You know, I was thinking.

Lately, I’ve been having a lot of insomnia.

Not being able to turn my mind off at night, no matter how hard I try.

Usually, when I go through this period, it always passes.

I never have trouble really going to sleep. It’ll take me 15, 20 minutes, but no big deal.

So as I was laying in bed, just percolating thoughts, I was thinking of what falling in love is all about.

I’ve written so many articles on love and relationships and dating and romance and sex.

Sometimes I think I must’ve already written this article at least 10 times, but then I also think, what if I wrote it nine or ten times before, but every time I wrote it, I was at a different stage in my life…

And by being in a different stage in my life, the articles come out different every single time?

You see, we evolve on a day-to-day basis. And if we truly would write down all our thoughts as they evolve and as we share them with other people, each experience in our life would grow more and more.

For instance, falling in love…

Let’s say, for instance, you fell in love for the first time when you were in high school.

That form of love was a puppy love.

It was sweet, it was innocent, it was new, it was exciting, but you really didn’t know what it was, but it was, at the time, it was love.

So you fell in love again in your 20s and let’s say you fell in love again in your 30s.

Let’s say right now you’re in 40s. And it really doesn’t matter what age you’re at. What really matters is that, as you progress through life, and as you fall more deeply in love with yourself, the next person you choose (and they choose you), you’ll fall in love more authentically.

Harder.

You’ll be more vulnerable than you’ve ever been in your entire life.

Because the journey and the magic of falling in love is actually a process that starts whenever a relationship ends.

Whenever a relationship ends, you process things, you learn your lessons, you respect yourself, you put yourself back together again.

And you truly love yourself like never before.

As you journey down that path of growing and learning who you are from that last experience, you start embracing a new you and when you embrace a new you, you’re able to create a much stronger, powerful you.

So the next time you fall in love…

It’s going to be something you’ve never experienced before. A feeling of, well, true letting go. Total trust, submission to another person.

Joining your soul, your mind, your body, and your spirit with that person.

And then feeling like anything is possible.

Because you found somebody who’s going to have your back.

Someone who’s going to watch out for you and somebody you can watch out for.

It is truly one of the most amazing feelings that we can experience as a human.

The soul mate connection.

I’m sure any time two souls connect, it’s definitely some karmic reason you’re both together.

But I believe when you’ve done a lot of work on yourself, when you’ve done the coaching, and the therapy, and the self-therapy as much as therapy with somebody else… when you go through your ups and downside and you realize that no matter what you do, you’re going to be okay.

It’s at that moment I truly believe that God,  the universe, whatever you may believe in, will finally deliver the person you’re supposed to be with. Only at that moment will that happen.

Because if you haven’t done the work on yourself and you haven’t truly looked yourself inside and out, then the universe will continue to bring you frustrating lessons.

Even when the universe brings you the most amazing gift, the person, the soul you’re meant to connect with. There’s still so many lessons in that that you know that you can tackle those lessons as they come up together and that’s the power of falling in love.

But I have one final tip to share with all of you.

If you don’t put down your phones…

If you don’t do the work on yourself…

The person you’re supposed to be with will be right in front of you, and you won’t even recognize them because you haven’t done the work and aren’t ready for them yet.

For the rest of you, you’re too busy looking at Instragram and Facebook, or texting someone who’s not even there…

Imagine missing your moments because of some silly post somebody put up on Facebook, or a friend that texted you a picture of the food they just ate.

You don’t want to miss your chance.