I get this question all the time in my inbox:
“I’ve got a date and I want to escalate sexually with her. What should I do?”
So many guys always wonder what to do at the end of a first date.
Do you kiss her?
Do you invite her back to your house?
Do you make a move on her?
Do you try to sleep with her?
I always like to play it safe, and I’m going to let you know why.
If I’ve got off the charts sexual chemistry with a woman, I know it’s also going to be there the next day. So I’m going to resist all urges to invite her back to my house for a couple of reasons.
Reason #1: I want her to feel safe. Because women want to feel safe, they want to feel secure, they want to feel that they’re with a man that understands a woman’s needs, wants, and desires.
Reason #2: I want her to know that I have self-control. The reason why women love men that are in control is because then they will presume that he’s actually a pretty good lover. A lot of men are one-pump minute-men or three-minutes-and-under guys.
Show her that you’re not that guy.
Reason #3: I want to trigger the switch inside her female brain that lets her know that she’s with a patient man. The man that slowly seduces her from date number one is the man that slowly gets her burning for him.
The dude that’s trying to make out with her at the end of the first date, grabbing her ass, trying to bring her back to his house, is usually the guy that’s worse off in bed.
So, when you’re on that first date, and you do want to kiss her at the end, I always say that a simple kiss on the lips, looking directly into her eyes, pulling back, looking into her eyes some more, and then maybe another quick kiss on the lips–that’s how to make her think about you for the rest of the night and into the morning.
It’s seduction, guys, and most men don’t understand the principle behind it. They always think that they need to have a heavy make out session, grab her hand, touch her ass, or whatever it might be.
But a simple kiss and the eye contact afterwards shows her that you’re a strong, powerful, confident guy that knows how to seduce women.