I posted this on Facebook, and I decided that I write a longer article on it here.

The other day I was talking to a client. He was indecisive about this girl he was dating.

He met her.

They went hanging out once.

And he just didn’t know what to do next. He wasn’t feeling like she was giving him enough, well, feedback.

Validation.

Confirmation that she liked him.

He kind of assumed she felt the same way, and asked me how to make it work.

My words of wisdom were this.

It’s not her job to give you validation and confirmation.

It’s not her job to confess her undying love for you after one date.

It’s not her job as a to make it safe for you to proceed.

You see, you need to be a man, and have a plan, and watch how women respond differently to you.

So many men don’t have a plan, and wait for a girl to take control, and romance doesn’t work that way at all.

You see, if you have a plan, and you pursue her from the get-go, and you are fearless, and bold.

She will respond 100% differently than she ever would the way you did it now.

For instance, a while back I met a woman.

I met her on the street.

We talked for a little bit.

I sent her a text, and she didn’t get back to me.

So I figured she probably wasn’t into texting.

So what did I do? I sent her another text, and I had a plan, I told her we need to get together, I want to go out with her, have a bite with her.

Immediately she responded, we went out, we had dinner.

First suggestion I made with dinner: she couldn’t make it, she had plans with a friend.

So then I definitively chased after her, in the very next text.

I said how about Saturday, or Monday for you, I gave her two options, she told me Monday was better, and that’s when we went out.

I proceeded to pursue her, and get to know her, because that’s what’s missing in today’s modern dating world.

Too many men will not pursue, because they’re constantly hemming and hawing, and looking for validation, and confirmation.

To me, when I meet someone who’s interesting, I want to picture a man, I don’t need people who are so interesting all the time, so I’m going to give it my all, and I’m going to let her know that I’m giving it my all.

I’m going to pursue her, I’m going to set plans up, I’m going to set follow-up plans up. I’m going to stay in touch via text, I’m going to call her on the phone, and I’m going to get to know her, Why?

Because that is my role as the masculine, whenever I do that, the woman is 100% receptive back to me, if she’s as interested as I am, as I am in her.

I take the “I’m going to Google everything about how to make a relationship work” out of her brain. I lead her down the romantic journey.

You see, when you have a plan and you go after her, expect it to happen, it’s how this whole man-woman thing should be.

Without a doubt in my mind, I listen to my intuition.

Whatever that doubt is, I allow that feeling to come out, and if I doubt anything about her, or if I doubt the whole thing, and it doesn’t feel instinctually right to me.

I walk.

But if it feels right, I’m going to pursue it, I’m going to be invulnerable, I’m going to be raw, I’m going to be authentic.

I’m not going to care what she thinks, or how she got back to me in the right amount of time, I’m going to pursue her, and I’m going to let her know that I’m pursuing her.

If I like her, or I think she’s cool, I’ll tell her that.

I will tell her that I enjoyed connecting with her.

I’ll tell her if I think we’re very alike, and I feel like very comfortable around her.

You see, I’m not afraid to do this, because when you do this as a man, it allows the true feminine seductress to come out.

It allows her to participate in the romance.

It allows her to feel safe and secure in the feelings that she’s developing for you.

You’re a man, so go for it.

It’s so beautiful, and if it doesn’t work out, at least you can say to yourself, I did everything I possibly could, she changed her mind, I changed my mind, we both changed our minds.

And it didn’t work out.

Imagine, if you’re a stock trader, and you hesitated because you couldn’t make a decision whether to go with the intuition about stock, and you watched it go up $4.

Imagine if you’re Tom Brady and you hesitate .

You certainly wouldn’t be playing at the Super Bowl and trying to become the first quarterback to win five.

You wouldn’t to be playing in your 11th ASE championship game if you hesitated.

If you meet somebody that’s uniquely different than you’ve ever met before or somebody that absolutely intrigues you. Go for it! Go forth.

Stop swiping and looking for better things. You’re a man, be mature.

Admit to the fact that you haven’t met somebody like this in so long. Tell her that.

Be authentic and don’t look for validation and confirmation and guess what happens.

You’ll get more validation and confirmation than you will ever imagine. You just don’t realize she’s in the presence of a man who had a plan, and that plan was you and her.