Dear David WygantI got an email from a woman today, who has basically wasted the last 5 years of her life on a guy she had never even met. I’ll share her story in a moment, and explain why long distance relationships online, are never worthwhile.

“Dear David,

I’ve been talking to this guy online for 5 years now. All we talk about is sex. I planned to have sex with him when we met and nothing more. He’s attractive but I’m not sure we connect. We finally met recently, but he made NO attempt to have sex with me. I stayed at his place with him for 5 nights and not once did he make a move.

We had a nice time together, but all he wanted to do was hold me. I’m wondering why this happened? What did I do to turn him off?

Love,

A Very Confused Girl!”

David Says…

Wow, you spend 5 years talking to a man online about nothing but sex. That must mean a ton of masturbation, or where did the release come after talking dirty for so long?

What a complete waste of time. You spent 5 years of your life flirting, getting naughty, talking about sex, and spending nights on your own with your vibrator. Look at all the time you’ve wasted. And that is time you’ll never get back again.

When you met him, he didn’t try anything on with you, because after 5 years of build-up he probably found he wasn’t attracted to you in person. He built up a fantasy of you in his mind, and when he finally decided to meet you, he couldn’t have been that attracted to you. If he wanted you physically there’s no reason he wouldn’t have jumped into bed with you after all that build up.

The thing you need to think about here is how much of a gentleman he was to you. A lot of guys out there would have just had sex with you anyway, just for the sake of it regardless of how attracted he was. They’d have sex with you, and then you’d never hear from them again!

I love the fact he didn’t have sex with you. It shows he actually has some integrity. He’s probably very settled as a man, wasn’t attracted to you in person, didn’t feel the energy, but wanted to have a good time and connect with you.

Ladies, don’t invest 5 years in anybody online. As far as I’m concerned, don’t even waste more than a week with someone online, because until you meet in person and feel each other’s energy, you have no idea whether you connect. You don’t know someone until you meet them. You have no idea who they really are until you meet them. Online dating can be a great way to meet guys, or it can be the greatest teasing game ever played. So stop letting guys tease you. If a guy is happy to talk dirty to you online, but isn’t making moves to meet then he’s either, married, dating someone else, lazy, or all of the above.

When you meet a man online there’s only one way to find out whether you’re going to have a connection, and that’s to get him offline as soon as you can!