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Episode 518: Does Your Job Match Your Personality

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What do you do if a deal doesn’t work out for you like it was supposed to?
Do you go back and sue the person? Do you bully the person?

There seems to be lawyers just for buyer’s remorse.
Lawyers don’t care about buyers and their remorse, it’s just their job.

Lawyers seem to be those kids who were picked on in life and they wanted to get people back. They create havoc.

But then I think about doctors and some of the things they do. Doctors seem to really care about people.

Think about the people you know in life and think about their jobs and if they fit.
Can you look at your kid’s friends and see which will be the lawyer and which will be the doctor?
Are you truly utilizing your skills that you were blessed with?

Episode 517: Are You Self Absorbed

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I want to launch a new app called “The Self Absorbed Meter”.

I run into self absorbed people all day.

There’s not enough etiquette.

Everyone is self absorbed not leaving room for others.

But when you turn it around on them by going around them, they get offended.

This is because we live in a world where people are rewarded for being self centered and self absorbed.

This illusion is really dangerous.

When we’re constantly thinking “me me me”, we miss out on connecting with other people.

We’re rewarded for narcissistic behavior when people give us a “like” on our pictures and comments.

It takes a conscious effort to not be self absorbed.

So ask yourself- how many times a day do you do a self absorbed act?
Then ask yourself why.

We need to understand there are people on this planet who need to share the space with us.

Take responsibility for being nicer.

Episode 516: It Doesn’t Work For Me Syndrome

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What is this, “it won’t work for me” syndrome?
This is negative programming that people use to keep themselves in the equation thinking that everything they’ve tried to achieve won’t work, so it keeps us from trying again. 
We have to get to the root of it and look at the loop that’s been holding us back. We’ve bought all the programs to help us, we tried them, we gave up. 
We listen to the voices that tell us it won’t work. We do that because we’re pussies. We’re afraid of failure. We’d rather stay the way we are than do something to try to be better and possibly fail so we have to try again. 
The failure is going to make us feel worse than feeling shitty about ourselves. 
We need to take ourselves out of that equation. We need to stop rationalizing the doubt. Those voices in our heads are just fucking with us.
Our desire needs to be louder than those voices of doubt. 
Start believing in the “it works for me” syndrome. 
Change your mindset. It’s a conscious choice.  

Episode 515: Why The Pilgrims Were Right

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The night before Thanksgiving was always a huge night and one of my favorite memories was going with my friends in NY to watch the floats get blown up before being used the next day in the Macy’s Thanksgiving Day parade. It’s a big going out night to party and reconnect with friends.

I’m thinking about Black Friday and how many people choose to wake up super early to battle crowds because of marketing and programming when we should be sitting in and staying thankful after the day spent with family.

What does Thanksgiving mean to you? What are you thankful for this year?
It’s not about the deals we’re going to get on Black Friday.
It’s a time to reflect and connect.
And you should take time to thank yourself for making it through another year.

Have a great Thanksgiving.

Episode 514: What’s Your Personal Grade

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I’m watching a hierarchy in my daughter’s fish tank. The Angel fish is the top fish and just parades around being the boss. And they go in order from there. The lazy catfish is managing to not be lazy anymore.

Some fish just kind of float by. They aren’t aggressive at all.

Then there’s the hustler fish who scrub the tank and get the work done.

Which fish are you? The one that hangs out and does nothing, or the one that digs and scrubs and does everything it can to find what it’s looking for?

How was your year? If you had to grade your year, what would your grade be?

Did you push yourself or did you hardly get by and quit?

How would you honestly grade yourself?

Think it through. Grade your year and see where you can mark improvement.

Episode 513: Who Is Your Mentor

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It’s Thanksgiving week and I’m thinking about when I was a kid and went to my grandparents house.

This year, my family will be flying in and spending time at my place.

As we give thanks this week, it’ll also be time to reflect on life. The end of the year is a cleansing.

We’ll think about all the things we need to change about ourselves

This is why I always recommend finding a mentor to help with that.

There are mentors available everywhere and you would be surprised at how little it costs to find someone who can help you grow.

Don’t be cheap with yourself. Spend the money on bettering yourself by surrounding yourself with people who you want to be.

