You've got to destroy the part of you that you hold most sacred: your beliefs. You've got to be willing to change, willing to learn, willing to listen...
Here’s a novel idea: take a stick of dynamite, stick it up your ass and blow your ass up.
What exactly would that accomplish? Well, it would accomplish a couple of things.
First and foremost, it would probably blow up all the stupid things and the ideologies that you think are true and force you to stop making an ass of yourself and really learn what you need to do.
Got your attention now? Good.
Now let’s get down to the nitty gritty.
In order to be a better version of yourself, you’ve got to really look at your own beliefs.
And you’ve got to think to yourself, these beliefs are great because I believe them.
They got me where I am now.
So I’m just going to continue with these beliefs for the rest of my life.
Let’s say, for instance, you’re a 38 year old man.
You’ve figured out what works for you and what doesn’t work for you.
So let’s say you want to live until 80. Now, you’re going to take those beliefs that you have, which are working at 38, and for the next 42 fucking years of your life, you’re going to keep the same beliefs.
Just because those beliefs have worked for the past 38 years of your life.
Think about the lunacy of that.
You see, it took you 38 years to come to some type of conclusion that the beliefs that you have are actually working for you. Because if you look at your life, the same beliefs weren’t working for you at 25, because at 25 you had another set of beliefs.
And yet, a lot of the times I’ll have discussions with people and they’ll tell me literally right to my face:
“Well, these beliefs work for me, this is perfect the way it works for me. My life is really working really well right now. It took me all this work to get to where I am right now so I need to stay on this path right now.”
Well that’s really ridiculous. Because that means your life would stop at well, the random age of 38.
That means your mind set, your growth, your beliefs would all stop at 38 years old.
You would basically be the most immature 70 year old because you would still have the mind set of a 38 year old, because somewhere in your crazed mind you finally figured out a way to make things work. And you figured, this is how it’s supposed to be.
When in reality, every single day life is meant to change.
There’s going to be somebody who is going to come along in your life…
It could be a lover.
It could be a best friend.
It could be a boss, it could be an employee, it could be just a random stranger. They’re going to come along and they’re going to challenge your beliefs.
They’re going to look at you and they’re going to say, you know what? I can challenge that belief system you have right now and I can give you proof of why that belief system may or may not be good for you at the age you’re at right now.
Isn’t that what life is about?
Having your beliefs challenged on a regular basis so you’re able to form new beliefs, stronger beliefs, more mature beliefs, more involved beliefs.
So… why are so many people so stagnant in their beliefs?
You see, you can’t build a better mind, a better body, a better soul at all, unless you challenge your own beliefs and assumptions.
Case in point: let’s take the same 38 year old person.
The same 38 year old person has been working out a certain way their entire life (I’m using a workout as a good analogy right here).
The problem is, the workouts aren’t working out the exact way they used to work out. It seems like, no matter how hard they’re working out, doing the same workout that they thought was perfect for their body for the last 10 years, they’re still gaining a significant amount of weight.
They don’t understand. They just assume that something must be wrong.
But they believe that this is the workout for them. So they continue doing it and doing it and doing it.
But in reality, their body is no longer responding. Their body now is 38, their body doesn’t respond to the same workout that they did when their metabolism was kicking at a high cocaine speed of 28.
So now, their beliefs are all wrong. Their assumptions are wrong.
They need to change their workout in order to work out properly for someone who is 38 years old.
Let’s take for instance, Joe. Joe is 45. He’s always been able to drink beer and eat pizza before he went to bed at night.
It’s been his ritual since college. He was always that guy who never seemed to gain weight. It didn’t matter how much pizza or beer he had, he was fine.
Now, all of a sudden, the last couple years, Joe’s noticing something. He’s getting a little pillow that was replacing his six pack. Joe misses his six pack so much that he’s wondering what he needs to do. So instead of eliminating the pizza and beer, Joe just works out a little bit more.
But for some reason or another, he seems to gaining weight everywhere now.
The assumption always was that pizza and beer were good for Joe, but…
Turns out that assumption is now wrong. His beliefs are outdated. He needs a new set of beliefs.
I want what I thought was good for me to be challenged.
I like to be challenged. I enjoy it. Every day I walk around and talk to people and I’m looking for new answers, new ways to think, new ways to be.
It doesn’t mean that what I believe in is wrong, because it has worked for me to a certain point.
But, I want to be challenged. It’s so important for me to be challenged, to be able to formulate new ways of thinking, new ways of being, new ways of becoming.
Otherwise, you might as well put my name on a gravestone right now, because to me, a great love relationship…
A great friend relationship…
A great business relationship…
Will always be challenging you to think outside not only your beliefs, but you comfort zone.
So, here’s my suggestion for you.
Try something out for 30 days. Try it out for 45 days. Maybe it’s a new workout routine.
Maybe it’s a new way of handling stress.
Maybe it’s a new way of talking to your kids.
Maybe it’s a new way of, well, eating breakfast in the morning, I don’t know what it is.
There’s a list of things we can make.
But if someone is in your life and loves you for who you are, and loves you for the great person you are, let them push you a little bit out of your belief zone.
Let them push you and challenge those beliefs and the assumptions you have about things, and see whether or not they can take you down a different road that actually might be even more beneficial than the road you’re on right now.
Life is one long journey, one amazing drive, one amazing long road. Sometimes it’s good to take a pit stop and go to a different McDonald’s than you’ve ever been before.
Because in reality, that’s the reason why someone’s in your life to begin with.
To bring you to a whole next level, and that’s how I like to live.
I like to go for the next level of David.
Why not? Challenge my beliefs.
As strong as I might think about something, someone might come to me and give me a perspective I’ve never thought before, and I’d be a fool not to try it out.