Let’s talk about what I call the peaks and valleys of dating men.
You met a great guy. Alright? Let’s say hypothetically.
He’s really attentive and great. His actions actually match his words.
You have amazing sex. We’re talking about toe-tingling, incredible waves of orgasmic pleasure that just make you want to be with this guy forever and ever and ever.
You fall in love with him. He falls in love with you.
At night, he’s warm and mushy and loving and affectionate.
During sex, he’s loving and speaks his emotions and vulnerable feelings.
But in the morning, it sometimes feels like you’ve woken up, well, to a totally different world.
He’s not as warm and loving.
As a matter of fact, the “I love yous” don’t really happen during the day. They happen more at night, and it’s really confusing to you as a woman, because you’re so emotionally based and the I love yous are flowing non-stop from your heart through your soul to your mind and into your mouth. But yet he, well, he only seems to get truly vulnerable at night, during sex and after sex. What is going on?
Well, I’m going to explain it to you. You see, during the day men go into gladiator mode.
We’re not really in mushy mode. We’re in conquer the world mode.
We want to conquer the world. We want to make our money. We want to get shit done. We’re not in mush mode at all. It’s not that we don’t love you. It’s not that we don’t feel the same way from the night before.
It’s just that we really, truly are in taking over the world mode. And that mode is really, really important to us. If we walked around as emotional mushes 24/7, we certainly would not do well in our business meetings. We’d sit there all doe-eyed, and a guy would confront us on something that we needed to be confronted in, and we were trying to close a deal and instead of looking at him and calling him out on his shit like we should.
We’d get all warm and mushy and tell him don’t worry about it, I don’t need to do business with you. I love you!
So you see, when we’re going to battle, we’re going to battle every single day.
It’s how we are.
It’s not that we forget about our feelings for you at all. As a matter of fact, we feel great, so we’re going into battle being even stronger than we were before, even more masculine, even more powerful, even more amazing. Why?
Because we have the night that we had with you. So, don’t get all bent out of shape, don’t overanalyze anything.
If your man is continually sharing his emotions and feelings in vulnerable times, which are vulnerable for a man, night time, weekends together and so forth, it’s okay. Don’t expect him to send emojicons.
Don’t expect him to say I love you all day long.
Let your man go into battle. He needs it.
Let him flex his testosterone.
Let him use the energy that you two exchanged the night before when you made love, so he’s stronger in battle than he’s ever been before. And don’t expect him to stay mushy all day. He’s got to slay dragons, make money, conquer the world. And that takes a whole different side of him.
Remember, most men are not great multi-taskers at all, so feel what they feel. They just can’t multi-task being mushy and strong at the same time.