Man, am I a cuddler.

I truly love cuddling.

It’s just about one of my favorite pastimes. It’s so bonding, feels so good, and it’s such a good way to connect — and reconnect — with your partner.

But there are 3 things you must know about your partner in order to be an amazing snuggler:

1. Their limitations.

We all have a snuggle limitation, and we all have a definition of what good snuggling is. Some people just can’t be on top of somebody all the time. Sometimes they just need their personal space.

So when you’re watching television, you have to know: how long is your partner into the snuggle? Are they a five minute snuggler? Are they an hour snugger? Are they a three hour snugger?

I could snuggle all night long in the sofa . That’s who I am. But I’ve been with people who are not like that. So you need to know that from the get-go. Because if snuggling and cuddling is important to you, then you need to know the style of cuddling and snuggling your partner is all about. Which leads us to:

2. The cuddling spoon.

I love spooning a woman to sleep, but I have my limitations. I can’t fall asleep unless I’m on my back first. I need to be on my back before I flip to the side — the side that’s going to be make me feel more comfortable. And I need to reposition my body in seventeen different ways so I am entirely comfortable when I go to sleep.

It’s a process that I do. So I need to snuggle with somebody, but I can only do it for a certain amount of time before I need to get back on my back — to literally put myself to sleep. So to me, I can snuggle. But then I need to lay flat. And during the lay flat stage, I can hold hands, I can be pressed up next to them. I can have feet touching.

I’m definitely that type of snuggler.

There are some people that want to spoon and touch and hold all night. There’s some people that can’t stand spooning at all, and they need to just be on the other side of the bed. Which leads us to:

3. If you’re a thrasher, a turner, a snorer, or anything else, you might need to sleep in another room.

So you need to know the style of how long the person that you’re with can actually relate, snuggle, and cuddle with you.

We all have a unique cuddling space when I’m laying in bed, so I have a foot and leg toucher through most of the night, and then I like to come together and snuggle in the morning again. And get those feeling her beautiful, warm, sexy body next to mine. You might be with somebody who likes to get up like a drill sergeant — immediately, the second the alarm goes off, and literally leave you in bed, having snuggle withdrawals. Once again, conversations that need to be had when you’re dating somebody. You need to define what type of snuggler you are, and you need to define what type of snuggler you want to be with. And you need to have the snuggle conversation.