This blog article, or whatever you want to call it, may be really tough for you to swallow.
First off, I want to make all of you realize that the word loser — if it does relate to you — is not a knock on you at all. As a matter of fact, we all suffer from loser mentality from time to time.
So if you feel these words, and these words resonate with you, and you feel like I’m being too hard on you, just remember that everything I write, I’ve experienced myself. So I know what it’s like to have loser mentality. I know what it’s like to be beaten up by somebody emotionally.
Not physically, because physically I can kick people’s ass, and I’m not worried about that.
But emotionally, to me being ass-kicked emotionally is the hardest thing to deal with. Especially when you’re dealing with somebody who, well, is not on your level.
What do I mean, lose mentality?
When you’re kicked around emotionally, you have loser mentality. You don’t feel good about yourself. So nothing seems to flow in your life. The things you used to be able to accomplish, kick ass in, you’re not able to accomplish and kick ass at all anymore.
The money you used to make doesn’t seem to be flowing in at all.
Each month you spiral a little more out of control, and you start to feel powerless in all aspects of your life.
You’re frustrated at times.
You’re angry at yourself. You judge yourself harder than you used to judge yourself. You get pissed at yourself. You don’t even feel like yourself. As a matter of fact, you don’t even feel great about breathing every single day.
You’ve got loser mentality.
And having a loser mentality is tough. But you see, loser mentality is fear-based. In order to get loser mentality you got to have a weakened moment. But a lot of time, you’re around somebody who brings you down.
When you’re around somebody who brings you down, you get down.
You see, everybody in life makes two choices: to be a winner or a loser.
A winner sees life from all different sides, different angles, and really hears people.
A winner stays very present in the moment, because you can’t win when you’re thinking about the past or forecasting the future.
The only way you’re going to win is to be your best in the present moment. To listen to what life brings you. To listen to what lessons are presented, to experience what needs to be experienced in that moment. If you’re thinking of future, you’re not in the moment. If you’re thinking of the past, you’re somewhere else.
Losers… well, they live in fear.
Everything about them is fear-based.
They need to control everything. They don’t know how to let go. I’ve been with some women that have loser mentality, and I’ll have sex with them, and their orgasms are fully controlled. As a matter of fact, sometimes you can go down on a woman like that, 45 minutes later, she still hasn’t come, and you think to yourself, “what the fuck!?”
But it’s really loser mentality. She’s in control. People who are fearful need control, and that is the loser mentality. The loser mentality is that things need to be done every single way that you want them done, because if they’re not done that way, well, then you lose control.
Your kids. You manipulate the shit out of them without them even knowing they’re manipulated.
But your kids are fully manipulated, and on the surface you appear to be this amazing, well put-together parent. But in reality you’ve manipulated the shit out of your kids. So they fear you. But you don’t do it with anger or hate, you do it with just the right amount of over-loving, if there ever was such a thing (there is).
You over-love because you’re fearful. Because if the child doesn’t obey you, then the child is going to actually leave you.
Losers are always afraid of being vulnerable like that, afraid of taking chances. Afraid that people are going to leave them.
Winners don’t feel like that at all.
You can’t argue with somebody who has loser mentality at all.
Because if you do, you’re going down to their level. And when you go down to their level, you’re taking your energy and you’re sucking it out. And all the amazing things that you could create aren’t going to be created at all.
As a matter of fact, if you’re going to go down to their level, you might as well pack it in right now.
The loser mentality is brutal. It really is, because it brings you down to a level where you can’t be your strongest self. You have one choice: kick the losers out of your life, or never get to be or feel what is it to be a winner.