How to Move from the Friend Zone to the Sex Zone
Every day, I get a friend zone e-mail in my inbox.
I did a podcast on the friend-zone—I figure that covered all your answers.
I’ve got a product called Getting out of the Friend Zone.
But, I still get countless e-mails from you guys asking what to do.
Like today for instance:
David, I’ve got this friend that I like.
I’m thinking of asking her out. My heart is saying that I should do it, so that’s what I’m going to do.
But I wanted to ask you, is there any way to ease in the question? Or do I just man up, ask her, and hope for the best? Anyway, thanks again.
Here’s the deal:
Do you need to learn what color the sky will be tomorrow?
No, it’ll be blue, again, which is to say: Just fucking just do it man.
There are endless possibilities out there, so don’t even think about what she’s going to do or what you’re going to do…just do it.
There’s no way to ease into the conversation.
Take a look at the girl you’re friends with, really look at her and say, “Hey, I got feelings for you, I want to take you out and get to know you, let’s do it.”
Or, look at her and say, “Hey, I’d like to take you out on a date not a friend date, but a regular date.”
There are no magical words. It doesn’t matter what you say because either the feeling is there for her or not.
And, that’s what a lot of you guys don’t get and don’t understand.
You think that there has to be some magical word or phrase you’re going to use that will convince her to change the way she thinks about you—instantly—but in reality, either the feelings are there for you right now or they’re not.
So, it doesn’t really matter what you say.
Not only that, but when you finally do it, you’ll stop obsessing about her. You’ll find out whether or not she was attracted to you, whether or not she wants to go out with you, and then you can proceed onward.
You’ll either stay in the friend-zone…
…Or you’ll enter the bump-and-grind zone.
Or maybe you’ll be in the boyfriend/girlfriend-zone.
But the bottom line is: just do it, get it out of the way and stop thinking.
Every day you waste thinking about a woman that you’re in the friend-zone with is another day that you can be humping the hell out of her or meeting other great quality women that don’t want to be in any zone with you except the hump zone.