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Wednesday, October 28th, 2009
This is interesting. How many of you live a life about which you are absolutely not passionate?
You go to a job. You date someone to whom you are not attracted. You may not even like your dog. Whatever it may be, how many of you can’t speak about your life with passion?
If you can’t, do you know why you can’t? It is because you are really not in love with who you are.
Passion comes from within. People who speak with passion, speak from power that comes from within themselves. Meaning, they love everything about themselves.
They’ve accepted their insecurities. They’ve accepted their fears. They’ve accepted all these things about themselves, and they have embraced themselves.
Today’s podcast is going to teach you how to speak from a place of true passion and how to live a passionate life. This is a “must listen” to podcast. It’s that important and that big.
I can’t even adequately express in writing what I want to tell all of you. You need to hear me talk about it in today’s podcast. So I’m just going to stop my fingers from typing on the computer right now, and I’m going to give you the link for the podcast so you can listen to it right now.
Click here to listen:
If you want to learn about my personal journey to self-love, and how to go on that journey for yourself, be sure to check out my “Self-Love” Audios which are part of my Men’s “What’s Your Excuse?” and Women’s “No Excuses” programs.
Tags: advice, computer, david wygant, fear, insecurity, lifestyle, live with passion, Mindset, self help, self love, tips
Posted in Life Style 101, Mindset | 36 Comments »
Wednesday, October 14th, 2009
Have you ever asked someone how their day is going, and had them respond, “Man, I am just having such a bad day today!” It makes you almost want to run away.
When I hear that I almost want say to myself “God, I wish I didn’t even ask,” because you know what is going to follow that answer. You know that if they are letting you know that they are having a bad, that they are also going to want to share everything that happened on that bad day with you
They are going to bring all that bad energy with them, and they are going to dump it all over you. Having to listen to someone vent about a bad day is like having the flu for five or ten minutes.
Can I tell you something? There’s no such thing as a bad day. It’s all about your mindset. It really is.
It’s all about your mindset and how you think, because in life there are always ebbs and flows. It’s your outlook on life that really determines how you feel.
I never have a bad day, ever. Do I have bad moments? Of course I do.
For example, I recently went to the dentist and found out I have to spend about $3,000.00 on a root canal. That was most definitely a bad moment.
Did it ruin my day though? Absolutely not. Did it ruin my bike ride home? Absolutely not. Did it affect my sex life? Absolutely not. Did it affect the way that I treated my dog or my friends for the rest of the day? Absolutely not.
When I have one of these bad moments, I process it immediately like a super computer and then I forget all about it. It’s called the ebbs and flows of life.
If you want to hear more about how to never have a bad day again, be sure to listen to this week’s podcast. It’s really going to blow you away. I also have a special guest on the podcast who is going to share something very special with you too. Click here to listen now:
By the way, anybody who is interested in being a guest on one of my podcasts beginning in November, please email me at david@davidwygant.com. I would love to interview a few of you about your dating experiences, and then have a mini coaching session.
Also, if you want to learn how to create the kind of mindset that will have you feeling confident and powerful every day — and which will help you to have great days no matter what comes at you — then be sure to check out my Men’s “What’s Your Excuse?” and my Women’s “No Excuses” programs.
Tags: advice, bad day, david wygant, depressed, depression, flu, how to fix depression, how to get through depression, Mindset, root canal, tips
Posted in Mindset | 24 Comments »
Monday, September 21st, 2009
I think I’m going to change professions. As predicted here on Saturday, the Jets beat the Patriots on Sunday. I think I even predicted they would win by a touchdown (which was what happened).
So not only can I predict the outcome of your dates, I can predict the outcome of football games for you too. Regarding your dates, I predict that most of them probably won’t go really well. That’s not to be negative, but the majority of dates don’t go well.
The Jets are the only team not to allow an offensive touchdown this year. That impresses me. Do you know who impresses me more? Rex Ryan, the Jets’ coach.