So when you give thanks this week, you have to make a decision on who is going to form a new you.

Figure out who your mentor will be.

Episode 512: How to Thrive, Not Survive

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People tend not to know what’s right for them.

There’s SO much stimulation out there that we can’t focus on what our correct path should be.

If you’re like me, it’s just “fight or flight” CONSTANTLY and sometimes we can’t fully let our guard down.

Eventually, you hit a wall. You start to notice the bad programming you learned from a bad source in your past.

Are you enjoying life in this moment? Are you stuck living to “prove something” to someone in your past?

Sometimes “healing” means letting go of old negative patterns to finally be able to THRIVE, instead of just survive. Whether it’s weight loss, mental health, emotional maturity, or eating habits, the things that hold us back will hold ALL parts of us back.

You KNOW what you need to do.

Your heart knows. Your body knows. Look at your health, What do you need? Be honest with yourself.

What are you going to do? Are you willing to do what it takes to heal and thrive?

Join me and my guest, holistic nutritionist and lifestyle cleanse expert Elissa Goodman, as we discuss how you can not just survive, but thrive!


Episode 511: Listen Up! Stop Being a Prisoner of Your Life

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Here’s some reality – you want it? You got it.

You’ve told yourself over and over again, recreated the stories in your life that validate your negativity. When I’m coaching people, I hear that negativity – and I give you a 100%, totally unbiased opinion.

I don’t know you.

I hear you – and that’s better. A good coach doesn’t have to like you, or know you, a good coach has to hear you. And with a good coach, you do the work.

I need to connect the dots, hear your stories, and be able to break through the BS.

Part of what I do when I work with people is help them develop a new way of doing things. The human condition is all about trying to reinfect YOUR way into the program, into the process – and inevitably, it always fails.

When you do things your coach’s way for 30 days or 30 nights, THEIR way becomes YOUR way, and you’re no longer triggered by your own frustration because you’re no longer doing things THAT way anymore.

That’s how you make the change in your life.

Interested in coaching? Reach out here ——>


Episode 510: How to Free the Lizard Brain

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Today we welcome Bryan Robinson, PhD, who wrote the fantastic article, “3 Life Changing Steps to Chill Your Stressed-Out Brain” – check it out here:


Stress usually has to do with old programming we have in our minds – how can we work with our ‘lizard brains’ to get out of the rat race and allow life to sink in?

Bryan talks to us about the science of the brain and explains the ‘lizard brain’ – how its natural protection mechanism trips us up and how to rewire your brain to function in chill mode.

Check out Bryan’s website here:


And his latest book: #Chill: Turn off Your Job and Turn On Your Life.

Episode 509: Pass the Pretzels, How Ya Doin’?

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Here are a couple of observations that most of us see on a daily basis …

What are the two things people do when they get to a stoplight?

Before people had iPhones, the thing most people did is … well, you’ll have to listen to find out.

But they’re always going for it.

People are weird.

Let’s talk about it.

You’re not going to believe this …

Episode 508: Who Let the Crazy Out

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It’s Monday – Was in Tampa over the weekend.

Had a good coaching weekend, and I always feel inspired, alive after coaching. There’s something about helping someone manifest a new version of themselves that’s important.

Many people I coach find themselves doing well when they get into new relationships – then over time, they find themselves ‘letting the crazy out’, letting the ‘broken’ show if they haven’t done the work to repair the broken.

Most of us avoid the broken. We don’t fix it, we don’t pay attention to it – then when we’re in a new relationship, we get triggered by something and the self-sabotage comes flying out.

Let’s talk about how to fix that … finding ways to fix your broken for good.

Episode 507: Why Conspiracy Theorists are Always Wrong

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The stock market’s gonna crash – the dollar’s going to crash. Okay – conspiracy theorists. You hear them all.

If you look back in time, EVERY conspiracy theorist has had to say, “Well, I was wrong…”

No one can know the future. You can track patterns (which you know I’m a big fan of), you can look at everything around you to try to figure out some direction for the future, but ultimately – YOU are the only thing you can control.

So what are you going to do to change YOUR fate, your future, without worrying about what the conspiracy theorists have to say?