In life, a man is a man, and a woman is a woman.

If you’ve ever stood by a stand—it could be a vegetable stand, fruit stand, or brownie stand, it could be in a hospital cafeteria, it could be at Whole Foods—there’s always an opportunity there to see a woman become indecisive.

Women are very indecisive in certain ways.

Think about when you’re going out with a woman, and you ask them, “Hey, what do you want for dinner?” They usually say, “What do you want?” They want you to make the decision.

We’re wired like we used to be, as cave men and cave women. We haven’t changed in our internal programming.

A woman wants a man to lead all the time. When a man leads, a woman is turned on. When a man is decisive, the indecisive woman is turned on. She wants you to be the leader.

So a great exercise is to go to a market, and just watch. Just stand by a stand of brownies, or cake, or pastries, and watch women look around.

Watch their eyes go from one brownie to the pastry to the muffin. They can’t make a decision. So, in that situation, you need to walk over to them and say this:

“I know.  It’s a tough choice, isn’t it?  It’s really hard, but what are you in the mood for? Do you want the chocolate? Do you want the coconut? Or is it the apple pie?”

Engage her a little bit. And then she’ll look at you and say:

“I don’t really know what I want…”

And that’s when you need to help her out.

Help her figure out what she wants because here’s the deal: On a very deep, subconscious level, she’s looking at you—without even realizing it—as a leader.

So much of life is very subconscious. You’ve helped her through this painful process of picking out a pastry to go with her lunch. And as simple a process as that was for you, she’s in awe—she’s looking at you as a real man.

In her eyes, you’re a man that takes control, a real leader, and this is what she wants in a mate.

Quick decision-making: it’s something that you’ve got to learn to do.

There are many characteristics of the attractive leader of men—this is just one of them.

Identify the attributes of the man that you want to be and slowly incorporate them into your personality and life.

Indecisive women everywhere are waiting.