Whether it’s approaching a woman, talking about sex on your date, or just jumping out of an airplane with no parachute, today is all about getting out of your comfort zone. I talk about this a lot. Every single day is an opportunity to put this into practice.  The most successful people are the ones willing to push themselves outside of their comfort zone.

If you live each day to its fullest, you’ll never fear what you don’t achieve because you will always be full. 

Think about that statement. Everyday, we have lists, things that we want to accomplish.  Everyday we’re trying to cross items off of our ever growing to do list. We have long-term goals and short-term goals but everything needs to get done. But what we end up doing is allowing fear to get the best of us.

When you live life to it’s fullest, you’ll never fear what you don’t achieve because you’ll always be full. You will have no fears. When life’s challenges arise you’ll be there to greet them. When you see a beautiful woman walking down the street you’ll approach her, because you’re seizing the day. When you’re invited to some networking event with heavy hitters you’ll walk in confident and ready to make some moves.

You can go on a date and instead of trying to impress her, you’ll be trying to make a connection. When you get out of your comfort zone, you’re living your life to it’s fullest. You’ll never fear what you don’t achieve because you’ll always be full. 

You’ll push yourself to the max every day. That’s getting out of the comfort zone. You see we have this ridiculous list of things that we want to do. Guys come to me and say:

I want to approach 50 women a day.

But they haven’t approached 50 women in a year.

I want to go on 10 dates a month.

They haven’t been on a date in the last ten years.

In a month I want to have a serious girlfriend.

They haven’t had a girlfriend in three years. Here’s what you need to do, in order to achieve long term goals, you need to eliminate fear from your diet. You need to learn the difference between real fear and fake fear. Real fear is that you’re swimming 50 yards off shore in the ocean.  The beach is kind of quiet that day so you decided to take a day off work.

You’re lulled into this great buzz, the sun setting down feeling the warmth on your body and then all the sudden, you see a big fin coming towards you.  You look around and you think to yourself, there’s nobody else around you. This shark is coming directly at you.

There’s no way to cry for help, there’s no other swimmers that the shark can eat.  You’re this great white shark’s next meal. You realize it’s only a matter of time before you either have a fistfight with this shark or you become eaten and another statistic.

Now, we all know the scenario will probably never happen, but that’s what fear is.  Fear is real things that scare the shit out of you. You’re on an airplane, the pilot says:

We have engine trouble right now.  We’re looking for a place to land.

Fear. Real fear. You have no control over either one of those situations. If the plane lands, it’s up to the pilot.  If a shark decides to swim by you and not take a bite, it’s up to the shark. There’s really nothing you can do in either situation.

But let’s say you see a beautiful woman at the car wash on a Tuesday afternoon. You want to talk to her but your palms are sweaty you start thinking about her reaction to your looks and what you’ll say. You’re shaking and finally you decide it’s just not worth it.

That’s fake fear. You decided how she felt, what she would say and determined that you weren’t good enough for her. You created a fear, because that beautiful woman is just another human being. You don’t know her or what she thinks of you. You need to push yourself out of your comfort zone.

Do something everyday to prove to yourself that you have what it takes to survive what you once feared. Check out today’s video. Start living life outside of your comfort zone. Start living a life without fear.