The other night, a friend of mine went out on a Tinder date.

They were texting back and forth. It went from texting to a date within 45 minutes. Instead of the endless weeks of texting that usually goes on.

My friend admired this girl because she was actually willing to show up that night.

On his way to meet Tinderella, he drove up to the bar. He was excited. She was hot, she looked great in the pictures, and she was a pretty good texter.

When he got there she texted that she was late.

A common practice for girls in Los Angeles. They’re always late here. Whether there’s traffic or not, they’re always late.

“No big deal.” So my friend said. “I’ll just wait in the bar.”

He’s thinking to himself, “why the hell do I want to wait in a bar. I’m not even a drinker.”

She shows up and right from the get go she’s combative. That type A personality. She said “what do you think I do for work?”

She was drilling him. She made him feel guilty because he didn’t work that day.abundance

She said, oh you have some life, I had to work.

And the date continued like this the whole time.

After they finished their drinks he said “nice meeting you,” then got up and walked out.

And you know what the meaning of this is?

He practices abundance.

You see, so many guys would have looked at her and thought, yeah she’s hot. I’ve got to make it work somehow. So you’ll get past those awkward moments when you know your personality doesn’t match her personality. And you’ll try to make it work because she’s hot, and you want a hot girl.

And that’s not practicing abundance. You see, an abundant person will realize they have absolutely no chemistry whatsoever.

An abundant person will walk out and leave the hot girl.

Go to the car and immediately start swiping again.

They’d be driving home and swipe some more.

An abundant person will realize, “why do I need to make an effort with somebody who I don’t even get along with?” And they’ll walk away.

We spend too much time trying to make stuff work.

We try to make relationships work that no longer work. No matter how much work we put in, whenever we talk to that person, they don’t understand us. They don’t want to understand us and they’re constantly trying to prove their point.

And that’s what this date was the other night. She tried to prove her point right from the get go. Immediately, they weren’t getting along. So there was no point to move forward.

It’s called practicing abundance. Next time you have a date with a hot girl and you don’t get along with her, stop trying to make it work. On that very first date, it’s not going to get any easier, I’ll tell you that.

Here’s a good analogy. As you’re sitting across from your hot woman who is giving you nothing but a hard time, I want you to Google this.

Ice castle.

I want you to watch people that chip away at ice and how long it takes to turn a block of ice into a beautiful castle.

Even after they chip away at this ice and turn it into a beautiful castle for an event, what happens to the castle afterwards is that it melts and vanishes. You don’t need to work that hard to chip away at another human being. Sometimes you have to let the ice princess go.

No matter how much you chip away, she’s never going to melt into you. She’s just going to melt back into the universe. You could chip away all night long. You could finally get her to look like a beautiful princess in a beautiful castle, but she will melt, and refreeze again.

You’ll have to work too hard to chip away at her again. That’s why you need to practice abundance. There’s no reason to keep chipping and chipping and chipping. Unless of course you think you can sculpt another human being, which we can’t. We can never sculpt anybody else. We can only sculpt ourselves. We can only chip away at ourselves.

Remember that next time you’re frustrated on a date that just isn’t going anywhere. It wasn’t supposed to go anywhere. Practice abundance.