Without Sex Would You…?”

September 14, 2009 111 Comments Women Sex, Turn-Ons & Turn-Offs, Uncategorized

What a great “guy’s weekend” — nonstop football Saturday and Sunday, and there’s still two Monday Night Football games tonight. By midnight tonight, though, the greatest guy’s weekend will end and it will be back to reality.

Let’s talk about reality and about a subject that I believe will really get people thinking…

I just had kind of a funny conversation with Tyler (who works with me) about relationships. I’ve had this conversation with four different guys. It is something I’ve always wondered.

You know, we were just joking around as two guys will do. Then I asked him, “Do you think if men and women couldn’t have sex — if sex was out of the equation, there was no such thing as sex drive and sex didn’t even exist — do you think that men and women would still hang out? Do you think they would really hang out together?”

Do men and women have enough things in common outside of sex so that they would hang out together if sex wasn’t a factor? Granted, men love looking at women and women love looking at men, but sex is a big part of relationships.

If you took sex out of the equation, what would you have? You’d have a typical married life. Okay, I’m joking a little bit about the marriage thing . . . although that is the case in many a marriage.

If there was no such thing as sex or a sex drive, do you believe that men and women would really hang out? Do you believe that people would just hang out with people they like regardless of gender, or do you believe that guys would just hang out with guys because they have more in common with each other? Guys do have a lot of things in common (many times it’s sports).

Now, of course, this whole hypothetical couldn’t possibly happen. If sex was taken away then, then this blog would not exist and neither would I (in terms of my job description)…and you wouldn’t be here writing comments. If there were no sex then the world would still be full of dinausars, but let’s allow ourselves to go into fantasyland for a minute.

If sex were not part of the equation, would men just sit around with each other all day long scratching their groins, burping, farting and watching sports? What would women talk about when they got together for lunch if they weren’t talking about men? Would it be all hair and makeup talk?

Would Oprah have a career? What about all the self-help books? Half of them would be gone. All the “men like bitches” and “women playing hard to get” theories would be gone . . . or would they?

Would men and women still date if they had no sex drive? I’ll tell you one thing. If there were no sex drive, then “porn” would not be the number one search term on the Internet. It would be “NFL” instead.

There would be no such thing as blue balls or multiple orgasms, and one of the biggest money making businesses in the world – the manufacturers of birth control pills and Viagra — would be out of business. What would the pharmaceutical companies do?

So let’s talk about this “new reality.” If you couldn’t have sex and men and women just hung out as friends, would men and women still get married? Would men and women still live together, or would men just live in fraternity houses (and women in sorority houses) for the rest of their lives?

I’ll tell you one benefit to there being no sex. There would be far fewer cats up for adoption, because no woman would be scared to get a cat for fear of being labeled ‘the lonely cat lady.’

So now I want to hear from you. What are your thoughts on this? Let’s talk about this today, because it’s a great topic.

Do you believe that men and women would hang out if sex was out of the equation?

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Sarah Grace says

2011-04-17 16:30:29

wow lots of posts, i just skipped to the end :/ what if sex were out of the equation? well, it is for me--i'm one of those "sex within marriage only" people--and i can have a wonderful friendship with a man. in fact, i find that it is easier for me to approach a guy just to talk, than it is for me to talk to fellow females anymore. and i dont like sports. usually we end up talking about music or current events and even about controversial things. i'm a red-blooded female, so of course i think about sex. but if i wont even date a guy, i'm not going to imagine romance with him. i can meet any guy at college and talk to him just to talk to him. in fact i have a "chatting buddy" with whom i talk every time i see him. we honestly enjoy each other's company. one of my guyfriends is very outgoing, and expresses concern where concern is due, whether or not he likes the girl. it's impossible for him to like all the girls with whom he interacts regularly, since we all have different personalities. so yes i think men and women can interact without even thinking about sex. but marriage without sex? hmmm you try total abstinence until you're in your 20s or 30s, get married to someone you're crazy about, and try not to light the fireworks ;) it's like shaking a soda can, opening it, then expecting not to get soaked with carbonated sugar water.
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nick says

2010-10-02 07:10:58

Hey Dave, In this whole thing there would be no fear of approach so guys wouldn't have a problem talking to women, But with that I don't think guys would have a reason to , other than being friends
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Khiem/Ken (DW Coach) says

