Living in the presentYou hear me talk about what it means to be present all the time. When little kids hear the word present, they think it’s Christmas or Birthday time. Adults think it’s a cliché. The key to happiness is being present within yourself hear and now. If you haven’t read “The Power Of Now” it’s a great book and you should grab it.

So many of us find it impossible to live in the present. Why is that?

I was talking to my friend Jules today. He’s a great Reiki instructor, and I’d never done Reiki until today. It was cool. Moving energy, opening up your Chakras, and everything else. If you don’t know anything about Reiki have a look at what it’s all about. It’s fascinating.

We had a conversation afterwards, and my creative energy opened right up again. But what it made me realize is how in the present I am. I’m so present. I can’t think about the future at all. In fact, I put future events on my calendar not to look forward to, but just so I remember them. For instance, I have a boot camp in April in New York City. I get emails all the time from guys who are going saying, “I can’t wait. I’m so looking forward to it. I’m counting the days until it’s here.”

I don’t give it a second thought until I actually meet these guys at 8PM on the Friday night. It doesn’t mean I won’t enjoy seeing you. It doesn’t mean I don’t love what I do. You get 100% of me every single second I’m with you on a boot camp. I just can’t get motivated or excited about it until that very moment. Between then and now I have so many other present moments to connect with. I have so many other beautiful people to talk to, and beautiful moments to experience. I don’t even write down what my dreams and aspirations are because my needs and wants tend to change on a daily basis.

I know I love to travel. I know I enjoy being with my friends, and spending time with my daughter and family. In fact, I’m dictating this driving through the L.A traffic, watching the rain come down. I’m thinking, “I actually got my car washed the other day, and now it’s going to look like s*^t again.”

That’s all I’m thinking about in the present moment. I’m not thinking when I should get my car washed again, or about what I’m doing tomorrow. I’m just thinking about now. It’s funny, I’ll be coaching a guy, and he’ll see a woman he likes and say, “I really want to meet her. She’s exactly the kind of girl I’d love to date.”

The woman is busy texting. She doesn’t even acknowledge when the guy goes over. When he speaks to her, she doesn’t even look up. She isn’t in the moment. She’s not aware of what’s going on around her. A guy in this situation tends to think of it as a rejection. I see it as her being somewhere else at the time. If you approach a woman and she doesn’t respond, don’t take it personally. Obviously, she’s somewhere else, and it wasn’t your moment to meet. Don’t worry about why it didn’t work. The moment just wasn’t there. She wasn’t with you. You just need to say to yourself, “Ok we didn’t connect right now. That doesn’t mean we won’t connect in the future.”

By being present, you create your future. I have no idea who I’m going to be with in May. I have no idea what I’m going to be doing. I have no clue. Yes, I know there are things on my calendar, but there’s so much more to life. All I can think of is the here and now.

In fact, I can’t even think about what I want for dinner this Friday when I’m meeting a friend for a meal out. It’s days away. What’s the point in thinking that far ahead? I’ll think about it Friday afternoon when I start getting hungry again. Then I’ll know what I’m in the mood for. That’s just how I roll. That’s what being present is all about to me. Try it. It might just change the way you live.