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Episode 523: The World’s Best Therapist, Nike

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I’m wearing brand new Nikes today and it reminds me of so many things we’re not doing on a daily basis.
Nike’s motto is “Just Do It” but so many people just can’t do it.

How long do you spend talking about what you need to do? How many therapists have you been to? How many times do you overanalyze the same situations every day?

Imagine how productive you would be if you stopped talking about things that are holding you back.

We don’t get time back.

Don’t over analyze.
Work on the thing that’s been holding you back.
It’s time to just do it.

Episode 522: Why You Mentally Masturbate Your Precious Time Away

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I’m going to NY for a few days to see family and enjoy some winter weather.

It’s my favorite time in NYC. There’s magic in the air in New York at Christmas time.
There’s no magic in the air in LA.
I go get my ass frozen at a cryo place, and this girl asks me “what would I do if I could do it all again?”
I would do some things differently.
I would go back and push myself harder.

We seem to want everything immediately. We don’t have much patience.

I think about some lessons that keep coming up in my life again.

We keep ourselves stuck in fear. It’s like mental masturbation.

I want you to think about what lessons come up differently for you?

The universe delivers lessons to us on a daily basis.

Episode 521: Why TMZ Is The Devil

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I just found out that a Running Back got released from his position because he assaulted a woman in a club.
She called him the worst thing possible and in turn, he assaulted her publicly.
There is nothing ok with what he did, but I have a hard time knowing that publications like TMZ can just assist in ruining lives by publishing every single action made by celebrities.
They do this because we live in a culture of people who are obsessed with everything celebrities do.
And this guy made a huge mistake.
But was it right for the media to expose it the way they did?

Episode 520: Why Being High Makes You Dumber Than Dumb

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Let’s just get high.

Let’s just get stoned and drunk and forget about our problems.
We can forget about the fact that our lives are a mess.
We can get ultra creative coming up with solutions.

And then we’ll wake and start it over again.

We’ll not go fix our lives, we’ll just get lazy and lost and stoned with no answers. We’ll get dumber.

We get high and do dumb things like send drunk texts to exes.

The higher we get the dumber we get, the lazier we become.

I’m not talking about recreational use when our lives are ok. I’m talking about using these things to numb us from our life’s issues. I’m talking about escaping our inner truth.

Being numb is dumb.
We can’t grow and evolve when we ignore our problems.

Confront your shit. Today.

Episode 519: Become The Captain Of Your Hook

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Tonight we’re talking about a movie called “BlameBusters” that I’m making up.
It’s about people who blame others for where they’re at.
I say a lot of controversial statements about people who are cheated on by telling them that they are at fault for it, because they ignored the patterns and the signs.
It doesn’t matter what it is- if you’re cheated on or if you have weight issues- you are constantly manifesting it. You have a tape recorder in you that says “this won’t work for me” because it’s easier to blame others for where you’re at.
“I’m not happy because” is just blame.
You want off this cycle, start taking responsibility.

Episode 518: Does Your Job Match Your Personality

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What do you do if a deal doesn’t work out for you like it was supposed to?
Do you go back and sue the person? Do you bully the person?

There seems to be lawyers just for buyer’s remorse.
Lawyers don’t care about buyers and their remorse, it’s just their job.

Lawyers seem to be those kids who were picked on in life and they wanted to get people back. They create havoc.

But then I think about doctors and some of the things they do. Doctors seem to really care about people.

Think about the people you know in life and think about their jobs and if they fit.
Can you look at your kid’s friends and see which will be the lawyer and which will be the doctor?
Are you truly utilizing your skills that you were blessed with?

Episode 517: Are You Self Absorbed

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I want to launch a new app called “The Self Absorbed Meter”.

I run into self absorbed people all day.

There’s not enough etiquette.

Everyone is self absorbed not leaving room for others.

But when you turn it around on them by going around them, they get offended.

This is because we live in a world where people are rewarded for being self centered and self absorbed.

This illusion is really dangerous.

When we’re constantly thinking “me me me”, we miss out on connecting with other people.

We’re rewarded for narcissistic behavior when people give us a “like” on our pictures and comments.

