My son told me the other day…”Mom, it is so crazy how young and pretty you are for being your age.”??? Ok Thanks I think He said his friends all love hanging around me because I am the “cool mom.” Ok well awesome! Just remember I AM MOM!!
Joan
You are a mom and a woman a woman who has brought up kids and has had the courage to start anew!!
That is something that most people are so afraid to do.
Most people are so afraid to leave a situation and go into the unknown.
I am all about the unknown…..I have always been able to start fresh.
If i feel a relationship is not what i want or need i will not hang out and keep trying. You need more than love….you need trust respect and a lot of other things.
I was just back in NYc and a friend of mine finally had teh courage to leave a bad marriage and for the first time since he was 23 he feels great to be alive everyday.
David;
Yes, you are right…I was really oblivious to fear when I made this move. People were freaking out right and left???. All I knew was 30 years of unhappiness was too too oh too many, for me and my kiddos.
I did stay out of fear, but then snapped one day to the truth of my reality. I was unhappy, I wanted that kiss you wrote about many moons ago and needed a way of understanding…it is all going to work out…Just GET OUT of the abusive environment so you can see through the fog of despair. There IS a light at the end of that tunnell…ohhhhhh and is it a beate!!
It is different…it is a bit shakey, but DAmn is it worth peace of mind. I HAVE TO HAVE PEACE! I thrive off of it. Here there is peace (except when Cupid is chasing the cat..lol)
When I am sitting up top at the “Oasis” looking across the sunny Lake with boats, jet skis…people living…I know this is where I need to be.
I think I will stay for a while…till death do us part…lol
Joan
You so deserve it and do you know that the blog is a year old….and you were my first comment i think.
I am so happy to see you in a great place.
You really make me smile knowing that this was your safety place….a place that you could come and really let it all out.
We were all there for you!!!!
happy anniversery
David;
Awee really? I am humbled and very touched. I did pay you a little tribut on the comment I just left you on your Myspace.
I am happy to BE in a great place in my life. It is tough and unsure at times, but that keeps me moving and perservering. NOW…I still have yet to experience that Yahoo Personal Kiss…but that too will come all in good time…I hope
Happy Anniversary to you as well David. I luv ya much! xoxo
Yes, everybody was always here and it is the community aspect that makes it wonderful. I am on several different Global Jazz communitys by invite and it is the same there as well.
We are missing some of the people from the begining
where is bertie?
and who could ever forget….taleda.
where is she?
Bertie is on my profile as well as Taleda. I don’t hear from Taleda but once in a blue moon. She is pretty busy. Bertie is busy as well,
Yes, I miss a lot of the old faces here…but new ones are good as well.
Some of the older can stay gone for my likings to be honest.
Very funny
Taleda did have some really bad anger issues. But this is a place that people can come and let it all out.
I have never blocked any comment or anyone from posting on this blog.
The good the bad the ugly all can post it is and will always be a free forum
I always seem to get to the party too late.
Hello Joan…..long time no see. I really think this is one of the better blogs. I see so much anger in this man who sent you the email.
He needs therapy and some time away from his mother.
Thats all from me. I wanted to chime in and say Hi.
“I have read Daves comments on my email. I can tell you that none of you know me just from reading my reply to Dave rediculous statements on what women want. Relationships are two sided, not one sided. As for Joans response….typical. Every breath she takes for the rest of her life will prove me right. David”
Okaaay… so who here wants to get to know Dave based on his email and comment?
…
Yeah, I didn’t think so. Dave… think about that. It doesn’t take much negativity to turn someone off and you seem to do it on a daily basis, according to what -you- wrote. We don’t need to know YOU, to know what we’ve read comes from an expression of piss poor outlook. You must be a real blast of freshair at the bars when you buy chicks those drinks. And why are you even buying drinks for women?? So that you have someone to talk??? That’s so pathetic and sad bro, those a REAL attractive qualities in a man… throw in some fustration, some resentment, and a bit of anger and you get a crotchy old man… Yeah, hot bro, real sexy.
David;
lol I like this statement.
