I almost feel like we should channel the inner Shakespeare in all of us.

It used to be, “to be or not to be, that is the question.”

Nowadays, in the modern world of the swipes, and the e-mails, and texting that goes nowhere…

The new question that is plaguing modern dating is this”

To commit, or not to commit, that is the question.

You see, there used to be a time when boy meets girl.

Boy knows that he has never met a girl like that before.

Girl feels the exact same way.

Then going out to bars, restaurants.

Grocery stores, hoping for that serendipitous amazing moment.

They both dated people that just weren’t that spectacular at all.

And then, they met each other.

And they knew it! They knew it instantly, that this person was something special.

They felt it. They felt it in their bones. They felt it in their gut, and they felt it in their heart.

The boy, being the way that he used to be, called the girl up and arranged a date. They went out on a date, and immediately, it was an endless conversation. They knew that they wanted to know everything about each other.

They listened to each other’s stories.

They listened to each other’s experiences.

And they literally kept thanking the world for having the opportunity to finally meet that wonderful person.

What happened next? Well, the committed to each other immediately.

They were in!

They were appreciative that they actually met somebody, finally, after all the duds.

They were excited!

Sure, were there issues that needed to be brought up? Absolutely. Were there misunderstandings and differences? Sure. But they were committed to getting to know one another, because they realized, in their instinctual mind, their instinctual soul, their instinctual heart, that they met someone they’ve never met before, and they were fully embracing it.

Man, woman.

Boy, girl, committed to each other instantly.

They were in the relationship right away.

It’s how it really always used to happen.

There was no talk about, are we committed?

They just knew it right away. The words you used, they were mushy, and warm, and romantic from the get-go.

You were open, receptive and one the same page.

And now, modern dating.

Ugh!

Ugh!

Ugh!

This swiping is becoming repulsive, if you ask me.

You see, the magic that I just described above? It’s pretty damn wonderful, isn’t’ it?

But now, well, it’s a whole different story, because we have a paradox of choice that is going on. We have the illusion that there are so many people that are out there that we can meet.

It’s almost like — and I’ve said this 100 times — it’s like shopping on Amazon for men and women. The only thing that is missing is the customer reviews.

But we literally will go out with somebody right now. And what will we do?

Well, we’ll just look to see what is wrong with them first, because we have this illusion, through the world of swiping, that we can just find somebody better.

We will go out with them, but when we get home, we will check our little swipe in box to see who else might have appeared, because we think that we can find perfect.

We have this illusion, that there is just an endless supply of people, that we can literally go and meet, so why settle for the first one, or the 100th? Because eventually, we are going to find the one that we want, because isn’t that the way society is right now? We have been marketed to death, and we are under the illusion that we can always find the perfect situation, the perfect car, the perfect house, the perfect everything, and if not, then we can just keep going.

We have turned dating into a disposable society. We don’t really give a shit about each other’s feelings any more. As a matter of fact, all we want to do is just continue to perpetuate the illusion of choice that we think we have when it comes down to swiping for love.

It’s a complete illusion.