It takes a conscious effort to not be self absorbed.

So ask yourself- how many times a day do you do a self absorbed act?
Then ask yourself why.

We need to understand there are people on this planet who need to share the space with us.

Take responsibility for being nicer.

Episode 516: It Doesn’t Work For Me Syndrome

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What is this, “it won’t work for me” syndrome?
This is negative programming that people use to keep themselves in the equation thinking that everything they’ve tried to achieve won’t work, so it keeps us from trying again. 
We have to get to the root of it and look at the loop that’s been holding us back. We’ve bought all the programs to help us, we tried them, we gave up. 
We listen to the voices that tell us it won’t work. We do that because we’re pussies. We’re afraid of failure. We’d rather stay the way we are than do something to try to be better and possibly fail so we have to try again. 
The failure is going to make us feel worse than feeling shitty about ourselves. 
We need to take ourselves out of that equation. We need to stop rationalizing the doubt. Those voices in our heads are just fucking with us.
Our desire needs to be louder than those voices of doubt. 
Start believing in the “it works for me” syndrome. 
Change your mindset. It’s a conscious choice.  

Episode 515: Why The Pilgrims Were Right

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The night before Thanksgiving was always a huge night and one of my favorite memories was going with my friends in NY to watch the floats get blown up before being used the next day in the Macy’s Thanksgiving Day parade. It’s a big going out night to party and reconnect with friends.

I’m thinking about Black Friday and how many people choose to wake up super early to battle crowds because of marketing and programming when we should be sitting in and staying thankful after the day spent with family.

What does Thanksgiving mean to you? What are you thankful for this year?
It’s not about the deals we’re going to get on Black Friday.
It’s a time to reflect and connect.
And you should take time to thank yourself for making it through another year.

Have a great Thanksgiving.

Episode 514: What’s Your Personal Grade

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I’m watching a hierarchy in my daughter’s fish tank. The Angel fish is the top fish and just parades around being the boss. And they go in order from there. The lazy catfish is managing to not be lazy anymore.

Some fish just kind of float by. They aren’t aggressive at all.

Then there’s the hustler fish who scrub the tank and get the work done.

Which fish are you? The one that hangs out and does nothing, or the one that digs and scrubs and does everything it can to find what it’s looking for?

How was your year? If you had to grade your year, what would your grade be?

Did you push yourself or did you hardly get by and quit?

How would you honestly grade yourself?

Think it through. Grade your year and see where you can mark improvement.

Episode 513: Who Is Your Mentor

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It’s Thanksgiving week and I’m thinking about when I was a kid and went to my grandparents house.

This year, my family will be flying in and spending time at my place.

As we give thanks this week, it’ll also be time to reflect on life. The end of the year is a cleansing.

We’ll think about all the things we need to change about ourselves

This is why I always recommend finding a mentor to help with that.

There are mentors available everywhere and you would be surprised at how little it costs to find someone who can help you grow.

Don’t be cheap with yourself. Spend the money on bettering yourself by surrounding yourself with people who you want to be.

So when you give thanks this week, you have to make a decision on who is going to form a new you.

Figure out who your mentor will be.

Episode 512: How to Thrive, Not Survive

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People tend not to know what’s right for them.

There’s SO much stimulation out there that we can’t focus on what our correct path should be.

If you’re like me, it’s just “fight or flight” CONSTANTLY and sometimes we can’t fully let our guard down.

Eventually, you hit a wall. You start to notice the bad programming you learned from a bad source in your past.

Are you enjoying life in this moment? Are you stuck living to “prove something” to someone in your past?

Sometimes “healing” means letting go of old negative patterns to finally be able to THRIVE, instead of just survive. Whether it’s weight loss, mental health, emotional maturity, or eating habits, the things that hold us back will hold ALL parts of us back.

You KNOW what you need to do.

Your heart knows. Your body knows. Look at your health, What do you need? Be honest with yourself.

What are you going to do? Are you willing to do what it takes to heal and thrive?

Join me and my guest, holistic nutritionist and lifestyle cleanse expert Elissa Goodman, as we discuss how you can not just survive, but thrive!