“The good the bad the ugly all can post it is and will always be a free forum”
I am good at being bad….and I try not to get ugly involved…lol
Honestly, I’m not a big fan of the “daily affirmation” school of thought- think good things and good things will happen to you, which is not to say that I think you can be negative all the time either- but I think you pretty much nailed this guy. His negative mindset is obvious in his writing, and I can only imagine that his tone of voice and the way he comes across in person is much worse. His example of buying a woman a drink is pitiful. How did he get to the point of a woman asking him for a drink and what happened/what did he say immediately afterward? (I.e., Buying a woman a drink is not the first & only interaction he had with her, right?) That he generalizes “all women” and “everyone” or “every time” indicates that he’s already made a decision about people before meeting them and that he’s not even open to the possibility of a different outcome.
And you’d love Austin, everyone (generalization!) does.
The Texas Hill Country has a lot to offer… plan a trip for after Labor Day and we’ll go tubing down the Guadalupe river.
Are you serious, David – “FUCK OFF gay boy” was Dave’s only response?! — All of this deep and substantive discussion about Dave and his issues, and this is the BEST retort he can come up with?! What a sad, angry and … frankly immature man he is!
Dylan, you were much kinder to Dave than I would have been in light of his comments, and really gave him some amazing advice — I hope that upon seeing his reaction to all of this that you won’t waste any more of your time doing so. Dave obviously likes the role of victim and will always be a legend in his own mind, i.e., the perfect and flawless man who is too good for every woman who is lucky enough to get to date him (whether they realize it or not)
More specifically, you could also mention that if our ‘victim’ wasn’t buying women drinks in bars and generally falling all over himself to supplicate at their feet, he might have more success.
As for what Gracie just mentioned, giving advice to losers like this guy does not help. He enjoys playing the victim and it is impossible for him to view his experiences in such a way that maybe, maybe there was something he could have done better.
Joan, my dear, you’re GREAT at being bad. Keep up the good badness!
Ha… I was hanging out yesterday over at David’s when he got that email (by the way, that flight last night sucked ass)…
… I laughed my ass off.
TO JOAN:
“Brad has just sucker punched you!”
lol
Brad;
Hey sexy
Can’t we just kiss and make up? LOL
just add an “h” after the “k” in sucker…and we’ll punch out for sure…LOL haaaaaa
Dunga;
lol Ok I sure will not have to try…it is a natural curse…lmbo
Hey, if we take good, and badness….and add an l after the g, drop the ood as well as the b….there we find “gladness.” Heeeeee Lord I am studying toooooo much! I need to have more fun
Hi Joan, David W, and all;
I suspect I won’t be as active on this blog as I have been for a short time… (Though it’s worth keeping up with.) It’s a victim of it’s own success… My search for self improvement (and dating) brought me here, and everyone helped me find what I was looking for… The environment of the blog; the great information from David; learning that some innuendo, and being explicit/fun, is ok from Joan…
I met a woman online the other week… The other day we met… Neither of us knew such chemistry was possible… We’re trying to keep our eyes open… but however it goes… it’ll be an adventure!!!
I attribute so much of what’s coming together in my life to the self work I’ve been doing…
David,
Guys like this have a lot of problems that need to be worked through and you have tried in your responses. I like what you had to say, but most importantly, you didn’t just disregard him as a lost cause. There is something to be learned from everyone – no matter how misguided and misplaced their comments and feelings towards things.
You were able to take a very negative comment and turn it into a great post for us all to learn. I suspect the commenter, also named David??, can learn and become a better person and a better man. He just needs some guidance, a change of reference, and a reason to believe there is another path.
Thanks for not bashing him personally and simply saying, “this guy clearly needs help. He is probably not a bad guy, but his attitude needs readjustment. How can I help him?” And you did just that by calling his comments into question and providing some real world advice.
I don’t want to take away from Joan and David flirting but regarding the blog topic today, I want to say that:
The world is a reflection of your own identity and belief system.
Sometimes, I find the whole law of attraction a bit too broad but it’s a good mainstream concept to explain how important the way you think affect the way you perceive the world… which in turns affect how you process and react to the things that happen in your life.
I’m sure Dave has had many experiences that have made him bitter, angry and down right negative. The saddest part for me is that he couldn’t help allow himself to learn from these experiences to come out stronger. Instead, he succumbed to the negativity in his life.
To Dave, I just wish you could surround yourself with people that truly makes you h appier and help you become stronger and more confident. The best to you.
Khiem;
LOL Were we flirting?
Forgive me for going off the blogster, but I have jst come back after a long time away from home and had to give my daddio some luvin 
Ken;
I am so glad to hear you have found someone…and to think I had any part in that makes me a litte teary eyed…yes, I am a sap.