2009-09-21 13:27:16

I can't imagine a world without sex. The comments on here are all interesting but world without sex would mean that there is no 2 gender either. So for one, a world without sex would probalby imply that there wouldn't be as much differentiation in body types... as well as fashion. There won't be a man/woman section... there wouldn't be a lot of things that governs the way our society works currently. I know that there is some species of animal that mutates between male and female to have kids... but I don't know. I guess the closest thing I can imagine is a society of one gender... just pick one... man OR woman... and put all people of the various colors togethers. That's the closest thing I can think of when David asks if men and women would hang out together without sex. So yes, I'd hang out with them... just like I hang out with someone of a different color. But the emotional and physical attachment would be different. The meaning of hanging out with a woman would mean something different. Being with a woman (in a sexual manner) makes me feel greater as a "man"... but if i was to hang out with a woman in a non-sexual manner, I guess it'd be the normal.. sharing of functions and experiences.... but it loses some of the more intricate meanings.
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C-Man says

2009-09-17 21:18:37

Man, I don't know how to answer this. I just have to say that I love women, and doesn't matter if I have sex with them. Just having that feeling whenever I look at them, touch them, admire their beauty, I get high of women and that's all I need. ;D I've learned not to care. I'm just living the Law of Giving where it says: "Give and it shall be given unto thee. Giving equals receiving."
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Mats says

2009-09-17 06:09:23

It is indeed an interesting hypothetical. Personally I think that men and women would have a lot more fun together on a whole if all the pitfalls of trying to posess the other, or "conquering" a worthy mate was not there. The same thing that draws the sexes together trough sexuality drives them apart trough the inner workings of desire; mainly that there is a never ending uneasyness brought on by desire both fulfilled and unfulfilled that stifle many an attempt at connecting directly with persons and alleviating some of the loneliness so pervasive in modern society. Perhaps, on the flipside, it would make it much more difficult for people to relate to the same sex. Validation from same-sex interactions might well become much more important to people's images, and thus the need for validation could make same sex realationships lose exactly that easy. An ease that comes from not needing to own the other person. Most of the negative feelings about sex that people have finally come from this need for validation. It is not about sex really. It is about "Can my (same-sex) friend get getter mates then I?"
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Ashton Laurent says

2009-09-15 19:40:21

A world without sex would be very boring. However, let me say that my best friend is a man with whom I would never have sex. He's very hetero, too, as am I, but this is not part of the equation between us. If he needs help, I help him. When my back went out, he came over at 6:30 a.m. to help me out of bed and to the bathroom. He stayed on the sofa downstairs and took me to the chiropractor when she opened up later that morning. I can call him for anything. He can call me for anything. Since I am working out of town, he is taking care of my house and managing my bank accounts. I can tell him anything. He knows more about my past than anyone ever has and I know about his past and his fantasies that he has never told anyone. As you can see, I can trust this man with anything and he can trust me. So, to answer your question. Yes. Men and women can have relationships that don't include sex. These people become family members, so the relationship is much more like a brother/sister relationship. I'm not sure I could have as close a relationship with a man as I do with this one if we didn't look at each other that way.
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Kelly says

2009-09-15 17:50:47

Oh, I don't want to imagine a world without sex. :) But if I must, then yes, I'd still be great friends with both men and women, and still probably have involvements with men. I think some people only get along with other people who are exactly like them, and cannot imagine a world in which people may feel and experience things differently (I think we are seeing an excellent example of that above in the comments) and would not, given the hypothetical, associate with other people, while others draw energy from people's differences and in discovering a wide range of friends and associates, and this would be their nature regardless of other circumstances. Bu, seriously, let's keep the sex.
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clayhalo says

2009-09-15 16:28:25

Flirting is just playing, and it doesn't have to lead to anything more. I flirt with all kinds of men with no other intention than to experience a fun moment with them. It's a gift--the gift of your attention--not a character flaw!
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Natacha says

2009-09-15 14:33:36

Clint, why wast your time on someone who is "taken" and flirts with you. It's a character flaw and just let her know it's not accepted. Similar with men I have been around them flirting with me and having a steady. It's a turnoff and in the long run they will most likely do it again.
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Clint says

2009-09-15 14:08:23

Sorry i am off topic today, but thanks for the feedback CJ and jimmi! Yes this is my last year, and i really like what i am studying but the last year seems routine.
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Coach Jacob says

