The other night I was out with a new woman friend. Is she a friend or is she a potential lover?

It’s interesting when you try and figure out what someone is going to be in your life. It’s also really exciting, because you really don’t know what this new person is going to be in your life.

Are they going to be your next lover?
Are they going to be your next relationship?
Are they going to be just a booty call? or…
Are they going to be an amazing friend that you’ll have forever and ever?

Yes, men and women CAN be friends. In When Harry Met Sally… they became friends, they tried to be lovers, and then became a relationship.

When I was on the beach in Venice with my new woman friend, she and I had a conversation about people we’ve hung with, and she started telling me about a lover she’d had. I responded: “A lover? Do you mean a lover or a booty call?” Then she shared with me something really interesting that men need to know.

There’s a huge difference in a woman’s eyes between a lover and a booty call.

A booty call is…

1) …a man that a woman will sleep with based upon pure sexual desire and curiosity.

2) …a man who may be a once a week Friday night hookup…after a woman’s already been out to dinner with her friends.

3) …somebody with whom you never share a meal…you just share bodily fluids.

4) In a woman’s eyes, a booty call is the person she’s going to call when she can’t find what she’s looking for and she needs some good sex.

That’s what a booty call is.

A lover is…

1) …a man with whom a woman can actually go out on a date.

2) …a man with whom a woman can not only have sex, but with whom she can make love.

3) …a make believe boyfriend. He’s a guy with whom a woman can do a lot of things, but with whom she can’t have a relationship. So, he’s a substitute boyfriend until the real one comes along.

4) …a lover tends to be pushed aside when a woman meets someone new, so she can give her time and effort to the new guy. She will reconnect with the lover, however, when this new guy fails to impress her and she ‘s looking to feel close to somebody safe. A lover will totally disappear when a woman finds a full-blown relationship.

There’s a huge difference in women’s eyes between a lover and a booty call. A lover is a guy a woman likes, respects, whose company a woman enjoys, but with whom she just doesn’t have the “it” factor. A booty call is just a toy that a woman can use to feel connected with a man, instead of with a vibrator.

So why am I sharing all this with you? It’s really important when dating women, that you understand how they think. The more you understand how a woman thinks, the more open and honest you can be and the more free they can be. If you’re open an honest with a woman from the get go and you tell her where you are in your life – whether you’re looking for a booty call, a relationship or a lover – she will not only respect you, but she will also be honest with you about what she wants. So don’t lead somebody on – be honest from the beginning. You will yield greater results in your connection with women.