I wish you all the fun in the world, the intimacy and closeness we all deserve and desire as people.
I send to you a smile and a big virtual hug, only because my go go gadget arms are in the shop
Take care of you darlin… and never stop loving you
Joan;
You just left me speechless; I don’t know what to say.
I can feel it, just not verbalize it.
Ken
YOu met someone who blew you away….instant chemistry.
That is amazing!!!!
Congrats and keep us all posted on this.
Ken;
Your success is a great source of encouragement for others
I don’t give total strangers (men or woman) my money if they ask in a bar or club. I don’t give up 1,000 shares of a penny stock to a woman if she were to ask me and I won’t give her my new t shirt in a shopping bag while sitting in a bar. I won’t hand her money out of my pocket. Why the F@$K would I buy a woman who is a total stranger to me any drinks just bcuz she asked??
Many woman do this and repeat this same sad phrase over and over. There are many SUCKERS WHO FALL FOR THIS PLOY. THEY ARE NOT INTERESTED IN YOU BUT YOUR $$. David reread the last line again. Maybe some of or ALL of your girlfriends were met this way.
It is no wonder you think all ladies are this way. If a total stranger asks you for your money (a drink) she will ask you again and again. When a woman has enuff nerve to ask you to buy a drink w/in the first 3 minutes (or LESS) she is just out for your money. RUN FOR THE HILLS. Maybe you should ask her to buy YOU a DRINK instead.
When a LADY asks me if she can sit down and talk to me and if after 10-20 minutes I am enjoying the conversation maybe I might ask her if she wants a drink. I will always ask if a woman who is out on a date with me if she wants a drink. A total stranger with absolutly none of her time invested in me can go fly a kite.
My ex girfriend would often go out with one her friends to Friday night happy hour and NEVER bring any $$. She would just ask any sucker nearby to buy her a drink. She was not interested in them at all. SHE JUST WANTED FREE DRINKS!! SHE WAS MADLY IN LOVE WITH SOME GUY AND NOT INTERESTED IN MEETING ANYONE. She took this boyfriend to Atlantic City for his birthday with a FREE “comped” room. Even on his birthday this BI..CH didn’t spend $$ on him; he paid for everything else. When my GF told me this I almost died of laughter.
I asked my girlfriend if she ever did this and she said no. She always brought her own $$ which is the answer I expected. I try only to date “classy” women not abusers and cheap ass bitches. I asked why she hung out with this woman and she told me she was spending less and less time with her. She eventually stopped when after taking her friend out and spending big bucks on her friend for her b’day and a month later when my GF b’day came up and she didn’t pull a penny out of her pocket. I don’t remember what she did for a living ( some kind of a professional) but she made way more $$ than my GF and probably more $$ than most of the guys she met and way more than sucker boyfriend.
David stop being a sucker!!!
what a load, you guys bash this dude and he is completely correct about women, especially in LA. They think its all about them, and “who needs men”, now before you guys get all stupid with your comments to me here’s my attitude towards women. My life is about where I am going NOT who’s going with me, (really frustrates women because its hard for them to get “in”) I have always had multiple booty around as I am a masterful communicator, don’t care if women are around, and am NOT driven by pussy, which is exactly why I get all I want.
I am 42 and retired last August, have all the toys that certainly could be used as props to get even more snatch but American women are not worth the time or effort, they are very easy but way to much drama, too much yacking, who needs it? European women, asian women, most women that are not born in this country are worth the time because they actually value men, they actually understand their role as women in relation to men, they actually enjoy being women unlike the typical American women that wants to compete with men.
zoom;
I will say as respectful as is due you…if you are not pleased with american women…why don’t you zoom, zoom, zoom, to another country where the women you DO desire are?
Speaking for myself…I have no desire to compete with a man, but to have a mutual passion for one another and enjoy each other fully. I agree, there are women EVERYWHERE who do want to compete with the male gender, but please don’t stereotype all women who live in america in your little box of “yacking” drama queens.
