Shogo here with another weekend post for you guys!
As some of you guys who’ve been following the blog lately may know, I’ve been in New York apartment hunting the past few days. It’s my old stomping ground, so while I’ve been here, I’ve also been going out a lot catching up with old friends.
Whenever I end a conversation – no matter with whom it is, from a woman I met at a party to the person bagging my groceries at Whole Foods – I always say to them, “See you soon.”
Here is a conversation we had over dinner at a recent bootcamp. This will give you a good idea of what my bootcamps are like, and you’ll also get to hear how Khiem and I answer questions from clients!
Men tend to be very outcome dependent. Many men approach women with one goal in mind: to get their phone number. Such men think if they approach a woman, they must get her phone number in order for that approach to have been successful. These men, in fact, will base their entire assessment of an encounter on whether a woman gives them her phone number. This type of mindset is what I’m referring to when I talk about outcome dependence.
I get email practically every day from people who are doing online dating who tell me that they do not have trouble making what seem to be good connections with people online, but who have very little success once they meet those people in person.
This is an issue surrounding online dating that does not get discussed all that often, however, it is important to talk about because you want to minimize the amount of time you spend talking online to people with whom you will not connect in real life.
Jonathan: If you want to take someone out, what do you say on the first call?
David: What would I say on my first phone call? The first phone call should always be based on something that we talked about the night before – always. I want to bring her back to the moment that we had before.
How do you contact a woman on Facebook?
First, you have to look at your mutual friends. Obviously, you couldn’t be looking at her profile if you don’t have a mutual friend. You’re not cruising Facebook – you’re just looking through other people’s friends.
What is up with people who use this as their voicemail message: “You have reached 310-555-1212. Please leave a message?” There’s nothing warm and nothing pleasant about that.
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