In life, we tend to try to protect ourselves all of the time with our egos. We spend so much time worrying about everything – someone didn’t text me back quickly enough, someone didn’t email me back yet, someone hasn’t called me back!
And then you meet someone who turns you on more than anyone you’ve met in a long time and they don’t respond to an email right away.
First of all, you have to start thinking to yourself, how many times have I gotten a lot of emails? And then you don’t check for a few hours and they just get buried. Or you read an email, you smile, but you’re in the middle of doing something else at work and can’t respond?
Shit happens. Stop standing on principle – you might miss a connection. Your ego gets in the way of so many great things.
If you meet someone and you have great chemistry, it’s worth it to lob in another text or email. You have to be willing to go the extra distance. If you don’t, you might miss out on something spectacular.
The reason why meeting people and dating is so difficult is because we make it that hard. Our egos get in the way all the time. We just don’t go the extra distance.
We say to ourselves, fuck her, man, she didn’t text me back, I’ll go find someone else!
Okay, great, go find someone else. But you thought she was spectacular before. Now you rationalize to yourself that she’s not that spectacular anymore – oh, I didn’t really like her that much anyway.
Yeah, you did! But you spend all of this time convincing yourself that you didn’t, just because she wounded you and you want to save face.
What are you saving face for? Lob in another email or text, or even call her up. She might say, “oh my god, I forgot to respond, I am so sorry, I got so busy at work.”
That ego kills you every time.