BTW? I am not american
The guy who sent that message is obviously getting suckered because he’s a sucker and is overly negative. However, women are really screwed up and confused today because of feminism as well as influence from television and movies. The influences that have changed women into what they are today have basically fucked with mother nature, because as mammals our species have biologically evolved roles to ensure reproduction. Women have been taught to be tough like and men and be competitive like men, and this makes normal heterosexual relationships almost impossible. Women and men are terribly unhappy today because of this, as DNA will always rule and it is natural for men to want to take charge and be strong and for women to be nurturing and gentle. This is only going to get worse I’m afraid unless this ridiculous feminist philosophy is thrown out for good. We don’t need feminism to treat women with respect. Just my 2 cents…..
Joan u always have just the right touch. Ehem uhhhmm I mean the right words to say.
Late in L.I. now. It’s past my bedtime almost 12:30 Am; (also past DW bedtime and it is only 9:30 in LA.) I’m going to atempt to
ZOOM OUTA HERE!!
Patrick;
I think your “2 cents,” makes all the sense in the world, and is worth a million. Thank you for that post….I very much agree.
I want a man to be a man and make me feel like a woman when I am with him. I am told I am “too prissy” by a number of “friends,” but I just like to look, smell, and act like what I am…a woman
Jim L.;
As for the “right touch?” Now THAT….you are very intuitive
Hey Zoom
The guy who wrote me was negative and did not take any responsibility for anything that happened to him.
He got what he asked for in his women and relationships…he set himself up for failure and got it.
He points the finger and blames others for his life sorrow.
I live in LA as well…and there are plenty of great women as well as plenty of the ones you described.
We all make choices….I also don’t care about getting it…..i also am not in the market for a relationship….I enjoy my life…my own company and at this point in my life i dont feel the need to share it with anyone else.
We are all in different stages of our lives and as long as we live learn and stay true to who we are….and take full responsibility of all our choices and don’t blame others for things that happen to us….
The blog was all about looking in the mirror and the law of attraction.
You are in a place where you know what you want and i did not hear any victim mentality from your comments.
The guy who emailed me was victim mentality all the way.
DW,
Yea…
Joan,
While I’m normally fine with conversation; I’ve been told I should be more vocal at other times.
I’m also getting a lot better speaking from vs. of the heart.
Ken E;
I am glad to see you didn’t go bye bye from here for good. I always enjoy your posts.
Joan,
So am I lacking self control when it’s harmless fun… Or is sticking around here and continuing to learn more skills for having fun with people a good skill to have when one is in a relationship… (Not many “dating” sites are so universal…)
Ken E.;
I personally see nothing wrong with your being here and interacting with people.
Lack of self control in a relationship…to me…is when you say you are exclusive with one, but are with more than one exclusively. In other words, if ya start seeing someone else and the “exclusive” doesn’t know, will find out, and be hurt.
Anything that is going to hurt the other as far as your intimacy as 2 in a relationship….there is “lack of self control.”
How do you feel to be here and interact? I know I sure would miss you if you left for good, BUT YOU need to do as your gut dictates to you. Usually that gut instinct will guide you right 9 times out of ten…
Joan,
I didn’t mean self control from a relationship standpoint.
) And posting is with the hopes of offering something that someone may find of value…
I’m not here to meet someone. I read out of love for learning… (and as I said previously much of the information here is helpful for someone in a relationship…
I know you can’t relate
but I have other things I should be spending my time on… It doesn’t help that there’ve been a lot of good posts the last couple of days… 
I saw your streaching directions. I really should do that too. 
How does that compare to bending at waist when standing, to try and touch the floor? At ponts in the past I’ve done this in the shower… It’s been tooo long…
Oh well, I won’t be around for the weekend. I’ll be with family… How many posts will I return to…
Women are the way you think they are.
Think it over, be sure to quote me. Any guy that has ever thought women are money grubbing, big muscle wanting, George Cloney jaw wanting, power hungry bitches… and have somehow managed to realize and turn around their thoughts to understanding what they really are… are emotional, fun loving, easy going, sexual beings that love to be in love with the untainable… and have come to see that in bear fruit in their lives… weclome to club. The rest are lost souls.
Women want men that understand them, and know how to deal with them, peroid.
It’s not about feminism, it’s not about money, or power, or natural good looks, or hollywood, or tv, or anything… none that matters more than your own centeral being, your own confidence. Your own path.
You carve that out, find your inner badassness…
It’s so simple! It makes me sad to think how many guys, just don’t get it.
Don’t be negative. Keep it on a third grade level. And remember, women will always been the way you think they are… PEROID.
So get your heads on straight fellas… and stop whining.. that’s not unattractive!