2009-09-15 14:07:07

Clint- Sometimes you may not what to do few small task b/c of lack of interest in the moment, however that is temporary, in life you have to do few things you don't like in order to accomplish big goals. So ask yourself do you currently enjoy what you really studying? Is this your last year?
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jimmi says

2009-09-15 14:04:48

Clint- you gotta be little bit focused i know it gets tough but stick with it.
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Clint says

2009-09-15 14:03:43

Did you ever have this problem jimmi- do you feel uncertainty about your passion in life, and what was your strategy?
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jimmi says

2009-09-15 14:01:41

It's a pain in the butt, but once you are done, you will not have to worry about it later.
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Clint says

2009-09-15 14:00:52

Trying to finish my graduate degree, and part time job, it's a pain in the butt, but i really gotta get it done, so lately been putting lot more time on that.
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jimmi says

2009-09-15 13:59:55

Pretty good man, what you been up to lately?
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Clint says

2009-09-15 13:59:30

ya sure Jimmi, how you been?
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jimmi says

2009-09-15 13:59:13

That is a good question Clint, let me get back to you on that.
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Clint says

2009-09-15 13:58:27

This can be answered by anyone- I curious if anyone have or had a female friend that was taken, but she flirted with you all the time, and you flirted back. Now what your take on this, how to lead this kind of flirting????
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jimmi says

2009-09-15 13:56:18

Marina- good to hear from you and yes i am doing better now that i started to date. So Sandra is busy with other part of cyber space, i wonder what naughty thoughts is on her mind;)
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Rick says

2009-09-15 13:54:43

David- I am always amazed how you come up with these daily blog ideas, very unique and creative!!!
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David Wygant says

2009-09-15 13:06:57

Brad As always the wise ass remark that cracks me up! How are you?
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David Wygant says

2009-09-15 13:06:25

Clay Halo Great point sex is like glue that can hold a marriage together, but you need several other things to complete that picture as you know.
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Brad H says

2009-09-15 12:23:13

Hmmm... interesting post. Without sex... well, considering most men are rather neuter creatures this day and age, I'd say things would be about the same... lol.
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clayhalo says

2009-09-15 10:49:55

I think sex is the glue that holds a relationship together. It is an essential form of communication that can also deepen a relationship. I see no point in a sexless marriage, There are no children to raise together. Sexual compatibility is vital even outside of marriage. Anyway, a marriage contract or really, any promise of commitment is no guarantee that two people will stay together, children or no children. There are no guarantees. Remind me again. What's the point of marriage? That being said, if there was no sex or sex drive, women and men would be the same, and would probably understand each other better. Both men and women are good for more than sex, but I'm afraid the world would be mind-numblingly dull without it.
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James says

2009-09-15 10:11:33

Gotta agree with Johnny. Girls are fine if you're not attracted to them but you can't be friends with someone you're attracted to in my experience. Would I be interested in girls if sex wasn't involved? I'd imagine I'd be interested in having them as friends just as much as I'm interested in having male friends, but that's all.
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Marina says

2009-09-15 10:07:40

Jimmi fine and thanks for asking, hope you are fine too. Sandra is busy in other parts of cyber space ;-)
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Rick says

2009-09-15 08:59:44

LOL JEFF
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jeffrey says

2009-09-15 08:59:10

Rick- I think it all start with being nice to people. You are lucky not only got a good frind but also a pimpatte:)
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Rick says

2009-09-15 08:58:03

I also have to mention that my best pal is a female, she is actually helping me now to meet more women, and referring me to her single friend:)
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Rick says

2009-09-15 08:57:05

I agree with Brad- there is no point to bashing other people here. Like David says, stop looking at them as a sexual object, they can be your best friend, and really help you out.
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Johnnylove says

2009-09-15 08:54:30

So many funny comments! I personally hang out with female friends who i am not attracted to. It can totally work. However if you have attraction for her, then its a different story.
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jimmi says

2009-09-15 08:50:59

Hey Marina- how are you? Where is Sandra?
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jimmi says

2009-09-15 08:50:35

Todays blog is a very interesting one, i don't know what i would do if i didn't have sex for a week. I think we can still get along with each other without sex, but it would be quite a challenge:)
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jimmi says

