How does a man fall in love with a woman?

It really is pretty simple.

It goes a little something like this…

Boy meets girl.

Modern boy texts modern girl.

Modern girl texts modern boy back.

Modern boy arranges a date.

Modern girl texts modern boy when she gets home from the date.

Modern boy texts her goodnight.

Modern boy wakes up the next morning and tells her what a wonderful time he had.

Modern girl texts back.

Modern girl makes herself available to modern boy.

Modern girl doesn’t have outlandish plans seven nights a week. The modern girl lets the modern boy know that she’s free.

Modern girl doesn’t decide to play hard to get.

Modern girl doesn’t decide to flake. She’s not busy for the sake of being busy.

They flow.

They have conversations.

Modern boy and modern girl fool around. They don’t have sex yet.

They’re still getting to know one another.

And then all of a sudden, after dating for a while, modern boy and modern girl seemingly fall in love.

What is it about this modern girl that this modern boy really loves more than any other girl?

She flattered him.

She validated him.

She made him feel great about who he was.

She liked the things about him and encouraged him to be even better than he already is.

She didn’t criticize him.

She didn’t fit in a story about who she thought he was. She created a story about who he really is.

You see, falling in love is really not that difficult.

It’s just when modern boy and modern girl are able to get on the same page and really just enjoy the beauty of one another.

It’s the beauty that makes things so great.

Modern boy and modern girl usually getting in their own way over and over and over again. That’s the reason why relationships never seem to work out. It’s because modern boy and modern girl do not really treat each other as brand new individuals that they met for the very, very first time.

You see, modern boy is abundant, modern girl is abundant. So they get to know one another in that abundance. They get to know one another when it comes down to what love really is.

Love is an exploration. Exploring somebody new, exploring somebody brilliant, exploring somebody fantastic and not creating a story of what you want them to be… but creating a story of exactly who they are.

You see, there’s no reason to date somebody just for the sake of dating them. There’s no reason to date somebody for the sake of creating them.

The only way to find love, to fall in love, is to allow each other to be the person that they are. To validate one another each and every step of the way. When you validate each other each and every step of the way, life tends to work out.

That’s how old fashioned man and old fashioned woman got together. Modern boy and modern girl just forgot that simple fact.