Not too long ago in the blog, we talked about guys who act like an ass in the bar. A few days after I posted that blog, I got an email from a guy who told me he had tried what I said and that it had worked! This guy said what I recommended in that blog, and (not surprisingly) the woman chose to stay with him instead of leaving with Mr. Annoying.

I was in Whole Foods getting some dinner tonight, and I was talking to one of the checkout girls I know there. I don’t actually know her name, but I talk to her all the time. She’s really nice. As we’re talking, I turn around and there is a guy standing there wearing a wizard hat. Here is this 30-something year old man standing there wearing a gigantic wizard hat. It’s not even close to Halloween. I looked at the checkout girl and said, “Have you seen the wizard?” She started laughing. It’s funny when people wear outrageous, over-the-top things.

Attracting the perfect person. People ask me all the time, “David, how can I attract the perfect person?” My answer is always the same: “Are you perfect? Are you a perfect person?” None of us are perfect, and that is what makes life so interesting. It’s our imperfections — the way we conduct ourselves and who we are — that make life really interesting.

It’s funny. If you ask a guy about a woman and say “What do you see?”, he will always pick out the most obvious things. He’ll say “She has great blonde hair” or “I like her body” or “She’s tall” or “She’s wearing a read shirt.” Women, on the other hand, notice totally different things about men. Let me ask you a question. How many times have you been talking to a woman and, like magic, other women come over and start talking to you?

Imagine what it would be like for you to be able to walk into any room and command attention. How would you feel if you were the president of your local coffee shop or of your local Whole Foods? Imagine being able to walk into any bar or being able to go into any party, and you are the person that everybody wants to get to know . . . all before you even utter a word.

There you are, alone at a bar waiting for your friends to arrive. You are standing at the bar only a few feet away from a woman who is also standing alone at the bar. This woman is beautiful. She is everything you think you want. You see her take a sip of her drink, play with the straw, look at her watch and check her cell phone. She looks around the room and, for just a split second, your eyes meet and you have a moment. Then she…

Focus is what life is all about. We need to focus on ourselves and our own energy. This is something we often go through at the Bootcamps. A lot of guys will say to me, “David, how do you remain so razor sharp? How do you focus? I can’t focus when I go and talk to a woman. My mind is all over the place.”

It’s 12:42 pm. You’re in a clothing store at a shopping mall, and you see a woman to whom you are attracted. You observe what she’s doing, and you find an opener. She’s holding an AC/DC t-shirt, so you know you can walk over to her and say something simple like…

I’m hanging out with Will and he asked me a question which brought me back to some awful nights in my past. He said, “I was hanging out with Khiem and his girlfriend, and there was this girl we ran into who was one of those loud girls. Everything she said was just over-the-top — amplified and loud. How do I deal with that? I mean, she was pretty. I thought she was hot, but how do I relate to her?”

Today really is a great day to go out there and meet people. There is one thing you can say to everyone today. Isn’t that what people are looking for – the one thing you can say to everyone that will work every time? Well, today is the only day of the year you can use this.