So much of life is all about coaching — in football, basketball, baseball . . . and even in dating. Without the right mentor, coach and system in place, you’re never going to get good at anything.
Life is really all about having good systems — good belief systems and good coaching systems. There’s a reason why Bill Belichick makes the Patriots competitive no matter which players they lose. It’s the system he’s put in place. Every player believes in him and believes in being a Patriot.
Life is also all about your mindset. Yesterday I saw a good friend of mine, Dr. Wayne Dyer, speak. I really enjoyed it. Here’s a man who has lived 69 years with the right mindset and belief systems, and he’s accomplished everything in his life that he’s ever wanted.
Without the right mindset, coaching and guidance, people will remain lost. How many of you resist change? How many of you have trouble changing because of your belief system? How many of you fear change, but yet you desire it so much?
Who coaches you through your hard times? To whom do you go for advice?
How honest are you with yourself about the changes that need to be made in your life? Are you someone who repeats the same mistakes over and over again, yet you can’t figure out how to change that pattern?
It’s all about coaching. It’s all about implementing a belief system that can work for you, and a belief system that will still get you to make changes on a daily basis even if things don’t always work out for you.
The reason why the Jets won yesterday, was because they made changes to their game plan at halftime. They came out in the second half, and Mark Sanchez began throwing the ball. They got the lead, and then basically proceeded to shut the Patriots down for the rest of the second half.
How did they do this? They made changes necessary to dictate the flow of the game in their favor.
Can you dictate the flow of your life in your favor? Can you do it even after frustrating things and setbacks happen to you? Can you recover quickly from rejection, or do you allow it to torture you all day long?
When something doesn’t go my way, I recover instantly. I shake it off as any good well-coached person will do.
I don’t allow things to affect me for any longer than they need to affect me. Whatever happens to me affects me in the moment, then I get over it and don’t remember even five minutes later why I was so shaken.
The systems I’m talking about are not some kind of magic system to pick up men or women. It’s about having a belief system. It’s about having the right belief system.
What is your belief system? What changes do you need to make in order to accomplish everything you want?
Wayne said is really well yesterday. He said that we should all spend the last five minutes of each day before we go to sleep imagining how we want the next day to be, imagining how we want our life to be, and imagining how that will feel.
You don’t want to spend the end of your days thinking about what didn’t get done, what you messed up and what you haven’t achieved. By thinking this way, a lot of you are programming yourself to be in a constant state of panic (that begins from the moment you wake up).
So today on this Monday, I challenge all of you to write down all the things you want to change, and how you will feel when you implement those changes.
For those of you who are looking to bet on tonight’s game — because you know I am a master handicapper — the game will be a lot closer than you think. The Colts, however, will squeeze out a win when the Dolphins forget to throw to Ted Ginn.
Tags: advice, behavior pattern, belief system, bill belichick, coaching, Dating Advice, dating advice for men, dating advice for women, dating tips, david wygant, dr. wayne dyer, get a coach, goals, handicapper, how to deal with rejection, how to reach your goals, indianapolis colts, mark sanchez, miami dolphins, Mindset, monday night football, new england patriots, new york jets, nfl, nfl coaches, nfl football, nfl handicapping, rex ryan, ted ginn, tips, wayne dyer, wayne dyer excuses begone
Posted in Dave's Faves, Goals & Aspirations, Life Style 101, Mindset | 24 Comments »
Saturday, September 19th, 2009
We went out to dinner last night, and the service was just typical L.A., i.e., you felt like the server was stoned. We actually sat in the bar area and the bartender was our server.
We saw our food sitting in the window for almost fifteen minutes. The bartender forgot to pick it up. We saw the plates sitting there under the hot lights. I almost went to get them myself.
The bartender knew she had screwed up, but when she brought the food over all she said to us was “hot plates!” Of course they were hot. They had been sitting under a hot light for fifteen minutes.
Then she couldn’t figure out how to get our bill to print from the computer. By the time she did figure it out, we were late for the horrible movie we ended up seeing.