2009-09-15 08:49:12

wow where has this blog gone to in one day, i can't get enough of this.
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Dr.Who says

2009-09-15 08:47:47

Filipino girl- you are right on about that! Just curious where in Philippine do you come from?
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Dr.Who says

2009-09-15 08:46:03

I think both gender wouldn't hangout, maybe the guys would turn gay, and the women would turn lesbian:)
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Dudeski says

2009-09-15 06:55:55

Of course it would be possible to have a completely normal and happy relationship if there was`NO sex at all!!! I am amazed at how much of a big deal everybody makes about SEX! Sure it's the greatest of all gifts to mankind, and it IS the most super thing when everything clicks together.......but it's surely not the last thing on this earth! I can think of a hundred different fun things to do with a woman, that yes, I could do with a guy.....but it wouldn't be the same. After all, we don't go around having sex with EACH AND EVERY woman on this earth do we? There are mothers, sisters, aunts, etc who we have a great connection with.....but sexual? No way. End of Story!
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Dan says

2009-09-15 02:12:01

I was talking about this with my best friend and I agree on what he said: this is nature, this is life, this is essential, this is society, this is religion, this is love, this is compassion, this is comfort and so on. The only problem is these days people forget what is the right way to appraoch this. I am sure it wouldn't be the same without sexual tension and sex.
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David Wygant says

2009-09-14 22:51:52

BRad Some people cannot stay on topic......but thats ok there was still some really amazing posts here.
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David Wygant says

2009-09-14 22:50:56

BRian Nah....you can still have a crush as a kid. That was all about being innocent.
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Brian says

2009-09-14 21:33:10

I was going to say that it would be a lot like when we were little kids and sex wasn't an issue. But then I remembered that when I was 4 or 5 I had a huge crush on a girl that lived down the road from me. I didn't know what sex was but I always liked seeing her. Would our No-Sex World eliminate feelings like that?
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Filipina Girl says

2009-09-14 20:44:43

Hmmm, I think it is possible to happen that man and woman could still hangout with one another and settle down but the offside of it is that relationships tend to be dry and monotonous since sex is the most important spice in a married relationship, just my two cents.
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Marina says

2009-09-14 19:15:57

With no sex drive for one most would accept people for what they are on a deeper emotional level...but the flip side would be the loss of penis envy that you guys so often seem to talk so mch about.
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MAC says

2009-09-14 19:12:21

No response will be true to the question unless we know what it is to not have any sexual urges at all. It's like asking, "Would you still have a job or volunteer if you never got paid or reimbursed somehow (whether it be money, food, boarding or in any form, including God paying you back with eternal life.)" All our responses will be based on what we know about being rewarded for our work. We just can't delete the feeling of those urges and then formulate a response, hence Tom's response! Ask a porn star this question. See what they tell you.
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Brad says

2009-09-14 19:09:24

Awesome topic David! I agree with Tom that it would be tough to have female friends without the existence of a sex drive. That doesn't mean that they're only good for having sex with though. I love busting chops and having a good time with my female friends, but honestly I doubt it would be as fun without the sexual tension that we currently enjoy. I like these heated topics, but I wish the bashing would stop...it's pointless and fucking lame...stay on topic people!
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Marina says

2009-09-14 19:07:10

What ever happen to Dan the Original and K, miss K's late night comments. J dude and Canadian Vince hope you guys are having a great time out there ;-)
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Anna says

2009-09-14 18:56:07

I don't feel that way at all Tom. That just seems to be how it is for men. Just my personal experience -- And before you start calling people fucked up.... tom remember that saying about the pot and the kettle....
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Tom says

2009-09-14 18:46:04

I have female friends and I am married. Why do you feel this way about not being able to have same sex friends when you are in a relationship. That is really fucked up.
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Anna says

2009-09-14 18:42:14

could be Marina...
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Anna says

2009-09-14 18:41:13

Probably older than you think Tom :) Maybe it is naive...still seems too bad that men can't have women friends just because they're in a relationship
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Marina says

2009-09-14 18:40:27

Anna been there myself but most times it was either because he was not such a true friend to begin with or that his girlfriend did not like he was close friend with another girl.
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Tom says

2009-09-14 18:38:41

Anna How old are you? You seem really naive a bit but really sweet too. By the way this is not an insult at all. You remind me of a great woman I used to date.
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Anna says

