I got an e-mail from a reader the other day.

 It said:

 Dear David, 

I have a question for you that really needs to be answered.  It might change the way I think about dating, and I trust the value you have in this field.

 How do I know if the guy that I’m dating right now really loves me?  

 I think he loves me.  I feel like he loves me.

 But I just feel like something is missing.  I’m not sure what that is.  


 Melanie in San Francisco

Hey Mel,

 That’s a question we get all the time.

 I want to go back to something that you said in the email that is really interesting.

 You said, ‘I just feel like there’s something missing.’

 See Mel, we have been so programmed not to trust our own gut instincts.

 But you’re currently feeling what we call love intuition, and something he’s doing has triggered it.

 Your love intuition is being triggered so strong that you don’t know what to do. And you’re confused because you’ve been conditioned to date based on what you want him to be, even though your intuition is telling you something else.

 See, Mel, love intuition is something that most people are born with, yet we have spent a lifetime absolutely abolishing it through our experiences, through what our parents have taught us, through school, and everything else.

 Mel, whenever you feel that burning intuition, you need to follow it, because your love intuition is being triggered.  Your love intuition is telling you that no matter how great this man appears to be, there is something wrong, there’s an energy between the two of you that’s not being shared.

 You don’t understand each other on a deep level.  And maybe you’ll figure out what you’re feeling, six, seven, eight, or nine months down the road—maybe you’ll figure it out two years into this relationship.

 But you know what?  You’ll end up wasting more time with the wrong person.

 How many years do you want to keep wasting on people that aren’t compatible?

 Don’t waste anymore time.

 Too many people waste their life away in unfulfilling relationships.