By the way, don’t go see “The Informant!” It was really bad (and really dumb).
So when I finally get the bill for dinner, I’m looking at it and thinking about how I have to leave a tip for this woman. I’m thinking, “Doesn’t a tip mean that you enjoyed the service?”
I bartended for seven years, and if I ever didn’t get a tip I always assumed it was because I gave poor service or because someone was cheap. Nowadays, tips are viewed as handouts. Everyone wants a tip. In fact, let’s talk about that . . .
Could I get tipped please? Excuse me, I have some advice for you. Can you leave me a tip?
When did we become a tip society? Have you noticed that everywhere you go — whether it’s Starbucks or a local takeout restaurant — that there’s a little line on the credit card slip for you to insert a tip or a jar on the counter asking you to leave a tip?
We’re expected to tip people even when we’re getting takeout. I remember sending someone I used to date with my credit card to pick up some food for us. When she gave me the receipt, I noticed she left a $7.00 tip . . . for takeout! I almost went through the roof.
Why am I tipping the person for takeout? What is up with everyone expecting to be tipped?
On an average Sunday, you’re forced to top people all day long. If you go to brunch (which is a ’self-serve’ meal), you have got to tip the waiter.
Wait a minute. I’m paying for food that costs me four times what I would have paid to buy it myself. Don’t restaurants pay people?
I have to pay my employees. Why can’t I pay my employees cheap wages and have them just make up the difference in tips?
You’re expected to tip everybody nowadays. You get a massage, you’ve got to leave a tip. You get a haircut, you have to tip. At a hotel you have to tip the concierge, the bellboy, the busboy, the waiter and the maid.
You have to tip everyone. Tipping the hotel maid? I know they don’t make good wages, but isn’t that the choice they made?
Why are we tipping everyone in the world? Why is everyone in the world entitled to a tip?
Why do we have to tip 20% in a restaurant. Why do we give a 20% tip everywhere we go. If we spent $100.00 on a Saturday, you’re really spending $120.00 because of all the people you’ve tipped throughout the day.
There are tip cups everywhere you go. You go to a local bagel shop, and the person there who decided to work for minimum wage cutting a bagel expects a tip. You get a cup of coffee and there is a tip cup. You get a scoop of ice cream, and there is a tip cup at the register.
People also try to give you guilt if you don’t contribute to their tip cups. The other day I picked up some takeout food, and as I signed the credit card slip without leaving a tip the woman gave me a dirty look as she put the food in the bag. She expected me to give her a tip (instead of hoping that I would leave her one).
I worked many jobs like this when I was younger, and I never expected to get a tip from every customer (or, really, from any customers). If I got a tip, I was happy. Of course, I expected to get tipped when I was bartending, but not when I was working behind a counter.
So, here’s a tip. If you don’t like what you’re getting paid at your job, go get a new one. Why is everyone at every job entitled to a tip?
Tags: better jobs, credit card, credit card tips, Dating Advice, david wygant, find a better job, jobs, Matt Damon, Matt Damon The Informant, Mindset, minimum wage, starbucks, The Informant movie, The Informant!, tip cup, tip jars, tipping
Posted in Humor & Just For Fun, Mindset, Money & Success | 29 Comments »
Monday, August 31st, 2009
You want to have the ultimate abundance mindset in life. This goes for business and it goes for your dating life.
Let’s say you work in sales. Every January 1st you always feel like you are broke because you’re “starting over” in a new year. You feel like you need to get that first sale of the year.
You compare yourself constantly to the previous year and you continually want to improve your statistics. You’re competitive. You want to make more money and be more successful than you were in the prior year.
We all do it. I do it too. I’ve done some things I almost don’t want to admit. I’ve held back checks that came in during the month of December and didn’t deposit them until January because I wanted to feel like I made more money in the new year.
You’re still paying the same amount of taxes on that money, but somehow by doing that it feels different mentally. In your head you think, “It’s January 2nd and I have cash in the bank already!”
