Life Stings, Toughen Up
Today, I’m going to share a little secret:
I write all my blogs via dictation.
I get an idea; I dictate it and then edit it.
At this moment I’m listening to Human League “Don’t you want me”.
The song’s from 1982 and it reminds me of a time in my life when there was so much hope, so much uncertainty, and so much that I didn’t know.
The premise of the song is about a couple that had been in love for four years, and the feelings each other has after the break up.
Don’t you want me baby?
It got me thinking about how tough life is. Life throws some amazing curve balls at you and most people can’t handle it.
Most people complain and nobody really wants to hear it. Most people wallow in their self-pity and nobody wants to hear it.
You know what my advice is to all of you today?
You don’t hear me complaining every day.
I’m going through a divorce, it’s not pretty, it’s not fun, and it’s a constant battle every single day.
It pains me every single day.
But you don’t hear me complaining about it. You don’t see me bitching and moaning and feeling sorry for myself.
The divorce is going to cost me a lot of things.
But it’s another lesson to learn. It’s another opportunity to toughen up and it’s another experience to embrace.
You don’t see me whining about it..
You don’t hear me complaining about it.
But that doesn’t mean that I’m not hurt inside. It doesn’t mean that I don’t feel it every day. It doesn’t mean that I don’t look at my daughter and wonder, “What if…”.
My God! So many people are like little babies, constantly feeling sorry for themselves about how their life is and about how they can’t seem to get it right.
And how nobody likes them and how nobody wants to date them.
And how they can’t seem to connect with people, blah blah blah, complain, complain, complain.
Life will throw you curve balls.
Every day look at life as a challenge that it is. Stay on top of your challenges. Embrace your fears. Embrace uncertainty and start toughening up.
Only the strong survive in life. Only the strong are successful.
And only good things happen to those who persevere.
Life is all about perseverance.
People who persevere are the ones who succeed.
So many people trip over every little mistake they make and they over analyze every mistake.
So many people go into a state of funk over the littlest things.
You don’t know how many people will e-mail me and say, “Oh my God, this girl didn’t talk to me today…”
“Well you wouldn’t believe this girl I went out with, she didn’t call me back, boo hoo, boo hoo, boo hoo….”
Toughen the fuck up.
In life, not everybody is going to like you. Not everybody is going to respond to you. Not everybody is going to want to be with you. That’s life. Those are the percentages of life. Relationships start—sometimes for a day—and they end—sometimes two hours later.
Relationships start with dreams, hope, and aspirations, and two years or three years later the shit hits the fan and you can’t figure out how to make it work.
Embrace everything in your life and stop feeling sorry for yourself.
I get so many emails from people throwing a personal pit party every single day and I don’t feel sorry for them.
You know why I don’t feel sorry for them? Because I have a ton of resources—from my products to my coaching and my boot camp, to all the free information I put up on YouTube and the blog—for people to learn and get better and change their lives.
There are so many great resources out there for people to read. Most people love to wallow in their self-pity, because they’d rather complain about things that go wrong instead of embracing it, learning from it, and changing from it.
Toughen up. If life were so easy, we’d all have it right.
Here’s your wake up call.