So you went on a date with a girl.

Had a little too much to drink.

The two of you had fun.

She ended up back in your place, and she slept with you.

It was only your second date.

She didn’t intend to go out and sleep with you that night, but it just happened.

You get all excited. You think to yourself, “Great. The floodgates are open. Now we’re going to have regular sex over and over again.”

She’s okay that she slept with you that night, but the next morning, she now thinks to herself that you’re not going to take her seriously in a relationship.

It’s what I call “women’s guilt”.

She’s going to tell her friends what happened, they’re going to advise her that she slept with you too quickly, and—my friend—that’s it for you.

It doesn’t help that you play right into her fear.

As a man, you’re going to text her the next day or at least call her and do the right thing. But when a woman sleeps with you too quickly, you need to make sure that you’ve called her by the end of the day.

You don’t need to talk about how hot the night was or how great the sex was, but just tell her how great it was to be with her in the morning or to have her stay over.

A lot of guys won’t even text. They’ll just wait a few days. They’ll play it cool and then you’ve really lost her at that point.

But here’s another reason why you end up losing her:

A lot of guys will go into sexual talk too fast.  Immediately they’ll start talking sex with her.  They figure, “Hey, now that she’s slept with me, we can just get sexual over and over again without the build up.”

And that’s playing into her fears; it’s playing into the fact that now she thinks all you want is sex, and exactly what you shouldn’t be doing.

When a woman stays over that quickly, sleeps with you that quickly, you’ve got to make sure that your follow-up calls and texts are all about something fun to do with her.

Maybe she wants to see the new movie that’s out.  Take her to that.

Maybe she’s been talking about a restaurant she wanted to go try out.  Go there.

Maybe she talks about a football game she wanted to go see if you’re lucky enough to have a football fan for a girlfriend.  Take her there.

Take her out on dates.  Continue to take her out on dates and don’t talk about the sex, because if you continue to take her out on dates, then she will feel comfortable and the sex will be even better.

You’ll have even more of it.

But that’s the number one mistake most guys make.  Most guys just go into the sexual mode. In reality, she still wants to be in date mode, because she slept with you a little too quickly.

So make her feel comfortable, and the sex will come.