Here is something that someone very financially successful taught me a long time ago: Don’t ever count what you’ve made this year; Count what you’ve made your entire adult life. If you do this, you will always feel abundance.
Instead of thinking “Wow, I’m having an off year,” think I’ve made $20 Million so far! You feel much more abundant when you do that. You don’t have to count and keep track of every little deal, and you don’t need to compare yourself to others.
This same abundance principle applies to your success in meeting the opposite sex. So many guys will think, “God am I having a bad week!” They could instead think something like “Wow, I’ve gone on 3,000 dates and slept with 250 women!” That is an abundance mentality and it will affect how you interact with people.
So think abundance every day. Walk around and feel that abundance.
Don’t think about how many people you have (or have not) met this month. Think about how many dates you’ve been on in your life.
When you do this, your energy will change and be open. What happens then is that every time you talk to someone of the opposite sex, you will talk to them with a confident open energy and without desperation.
If you have a rough streak where things aren’t happening the way you’d like, which happens to everyone, then you might have a tendency to put more pressure on yourself to change things. If you can concentrate on all the wonderful people you’ve met in your life, then you’ll radiate the power of an abundance mentality instead of radiating an air of desperation.
It’s no different than when a professional baseball player is in a slump. When a baseball player is having a 2-10 slump, the best players pull themselves out of that slump by thinking “Well, I’ve still got a .300 average!” If a player is in a 2-54 slump, you can always tell that he has just been thinking about how badly things have been going for him and he just keeps pressing. That never works.
In terms of meeting someone of the opposite sex, when you start pressing you need to take a “time out” and write down all your successes. Take a day off from chasing, and then go back the next day with a brand new attitude of how successful your entire life has been.
That’s how you do it. It’s all about the mindset. It’s all about having the ultimate abundance mindset.
Tags: abundance, dating advice for men, dating advice for women, david wygant, how to have abundance, how to meet men, how to meet women, Mindset, sales, ultimate abundance mindset
Posted in Attract and Approach Men, Attract and Approach Women, Life Style 101, Mindset | 18 Comments »
Friday, May 8th, 2009
The other night as I was about to fall asleep, I turned to my girlfriend and said “Babe, do you hear that? I think your mom is snoring!” So we got really quiet so we could listen, and indeed we could hear her mom snoring right through the wall. It’s amazing how the sound of snoring can travel through sheet rock.
It reminds me of staying in a hotel, and how the walls are always so paper thin that you can even hear the person in the next room sneeze. I actually remember staying in a Marriott in Washington DC one time when I did hear the man in the room next to me sneeze. When I heard that I said “Bless you” which he evidently heard right through the wall, because he answered “Thanks!”
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Tags: frank sinatra, Mindset, mothers day, snoring
Posted in Attract and Approach Women, Divorce | 17 Comments »
Tuesday, October 21st, 2008
Here’s the problem with having a minimalist approach in life.
If you have the minimalist approach to your business, what happens? You don’t make any money, right? You have to have that same feeling of abundance in every facet of life.
So many guys will meet a girl and then say to themselves, I don’t want to blow this! You’re acting like this is the last pretty girl you will ever see. Instead of challenging yourself and having a good conversation with her, you’re monitoring yourself and trying not to blow it. You walk over there and you play it safe, because you don’t want to blow it.
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Tags: a new earth, eckhart tolle, inner game, law of attraction, Mindset, NLP, the power of now, the secret, think, thoughts
Posted in Attract and Approach Women, Divorce | 13 Comments »
Sunday, October 5th, 2008
I’ve said this a lot, and I’m going to say it again and again and again: life is not a sprint.
Life is a marathon – and you are only racing against yourself. You don’t have any other competitors.
Your marathon starts the day you were born. You are in the middle of an unbelievable marathon. We all are.
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Tags: approach women, marathon, meet hot women, Mindset, whole foods, winning attitude
Posted in Attract and Approach Women, Dating Etiquette, Divorce | 11 Comments »
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