Here’s something guys ask me about all the time. It’s important too because if you get it wrong you’re always going to be on your own…

“David, I want to know how to be a great date. How can I make that first date so good I get a second?

Well, let’s break it down.  First off, you need to be aware the date starts before you actually pick her up.  You need to have the date mapped out before you even arrange it.  When you call her on the phone to “close” for the date, talk for 5-10 minutes and then ask for the date. When you do, tell her you’ve got something great planned for her.

Maybe you found out about her favorite food. Maybe you know she’s got a dog, you’ve also got a dog, and you’re going to go to the park and play ball together. Maybe there’s a cool band coming to play locally. Have an idea of the kind of things the girl likes before you arrange a date. That way you stand a much better chance of doing something she’s going to love.

So…

You know a bit about her. You have an idea for a great date, and now you’re going to pick up the phone and say this…

“I’ve got a great idea.  Saturday night, there’s this amazing band playing in the park.  Come with me.  Let’s hang.”

Now she already knows where you’re going she can plan for the date. It’s important for her to plan for the date because it allows her to pick out an outfit etc. Most women like to know what they’re doing ahead of time. They want to know:

Does she need to eat ahead of time?

Is she going outside?

Does she need to dress for the weather?

Does she need to take overnight clothes?

Women are planners.  Women want to know exactly what’s going to happen before that date so they can plan accordingly. A lot of guys think women love surprise dates, and if you know the woman really well then sometimes they’re a good idea. But on the whole, you’re much safer to tell her where you’re going so she can get organized.

So let’s say for instance you ask her out on Tuesday for a Saturday night date.  You need to text her maybe Thursday and say “I’m looking forward to hanging with you. This concert is going to be a blast.” Get her jazzed up about it.

Then on Saturday send her another text saying “I’ll pick you up at 7:00.”  Reconfirm it, so that way she doesn’t feel nervous you’re going to flake. You want to make her as calm as possible, because don’t forget most women are just as nervous as you about the date. Then when you pick her up, be on time.  Make sure your car is spic and span. Clean it.  Make sure it smells nice.  

When she gets into that car, or you meet her outside her home tell her she looks great.  Compliment her on something she’s wearing, because let me tell you something, she’s probably changed three or four times before so she looks good for you.  If she smells nice, tell her that.

When you’re on the date listen to what she has to say.  Don’t think about what you need to say.  Listen to the conversation.  Flow with the conversation.  Enjoy the conversation.  Ask her what her dreams are, what she wants out of life.  Ask her what she wants out of a relationship.  Talk to her about things that are personal.  Talk to her about things that mean something.  And at the end of that date, give her a nice kiss on the lips and a hug. Instead of trying to slither up and down her leg, calm yourself and plan for the next date.  

Tell her you want to take her out again Monday. You’ve got this great restaurant you want to take her to because you know that she loves sushi. She talked about that earlier in the evening. Listen to her, ask her out at the end, and really pay attention to her.

Yes, it’s all pretty basic stuff but you’d be amazed how many guys get the first date all wrong. They’re so worried about what they’re doing and saying they forget to pay attention to their date. And listening is the key. Throughout any conversation you have on the night she’s giving you clues about what she likes, what she wants, and how to please her.

Pay attention. Honestly guys…

That’s how to be a great date!