2009-09-14 18:35:31

You know what David? You bring up an excellent point. Being a woman who has ALWAYS had male friends, I constantly feel sad that men seem to abandon their friends when they are in a live-in relationship or a marriage. Why does falling in love and sex always equal replacing your friends?? I have lost more than one very close male friend to the "woman of the moment" or a wife or a girlfriend. Every time the guy will say that she is now their best friend. Why? Sort of sad to me :)
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David Wygant says

2009-09-14 18:26:23

Anna I think marriage would not exist if there was no sex. I think life would be all full of great friends and no need to have one good friend when you can have many. But we are all so different and that is what makes the world interesting.
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David Wygant says

2009-09-14 18:25:02

Anna Love does exist. This has been a great topic I knew it when I wrote it this morning that we would get some amazing posts.
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Tom says

2009-09-14 18:23:39

Marina You sound like a woman who has experienced a sexless marriage.
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Marina says

2009-09-14 18:10:36

As a girl I see no reason why I would not hang with guys if there were no sex. There are plenty of thing we have in common. if not NFL lots of other sports and things both sexes have in common. A relationship has so many more levels than just sex.
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Rosalie says

2009-09-14 18:10:02

Could be Tom ;)
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Anna says

2009-09-14 18:09:07

Wait - David are you saying that in this hypothetical that LOVE doesn't exist either?
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Anna says

2009-09-14 18:08:09

David, I think you are forgetting the most important part of your own hypothetical -- that there is no such thing as sex or a sex drive. I agree that if sex exists that a sex-less marriage sounds awful. But here there is supposed to be no such thing as sex and so I am saying I can believe there are men I could love enough to marry (and, in fact, I am already friends with them) if there were no such thing as sex
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Tom says

2009-09-14 18:07:42

Interesting what some of you are saying. Rosalie are you a fag hag?
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David Wygant says

2009-09-14 18:05:56

Rosalie NO sex...no intimacy no cuddling. All emotions of sex and intimacy is gone. So now what would you do?
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Matt says

2009-09-14 18:04:49

Experienced what David - marriage with no sex? Of course, any married person who says they have sex in year 5 as often as they did before they were married is a liar! Sorry it's true...
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David Wygant says

2009-09-14 18:03:33

Anna That is very interesting. No sex and an ideal marriage. That to me sounds like an awful marriage with sex in the picture but without family sex kids etc. Why would anyone feel the need to get married?
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Rosalie says

2009-09-14 18:02:04

I have some friends who are gay men, and I LOVE being with them (almost more than any man with whom I've had a sexual relationship) in terms of the quality of the emotional, friendly, spiritual and general bonding part of the relationship. Don't get me wrong, there's nothing better than hot, steamy, erotic sex .... and if sex exists then that comes first in a relationship. BUT -- if sex didn't exist, I could live forever with any one of those gay friends and be 100% fulfilled spiritually, emotionally .... and always have someone to cuddle with on the couch:)
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David Wygant says

2009-09-14 18:01:42

MAtt Have you ever been married? A lot of marriage = no sex. Has anyone experienced that and how did they handle it?
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David Wygant says

2009-09-14 18:00:56

Charlie Is your dog a male or female:)
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Marina says

2009-09-14 18:00:14

Not mad just amused by the way you expresses yourself, just very young and immature ;-)
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Tom says

2009-09-14 17:57:25

Anyone else want to be honest? Or am I the only one who really is telling it like it is. Cmon guys really without sex would you hang with women? I would not at all. You think I would want to waste my day's at Bloomingdales.
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Charlie says

2009-09-14 17:57:11

If I just wanted a companion, I'd be happier hanging out with my buds or my dog than I would be hanging out with any chick
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Matt says

2009-09-14 17:55:32

no sex = no marriage for me
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Dusty says

2009-09-14 17:54:24

If there were no sex, I think I would probably choose to hang out mostly with my guy friends. I just think that I have more in common with them. Now if there was a woman out there who loves sports, fishing and having a few beers -- well, maybe I might reconsider. But taking sex out of the equation I just think I would enjoying hanging out with the guys more than hanging out with any woman.
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Tom says

2009-09-14 17:54:17

My pleasure great to meet you as well Marina. Why are you so angry at my honesty did I strike a hot topic with you?
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Cameron says

