Is She Really “Down To Earth?”
I was helping a client out the other day with his online dating. As I was reading through the women’s profiles, I noticed a lot of the women described themselves as being “down to earth.”
I’m down to earth. What exactly does that mean?
Does that mean that they walk around with dirt on them 24/7? Does that mean that they like to roll around on the ground so that they can be really close to the Earth? Does that mean that they like to cover themselves with sand when they go to the beach so that they can feel the Earth?
Down to earth. I love that term. It seems to be the most abused term on Internet dating sites. Everybody puts it in their profile, especially women.
Do you know what I think when someone says in her profile that she’s “down to earth?” I think, “Glad that you’re down to earth. That sounds like a lot of fun. So when a picks you up, should he bring a shovel and a pail and a hoe, and be ready to do some gardening?”
Is that term supposed to mean that you’re real? I think sometimes we use generic terms to describe ourselves and it leaves things “iffy.” I mean, if every other person online describes themselves as “down to earth,” does that mean that 50% of these people are exactly the same? I think we need clarification for this term — down to earth.
A related term I also saw way too much on women’s profiles was the description, “I am real.” Really? I’m so glad you told me, because I thought you were a zombie or a robot.
I don’t get it when people write, “I’m a real person.” Everyone is a real person. Is that really the way you describe yourself, as a ‘real person?’ Well, great. Now I feel like I REALLY know you.
Another thing people say is, “I’m easy going.” Really? About everything or just about certain things, because no one is easy going about everything. There is always a trigger point on something for everyone.
When it comes to online online, I think people need to stop using all these cliches to describe themselves. It doesn’t tell people anything about you. Plus, when you look at fifty profiles and you describe yourself the exact same way 25 other people do, how are you ever going to stand out?
Down to earth = not passionate about anything; generally boring; believe that colloquial knowledge is more important and respectful than technical knowledge or less popular views.
Easy going = slightly disingenuous; inexpressive; passive and avoiding to learn new things, resulting in becoming increasingly a loser over time.
coach jacob. life is not like a box of cholcolates, more like a jar of japalano’s. what you do today might burn your ass tomorrow..
Both my brother and one of my best friends Married huge chicks that told them that they were into hiking and camping. You guys really fall for that, don’t you? ‘I like hiking and camping’ is the fem ‘I like long walks on the beach’. Even if I lived in a cabin in the woods and hiked a mile a day to shoot my dinner, I would NOT put “I like hiking and camping” in my profile.
David, sometimes you have some great advice but in this case you are really grasping. Down-to-earth is a common english phrase that most people understand.
(doun’tū-ûrth’, -tə-)
adj.
Realistic; sensible.
Not pretentious or affected; straightforward.
Not overly ornate; simple in style.
@coach jacob: A woman who actually has to state in her profile “I’m drama free” – might as well have a huge flashing lightbulb on the top of her head which reads “I’m all about drama, that I have to convince you that I’m not”. =P
Hot Alpha Female
Other common terms are
-I’m friendly (they are not even smiling in their profile picture)
-I have a great sense of humour (but their profile is boring as bat shit)
-I’m a nice guy (who actually advertises that?!)
I think the most effective way to create an awesome online profile, is to communicate those traits in the way you put your profile together, or just avoid these cliche lines all together.
Say something interesting about yourself, things you actually enjoy and make your profile funny – using your own sense of humour.
Hot Alpha Female
Whenever I read a profile that says something like ” I’m funny” or “I’m sarcastic” or even “I have a great sense of humor” I think to myself , is this how you would present yourself in real life? Ya think someone that is funny/sarcastic would TELL you or SHOW you??
Tell me that you farted in the elevator this morning and then rolled your eyes at the guy beside you! Tell me the story about how you had to wake the guy taking donations for the salvation army at the grocery store?
I love it when a profile speaks to me, as if we are engaged in a conversation.
It means she just landed here from another planet.
hey coach Jacob ,what do you think I should with my situation?
Down to Earth always meant to me that they are not in the clouds. Pretty good trait if you don’t like long distance relationships and women who weigh less than a potato chip.
Women also like to say “I”m fun” Really? I was sitting there thinkin she was boring…
it probably means “I’m not shaved”.
KJK I would say that you should bring the thank you letter and give it to her personally if she is there when you visit, but I’d advise you not to ask her out unless you two were getting close and you KNOW that she is into you, otherwise it would be awkward and she would just end up telling all her coworkers about what you did and laugh(I’m a nurse myself so I would know what it’s like)
Like Forget Gump says, life is like a box of chocolate, you never know what you’re gonna get:)
Mike
I’ve met few women who mentioned in their profile “I’m drama free,” but she was completely the opposite when I met her in person:) You know never know what you gonna get at online dating.
Clint
The hot body is tempting right?
Even though there is no chemistry:)
Jimmy
The key is storytelling! You got that right!
Are you on match or did you change?
KJK. I see nothing wrong with thanking her in person (maybe hand her a little “thank you card”), telling her what a great lady she was, and how helpfull she has been to you, during your Grandma’s illness, and saying you would like to get to know her better. I would think she would be flattered (whether or not she goes out with you), and it would be totally appropriate. Best of luck. Bob
thanks for the great tips, i know in my current profile i have all these adjectives about myself which i got to change to more details.
i am def. don’t want to be like 25 other guys she has viewed in one day.
I see what you’re saying Farley and I can think of few situations I was involved in like that. Sometimes I felt compelled to push forward b/c she was hot but I knew that there was no chemistry and time just wasn’t right for us yet.
I also have read many times from women, “I’m drama free”. Like men, many women don’t know how to express themselves in writing in order to catch someone’s eye. It seems like many of them read their competition and put down the same thing which would explain many of the “down-to-earth” quotes found on these dating sites.
Usually when I see many with the similar quotes like down-to-earth, I generally will ask women what does that mean. I try to have fun with it, but often times get bored reading many similar profiles that don’t stand out, or another words don’t reveal something unique about themselves that I might be interested in!
David, don’t forget about “I’m not your average girl,” or “I’m not your typical girl.” Those come up lot lol.
okay guys been a long time since I left a comment.This will be off topic.just need advice and opinions from other people.
Where to begin um ,my grandma just past a way on friday morning.When I was at the hospital I found one of the nurses attractive.I am going to give a card to say thank you for the people that took care of my grandma at the hospital.
my question is should I personally thank her and would it be a good idea to ask her out.
I like to hear all your opinions on what to do.
thanks,kjk
Clint,
It was more of a chemistry thing. It just didn’t click for the “more then friends” direction.
Also good blog topic and love the picture David:)
Farley, why weren’t you interested in that girl? Was it a physical thing?
When I say I’m real, what I mean by that is,
I will tell you what you need to hear,not what you want. I try to be as honest as possible with everyone when the time comes to be serious, even though it is hard sometimes.
I recently told a girl I was not interested in her more than just friends. I told her she is a cool person and I know I can learn allot from her, so I would appreciate the friendship.
She was kind of upset, but she appreciated my honesty.
If everyone had the guts to be honest with someone and tell them like it is, no one would be frustrated.
When I say I’m down to earth, basically I mean I’m a comfortable person to be around and have fun with, I don’t like drama, etc..
When I say I’m easy going, basically I mean I tolerate allot, but I will not let you walk all over me. I have my bondaries.