Are You A Voicemail Blabberer?
April 17, 2010 
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Are you a voicemail blabberer? Do you just freeze when you hit someone’s voicemail?
The phone is ringing, and all of a sudden you hear “Hi. This is Jane. Please leave a message . . .” Your heart starts beating really fast.
The next thing you know, you start blabbering. “Oh, hey Jane. It’s Mike. Okay, that’s . . . yeah, it was great meeting you the other day. Give me a call, if you really want to. I know you don’t know me, but if you want call me. Yeah, call me. Here’s my number. It’s, um, 310-iamuputight.”
That might as well be your number since it could not be more clear how uptight you are. What you want to do instead when you leave a voicemail message, is to set the stage to start the relationship.
Think about how exciting it is when you get a good voicemail message. Compare the above voicemail message to something like this: “Hey Jane. It’s Mike. How are you doing? It was great meeting you the other day at Whole Foods. I checked out your YouTube videos that you were telling me about. They were hilarious! Call me. I have to share something with you about that.”
Do you see how the person receiving that message would feel very differently after hearing it than the feeling they would have after getting the first message? This second message was upbeat. It was exciting.
The second message makes the person want to call you back. You’ve established the relationship. You’re actually the guy who they want to call back, as opposed to the “ah” and “um” guy who stumbles through the message or hangs up without leaving any message at all.
Virtually everyone has Caller ID nowadays. Don’t ever hang up. They will see that you called. Leaving no message will make them not want to call you back just as much as leaving a bad voicemail message.
Click here to hear me talk more about how to know exactly what to say to a woman when you’re leaving a voicemail message and in any situation.
Holy shit….
This video is hilarious. I will make sure that from now on I don’t make similar mistakes to this one anymore.
I am laughing so hard right now my abs hurt.
Great video.
Great reminder for us all to take a hold of our lives and not turn into Mr. desperate like Mike in the video.
Farley you took the words right out of my mouth — this is one of the best movie scenes EVER … and the perfect illustration of what David is teaching in this blog!
David….dude….i read your blog on a daily basis and i bought several of your products (Dating Mastery, and the Master Communicator series). I just have one request. PLEASE stop this pop up that keeps showing up every single time i visit your site. I’ve already subscribed….why do i need to see a pop up that says “thanks for subscribing” every time i go to your website? It wouldn’t be a big deal if i could just ignore it but the damn thing won’t let me click on any of the the links to read your full blog posts until i click the “x” to close it. Thanks man
Hey Julian —
You’re right that the pop up can get … a … TAD … annoying (okay a lot
) So I get why that popup gets a little tedious for you 
But I don’t think that David can make it so that popup doesn’t…pop up … just when you get on the site.
And even though it is kind of annoying to “x” out of it, you can’t expect David to not want to let others know about his newsletter list just because you’ve already signed up
I’ve been reading up on online dating. It seems like it’s a really solid idea. In theory, you should meet someone who is 1 for 1 completely compatible with you, and that can only seem like its good. Just make sure you don’t lie about your traits! That’s the number one reason why online dating couples don’t work out.