2009-09-14 17:51:09

david, am i the only guy who (of course in addition to the sex), enjoys the "man" parts of being in a relationship with a woman? i mean, i love when my girlfriend asks me to help her fix something or to grill stuff or whatever it is she "needs" from me. i think women make men feel amazing in ways that other guys never can - even apart from the sex.
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Marina says

2009-09-14 17:50:17

Tom welcome, so delightful to have such a class act guy around.
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Anna says

2009-09-14 17:44:53

Hmmmm....Tom seems so stuck on calling other people fat and bragging about how perfect a human specimen he and his wife are that it makes me think HE is the fatty he keeps accusing others of being.
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Anna says

2009-09-14 17:43:17

I just might David... I have male friends I love very much and there is (and will never be) any sex involved. I don't mean that I lust after them in silence. I mean, I genuinely love them from my heart -- care about them and enjoy spending time with them. I could be very happy being in a relationship (even non-sexual) with them. And, like the guys earlier said, sex doesn't exist and we don't feel any sex drive, so wouldn't that be an ideal marriage in that scenario?
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Tom says

2009-09-14 17:42:38

See Jules I knew you were a fat chick. I am the trophy my wife is a trophy we are all trophies as David always says. Your reaction was exactly as I thought. Size 20 I presume.
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David Wygant says

2009-09-14 17:41:06

Benjamin Yes you are right about that. But as you know a topic will always go in directions that we can not control. And we are still pretty close to the topic. Thanks for sharing.
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Jules says

2009-09-14 17:39:59

Can't goad me Tom, sorry. I don't hate men in the slightest. In fact, I have many good male friends. What I don't like are people with poor character - whether they're male or female. You fit squarely into that category. I think you're the type of guy who doesn't care about anyone but himself and his own ego -- and who needs his ego to be validated by his trophy wife to make him feel like he's a man.
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David Wygant says

2009-09-14 17:38:44

Anna Very very interesting. You would get married even if sex was off the table.
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David Wygant says

2009-09-14 17:37:41

Elizabeth Cool so you have had these situations bring different results. Men and women can be friends and that is one way natural sexual attraction can happen.
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David Wygant says

2009-09-14 17:36:33

Tom You are all about stirring things up. MY question to you. Do you cheat?
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benjamin says

2009-09-14 17:36:11

Hey everyone - Aren't we supposed to be assuming that sex doesn't exist for this discussion? That we have no sex drive? I have female friends and they are much MUCH nicer to live with then my fellow male slobs so I think I might enjoy co-existing more with women than with a bunch of grubby guys.
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Tom says

2009-09-14 17:34:31

Jules You? What have you found or are you some over weight chick that hates men like me?
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Anna says

2009-09-14 17:34:22

i know i'm not a guy, but i care about friends (male and female) that i'm close to like they're family. so yes i could have a relationship and get married to a guy if sex didn't exist
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Jules says

2009-09-14 17:31:02

Well then Tom I am glad you found your wife...you two sound like two of a kind
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Bailey says

2009-09-14 17:29:50

tom, dude, you are not helping yourself with your comments. you seem like you might be an okay guy - and i love that your honest - but you sound like you are someone who can't be trusted (since you would proudly cheat on your wife) so you don't sound like you'd make a good friend or business partner let alone husband regardless of the sex issue
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Tom says

2009-09-14 17:28:51

JUles I have amazing lifelong friends and treat them all amazing. I enjoy women and love sex. We dont have kids nor will we. I am 39 my wife is 32. I workout everyday I look hot. She works out everyday she looks hot. We look great for each other which keeps the sex really good. IF I got fat and ugly I would expect her to dump my ass and take all my money:)
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Bailey says

2009-09-14 17:27:27

girls are all right, but without the sex i can't say i'd be living with one or even considering getting married.
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Tom says

2009-09-14 17:26:26

Idiot i am not. HOnest I am. Very successful trader living in NYC with a very ht sexy wife who I Love. But if she got fat or ugly I would cheat like crazy. Honest and having money allows me to do what I want, say what I want and fuck what I want.
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Jules says

2009-09-14 17:26:03

Under normal circumstances, I would say I would feel differently about Tom since he is married. Ordinarily I would believe that would indicate he can form emotional, spiritual and friend bonds with women (or want to). It is solely because Tom said that women are only good for one thing AND that he would dump his wife if she no longer was having sex with him that has formed my opinion about Tom
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Elizabeth says

2009-09-14 17:23:47

Actually, David, the answer to that question is yes and no. I have had (and have) male friends who have always been and will always be just good friends. I have also had sex with men who turned into friends. Also have I had friends with whom I've at some point had sex. I just enjoy and feel like I bond better ( in all ways) with men than I do many times with women.
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David Wygant says

2009-09-14 17:21:29

Jules Tom is married how does that make you feel now about your comment?
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Jules says

2009-09-14 17:21:13

I already enjoy being in relationships (friend relationships) with men right now. So if there were no sex then I could very much enjoy a relationship with a man Tom I don't blame you if you don't feel like you mesh with women on a personality level or on an emotional bonding level - but to say women are only good for one thing shows you to be an immature idiot. honest or not....
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David Wygant says

2009-09-14 17:19:54

Elizabeth Do you have sex with any of the guys you hang with? Or are they just plutonic?
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Kyle says

2009-09-14 17:18:29

no on the marriage thing and no on the frat house roommate thing. im a grown man and (without the sex) neither option sounds too appealing.
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David Wygant says

2009-09-14 17:18:21

Tom yes you are very honest and thanks for sharing crude but real.
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Dave says

2009-09-14 17:17:22

No sex? Well maybe I would still have female friends, but I don't see that I'd be having a relationship and wanting to get married to a woman
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Brendon says

2009-09-14 17:16:21

I think it would be a lot like it is now. Sometimes I want to just hang with the guys and enjoy some "burping, farting, watching the game time" Other times I enjoy getting to be a little more "sensitive" and I think that is where you would still want to spend time with women. Even without the sex, there is something about the way a woman can make you feel as a man that you can't mimic when you're with the guys
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Jack says

2009-09-14 17:15:25

Tom you remind me of my bro. YOu tell it like it is and i appreciate your honesty. I love women and would still want to hang with them even if there was n sex.
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Tom says

2009-09-14 17:14:43

Now the question do you JUles. How do you feel about this topic and not me.
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Tom says

2009-09-14 17:14:01

Jules Actually I am happily married to a great woman but lets be honest here. If she stopped fucking me sucking my cock I am outta here. I love her but without the sexual tension she would just be a dude with a great pair of tits.
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Elizabeth says

2009-09-14 17:13:24

Well I don't know what guys will say to this, but I have more male friends than female, and my male friends love to hang out with me. I happen to love sports (and could probably out bet most of them), so maybe it's because I'm so much "one of the guys"
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Jules says

2009-09-14 17:11:32

Tom, you are the kind of moron who I'm sure isn't getting sex in the real world...so I can see why you see why your only reason for saying no to this hypothetical is the reason you gave... I'm guessing you also don't have any female friends currently -- oh, that's right they're only good for one thing... Tom I think you'd fit right in at a frat house, burping, farting and scratching your own junk -- I'm betting that's as close to your junk as anyone wants to get...
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Tom says

2009-09-14 17:10:02

C2 I may be a bit of an ass at times but it sounds like you need others to valiadate you. Do you listen to anything that David has to say? Its all about self validation.
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Tom says

2009-09-14 17:03:53

No sex. No way would I ever deal with the annoyance of women they are only good to fuck and thats about it.
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Charles says

2009-09-14 16:08:16

C2G- The only reason you find it impractical is because you know of it. Actually if you think about it, if you take sex out of the equation for a second, many men would approach women better instead of the desperate approach, which gets them nowhere anyways.:) Hey David. If there was no sex, I do think both sexes would still hang out. First of all we wouldnt know what we're missing, maybe there would be another form of pleasure, maybe we would hang out because we look and feel different from each other, so we would try to find out what makes us different. The possibilities are as endless as our imagination, but since we were brought into this world by sex, brought up around sex, its hard to imagine this lifetime without sex! Thanx David, great topic.
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Miss MatchMaker says

2009-09-14 16:05:12

What an interesting topic for discussion...I'll be back later to see how people respond lol xoxo~
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C2G says

2009-09-14 15:42:53

I find it impractical to speculate on topics like this... Perhaps it would be better to think about such abstracts as: - How can I leverage my natural drive for sex and validation to make myself a better person? - How would I behave if I received all the sex and validation I needed?
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